Dryness Turns Off Fiance

Hi Betty

I have been engaged for a year now and the last 4 months we are having problems in bed and we hardly do it either. I think our problems started after 2 miscarriages and my fiance always compliments big boobs and ass when we watch tv. Kinda has made me insecure of myself and ever since both of my miscarriage, my boobs went down to A cup from being a full B all my life.

When we have sex I'm usually dry not that i dont enjoy him i do. Is being dry normal? Also when he plays with me down there on the spot i get excited quickly and push him off or make him stop and continue elsewhere. I just get that excitement and tingling but can't control it to continue on. It bothers my fiance he feels something is wrong with me and hates that im dry. Do all women in their 30's get wet or come? How do you know when you are having an orgasm and do you have to get wet to have one?

My fiance and i disagree when we talk about what and how you have an orgasm. Please help.... I want to make us happy and feel great. Im 31 yrs old and used to get wet in past but ive kinda been dry for awhile, I think even before him. At times i try to masturbate when im alone to see, but still when i reach the point i can't handle it and stop. At times when i reach it im dried but a few times wet...Help!

Dear RC,

Please get my book Orgasms for Two or Sex for One. Make a small investment in educating yourself about female sexuality. Men who have boob fetishes are babies who never got any "Titty Dinner" when mothers stopped breast feeding. You are both babes in the woods who are lost lacking a road map of human sexuality.

That "spot down there" is your clitoris, a woman's primary sex organ. You must go to "First Time Orgasm" on the site and follow my directions. Getting wet is the result of becoming sexually aroused from some kind of clitoral stimulation but it must always be with a well-oiled finger or a wet tongue. You must discover you body first so you can teach Mr. Numbnuts who thinks he has all the answers. Consider yourselves both at ground zero when it comes to under standing partnersex. Please begin your at home sex education with all the books, DVD's and sex toys I have available on the website. Then get back to me with all your good news.

Dr. Betty