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Can I Orgasm?

Published October 23rd by Betty Dodson
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Hey Betty,

Well I'm 19 have had sex a couple of times and can't orgasm. I have been masturbating ever since I was a little girl but haven't orgasmed. Am I doing something wrong? I used to think that I masturbated for a couple of minutes and that lengthening the session would help. This didn't though. Should I invest in a vibrator? I've looked at your First time Orgasm page and have tried it but it wasn't successful for me. I've asked my friends about it and most of them orgasm really easily. Where am I going wrong?

Dear E,

I suggest you ask yourself what you think an orgasm is like? If you weren't having small comes at least, why would you continue to masturbate throughout your childhood? I suspect your expectations of what an orgasm is like are not allowing you to tune into what's actually happening to your body. A couple of minutes will net you nothing. More like an hour would make sense. Go back and read my suggested steps in First Time Orgasm. Get a battery vibe. Don't expect a grand mal seizure. Instead of being so focused on orgasm, just enjoy everything that feels good and keep going.

Dr. Betty

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I just wanted to add that I

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 10/24/2009 - 21:42.

I just wanted to add that I bet not all of your friends are entirely truthful on the subject of orgasm.

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