Can't Orgasm with a Guy

i was honest with my boyfriend about only being able to give myself an orgasm. it doesnt bother me that much. sex still feels amazing, but it's really frustrating for him. now he has been trying extra hard lately to find out what i need. the problem is, the way i get myself off has been the same since i was a kid, and is pretty much impossible for another human to do to me. i dont insert anything, in fact i dont even have to take my pants off. i just grind my clit against my hands and squeeze my legs together really tight. i think thats the problem is that i cant contract the muscles down there very well without squeezing my legs closed. My method can get me off so quickly, but i cant even get close with a guy, even if i try to help. what should i try now?? please help.

Dear K,

It's time for you to upgrade your masturbation style. Go the section titled "First Time Orgasm." Follow my suggested steps. While you are learning to come on your back with knees bent and feet planted on the floor, you will be flexing you PC muscle along with rocking your pelvis and breathing out loud. This will help enable partnersex to be available while you stimulate your clitoris. A small battery vibe like the Water Dancer would be worth trying since you are accustomed to grinding clitty firmly against your hand. The website is full of info on Female Masturbation with books and DVD's for your sexual education.

Dr. Betty

Changing your masturbation pattern takes time so be patient. Practice the new way for a say 10 to 30 minutes and end with "Old faithful" so you don't get too frustrated.