Can't Let a Man Go Down on Me

Hi Betty.

I know you must get so many emails similar to this, but I could really use your help. I love giving oral sex to my partners and nothing turns me on more. However, the thought of a man going down on ME and reciprocating just fills me with dread.

I find that whenever a man begins to head down south, I tense up and have to look away because I feel so embarrassed and ashamed. I have only let one man do so, as we were together for a long time, but even then I still had to do it in the dark and I couldnt look at him whilst he worked down there. I think my vulva is ugly and cant fathom why anyone would want to go down there anyway.

When I came across your site and saw the Gallery, all I thought was "Why cant mine look like hers? Or hers?" The only thing that is keeping me from surgery is a fear of being put to sleep. Please help.

Dear AS,

You are a victim of female sexual repression. Until you can learn to accept your sex organ, you will remain a victim who will end up going for unnecessary cosmetic surgery which will further entrench your victimisation, especially if something goes wrong or there are complications afterward.

Your inner lips have nerve ending and when you are aroused they become filled with blood like your clitoris does. Like his penis does. They are part of your sex organ. This information is all over the website. But if you are too dense, or too damaged, or too desperate in your desire to look like a porn star, then have the surgery. But first, I suggest you get some professional counseling to sort out your extreme revulsion.

Dr. Betty