How Can I Orgasm During Sex? Afraid I'll Fart or Pee.

Hello, I am super embarrassed to even ask this, but ok I am 20 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 16, and I have had 7 partners and still none of them have been able to give me an orgasm, I have had plenty orgasms through the clitoris through masturbation, but never have I been able to reach one during intercourse through my g spot. I think I am just scared and do not let it happen, but I am sooo sexually frustrated. I have three fears the first one is that i will pee, the second that I would fart, or the third even worse that i will release feces. I do not understand if it is because of the contraction of the muscles but when I start feeling like I am getting close, I immediately tell my partner to stop and finish himself, and I get nothing. It's been like this for 4 years going on 5. What can I do to help myself find the release?

Dear Super Embarrassed,

Avail yourself of my books, DVD's and website. How you stimulate your clitoris during masturbation is what you need to do when you are having intercourse. Forget about your G-spot and coming from fucking. As you see, it doesn't work. Only a small number of women have that capability so why should the majority of us conform to the few who claim they can come that way?

Either one of my books "Sex for One" or "Orgasms for Two" would be perfect for you to read right now. Check out my info under Betty's Vaginal Barbell and get in touch with your pelvic floor muscle. Unless you are seriously bearing down at the moment of orgasm you will not shit, pee or fart. Sometimes you can have what I call a "pussy fart" which is air escaping the vaginal canal built up during intercourse. Just laugh it off and enjoy your self. It is time for you to begin to educate yourself about female sexuality.

Dr. Betty