Bisexual Woman Wants To Know Why I Spot After Intercourse

Dear Betty,

I am a bisexual woman in a long term relationship with another woman. Recently, we had a threesome with a male friend, which for both of us was the first time having sex with a male. My lady and I have used sex toys, and achieved penetration in other ways, so I guess it surprised me a little when I bled after having intercourse with the male. When I hear talk of the hymen, it's described as being along the lower edge of the vaginal opening, but I think my bleeding is coming from the upper area. We have done this twice now, and while I bled less the second time, I still did. It continues lightly for a day or so afterwards. The male does have a penis on the larger side, which I am sure is a factor. I guess I am wondering - is there any bleeding resulting from sex that I SHOULD be worried about?

thank you!

Dear Q,

I love bi-sexual women! What a wonderful time you and your girlfriend are having. It's nice to know this kind of consensual action is going on.

Although you didn't mention your age, I'm assuming fairly young like in your twenties or early thirties. Get my Vulva Grooming mirror and a bright light and play doctor with your girlfriend. Check your vulva out carefully. A good light is essential. If it's simply your hymen nothing to worry about. If it's just a small tear in another place, mucous membrane heals very quickly. I'm not a medical doctor but my rule of thumb is: if there is no pain and the blood loss is mild, I'd just observe myself and not panic. If it continues to happen, you might want to check in with your health care provider. Let me know what you uncover in your adventuresome sex life. All I can say is that is one lucky guy!

Dr. Betty