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Can Women Tell the Difference During Intercourse if Uncircumcised?

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Tue, 08/04/2009 - 12:42
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I am circumcised and restored. I understand what a foreskin means to an intact male in the way of comfort and sensitivity. My question is regarding female preference during intercourse.

In most surveys I have seen, American females show a preference for a circumcised penis. This is because most American women are predisposed towards circumcision and few have experienced intercourse with a natural penis. That may be changing, but, oh, so slowly. European women, on the other hand, have little experience with circumcised men. Thus, European women are predisposed towards the natural male.

Meanwhile, I'd like to know the preference of women that have experience with both varieties, whether American or European. Can a woman realistically tell the difference during intercourse?

I am aware that Dr. Betty is against circumcision and I applaud her for that stand. I am firmly in the intactivist camp with regard to infant circumcision. However, I question intactivist statements that circumcision at any age causes of ED, RE, and other physical and psychological problems. Much of the intactivism information also claim that women that have experienced both natural and circumcised intercourse prefer the natural penis. I wonder how much of that is hype and how much is based on fact. Can a woman really tell the difference?

B

Dear BB,

In my experience I would answer "Yes." Until I wrote that essay, I'd never given much thought to my own personal preference between cut and uncut. However after thinking about it and going over past experiences with both American and European men, the ones I picked as my best lovers were not circumcised. This article makes several points as to why a woman benefits from an uncircumcised dick or "Natures Cockring."

The absence of a foreskin reduces a man's sensation, and again in my experience, these guys often need more stimulation to come and sometimes can be what I call "hard fucks" as they need more friction to get off. I think the other extreme of premature ejaculation might also be the result of circumcision. For the guys who have been cut like Eric who is my apprentice, he has learned to be more gentle and go slow, which is my preference. I would say of all my sex partners, Eric is at the top of my list. He has also mastered a more fierce style for those women who want "rough sex." Personally I believe it's because they don't know any better and they mis-interpert this to be a sign of REALLY being desired.

Unfortuneately as long as organized religions hold sway over America, really good and decent sex information and education will continue to suffer. I don't want men who have been circumcised to feel "less than" but I also don't want to see them perpetuate this terrible cruel and inhuman surgery. Once again I repeat, for anyone who is undecided about this issue, I beg them to watch this short clip of an actual circumcision.

Thanks for asking,

Dr. Betty

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We honestly don't know the

Tue, 10/20/2009 - 23:39
Anonymous (not verified)

We honestly don't know the answer to your very fair question.

Most of the claims by intactivists that "intact is better for her" are based on two items of research:

* An article in the New Zealand medical literature, based on interviews with 100-200 New Zealand women. I've not seen it. New Zealand is a country that was heavily circumcised in the 1960s, and totally uncircumcised since the mid 1980s.
What happened? Public hospitals stopped offering the snip in 1969. Baby boys born in NZ hospitals in the 1970s are 25-50% cut. A consequence is that NZ women who are between the ages of 25 and 40 and who have had a free sex life, often have had experiences with both.

* A book by the O'Haras, and American married couple. I have read some work by them, and they overstate the case for intactness. Their hearts are in the right place, but they claim too much and their methods leave a good deal to be desired.

It is not easy finding women who have had significant sexual experience with both kinds of men. It is harder yet to get such women to talk frankly about their experiences and perceptions.

"Can a woman realistically tell the difference during intercourse?"
I suspect that women are all over the map on this one, with many being unable to tell. My preferred way of investigating this question is to interview sex workers.

My broad impression of what people claiming to be sexually experienced American women post on the Internet comes in 4 categories.

1. Uncircumcised men gross me out. I'd rather not deal with that.

2. Circumcised is my preferred comfort zone. I accept intact if it's attached to a cool dude.

3. I don't care either way OR I haven't noticed, because every penis I've seen has been fully erect, and I'm not much into BJ and HJ.

4. The intact men I've been privileged to know have been defining moments in my journey of sexual self-discovery. I wish my American sisters could experience what I have experienced. The intact penis is smoother, gentler, and requires less artificial lube. It turns me on more.

YouTube videos are silent about (3). They seldom support (1). Quite a few women support (2) in a relaxed common sense sort of way. But the many who vlog (4) breathe fire. No woman in the world praises the foreskin like an American woman who has discovered it and loves it. It's 55-45 cut-uncut at present; I sense the tide is set to turn.

N.B: Many American gay men are foreskin fetishists.

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