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If I remember correctly, the number nine represents spiritual completion. Even if it turns out I’m mistaken, the concept still works for me. Eric and I had our first sexual exchange in early January 1999. We began living together, temporarily I thought, after he graduated from college in May of that year, so May 2008 marks our ninth year together...
One night over dinner not long ago, Dr. Eli Coleman, the director of the Program in Human Sexuality at the University of Minnesota propositioned me. He wanted me to donate my remaining art collection to the University where the whole shebang would be archived and protected for the next three hundred years. My business partner Carlin and I have a...
This past year was a humdinger. Here's a few of my New Year's Resolutions and latest insights into "The Adventures of Dr. Betty Dodson: A Sex-Happy Senior Citizen." Health: My body must come first in the New Year. I promise to do some kind of movement every day to keep everything working. For the past few months I laid off of swimming and...
This has been am amazing year of travel; LA, Seattle, Victoria BC, Cuernavaca Mexico, Copenhagen Denmark, Phoenix Arizona and finally Cuba on December first via Cancun for ten days. My dear friend Morgan Alexander, a photographer who lives in Ojai California, has made six trips to Cuba so far. She's hooked on that beautiful island and invited...
The action began not long after the Goddess Elevation party that was held in my honor in March of 2007. A Tibetan prophesy claimed that when a Buddhist priestess turned 77 in a year ending in seven, she would be honored and given special powers during that period. At first I found the idea absolutely charming, but upon reviewing my past eight...
In the late sixties, Germaine Greer became one of my feminist heroes when I first read her article, "Lady, Love Your Cunt" in Suck, Europe's sex magazine. Then again in 1970 with her book, The Female Eunuch. Thirty years later in 1990, Marie Claire ran an article by Germaine titled "Self-Love or Self-Abuse." Below is an excerpt from the article in...
In 2005, I attended a fund raising dinner for the National Council Against Censorship at the Rubin Museum with my colleague and dear friend Dr. Leonore Tiefer. At the time there was an exhibition of ancient Tibetan art on the third floor. As we looked at the beautiful ornate scrolls, one described special powers bestowed on a Priestess who turned...
WASHINGTON - The American Civil Liberties Union applauded a ruling issued by a U.S. Drug Enforcement Administration judge that recommends ending the federal government's sixty-five year monopoly on the supply of marijuana available for Food and Drug Administration-approved medical research. The ACLU represents University of Massachusetts-Amherst...
New York Times Magazine LETTERS TO EDITOR RE: Our Vaginas, Ourselves Jan. 1, 2006 FROM: Betty Dodson Ph.D. SUBJECT: First Draft "Our Vaginas, Ourselves" by Daphne Merkin (New York Times, Jan 1, 2006) reveals a woman who is smart and clever, but alas, out of touch with female sexuality. For starters, any woman who refers to her sex organ as a "...
The personal is still political and politics can get damn personal. This past year has been the worst of times and the best of times, a combination of challenges, failures and successes. Politically speaking, whoever made the following statement sums up my feelings about our current administration: Blaming Bush is like blaming Mickey Mouse when...
Over the past several years I've had the occasional longing to stand in front of a blank canvas again. What kind of painting would I turn out after walking away from my art studio thirty-five years ago? Many friends wondered along with me. My birthday is in August, so I gave myself the gift of exploring easel painting for the entire month. I was...
To celebrate Gay Pride this year, think about this for a moment: If you have ever masturbated, you've had gay sex. Come on, doing yourself is a same sex activity no matter what you might be fantasizing. So get a grip on your clit or your cock and enjoy being as queer as a three dollar bill. Whether you are straight, bi, gay or undecided, rejoice...
I'm just a girl who can't say no. And to further complicate my life, I open and read most of my mail. In 2003 I received an academic paper written in English by a Japanese psychotherapist I'd never met who was specializing in female frigidity. Dr. Michiba* had developed a device that he claimed "cured" women of frigidity. It had been a long time...
I'm especially grateful for every precious bit of life I've enjoyed these past 12 months amidst the insanity of war and human suffering around the world. In the process of counting my blessings, I went back over my 2004 month-at-a-glance calendar. The first thing that struck me was how much I'd already forgotten. Last January I was in New Jersey...
Subject: icky female ejaculation Hi Betty, I recently read your book Sex for One, borrowed from a friend who was making a documentary about female masturbation. In any case, I am a 21 year-old student who just started exploring my body very recently (on my own that is) and I have come across many interesting things. For one, it seems that I am an...
In 1974 I called Mother on her 75th birthday and asked how she felt after having lived three quarters of a century- quite an accomplishment, to say the least."Well, Betty Ann, I feel no different than when I was 25. Only my body has changed. I have elevator pains now." When I asked what an elevator pain was, she laughed and said, "The one's that...
This past year was filled with successes, a few failures, many joys and also sorrow. I have a good relationship with death as a natural part of life, but there are many difficult adjustments to make when a loved one leaves the planet. I lost my brother Bill, two very dear girlfriends, a long term neighbor in my building, and my former husband....
I believe... Masturbation is our first natural sexual activity. Masturbation is the ongoing love affair that each of us has with ourselves throughout our lifetime. Masturbation is an erotic meditation. Masturbation inspires creativity. Masturbation is a way to gain sexual self-knowledge. Cultural denial of masturbation is the basis of sexual...
As this year comes to an end, I'll miss writing 2002 at the top of each phone log page -- nothing quite as calming as formal balance with a 2 on both ends of 00. Except for politics, 2002 was a wonderful year for me. I published a new book, Orgasms for Two, and upgraded my Website. My life with Eric is still playful, sexy and happy. Although I...
The first time I saw The Vagina Monologues was in 1996 when it was off, off, off Broadway. Friends of mine who'd seen the play had alerted me that the author and sole performer, Eve Ensler, mentioned my workshops. That evening I sat in a small theater listening to a charming young woman who talked about my Women's Sexuality Workshops with a...
In Orgasms for Two, I break down how to use a vibrator during partner sex. The positions that work best for different couples will depend on their body type, age, and flexibility. The following are some positions I have enjoyed. Man on Top: This is also known as the missionary position. Whether a woman uses her fingers or a small battery vibrator...
Dear Rachel, How delighted I was to read your "The Technology of Orgasm" revealing the history of electric vibrators -- a sex toy that I continue to teach women how to use to this day. In the book, you made the statement that feminists in the sixties brought back the electric vibrator as a sexual aid. Closer to the truth was most feminists...
My sexual evolution has been an integral part of my spiritual growth. Once I understood that masturbation was a meditation on selflove, my sexuality and spirituality grew closer together. When I think about my other spiritual practices, I put art near the top of the list. Drawing was a beautiful meditation, and mastering the nude was an excellent...
The following is an edited transcript from a talk Betty gave at The Society for Human Sexuality: Dr. Beverly Whipple: Now we're going to look at women's orgasms over the past 30 years with the expert on women's orgasms, Dr. Betty Dodson. She was formally trained as a fine artist, and left a successful art career to design and facilitate sexuality...
Like a spotter in the gym, or a dance instructor, I've been offering unique "hands on" Sex Coaching for individual women and couples since the early eighties. During a three to four hour session, I monitor my clients movements, breathing, and how she's using different muscle groups for sexual arousal during masturbation. Most people show up with a...