My Clit is Too Short

Is it possible that a clit can be too short? Mine is never externally visible, even when I'm aroused... Also, I can masturbate to sort of a mild orgasm in the shower, using the full force of my showerhead's jets, but I've never been able to masturbate to orgasm using a vibrator or just my hands-- they just don't provide enough stimulation. This leads me to think that my clit's just too short to make it out of me enough to to be able to receive any stimulation. What can I do about this? I'm a virgin, and I worry that if I don't figure out how to orgasm by myself, I won't be able to come when I do finally have sex with my partner.

Thank you very much.

Dear R,

There is no such thing as a clit that's too short. You have become accustomed to very strong simulation from your showerhead jets. Time to start practicing sex on dry land. Go to "First Time Orgasm" and read my suggested steps. Get my book "Sex for One", a bottle of massage oil and a battery vibrator like Heartbreaker. This is all available from my Sex Shop. Also read the info under Betty's Barbell and start using your pelvic floor muscles. Spend at least 30 min or more practing a new masturbation technique and then finish off with "old faithful" with less water pressure. Most important is to STOP worrying and start enjoying yourself. Masturbating is fun, it's not a test that you will be graded on. Lighten up and laugh, breathe, dance and sing!

Dr. Betty