Sex Features

It was going on way too many months since I’d given myself a nice big yowling orgasm. This was especially serious since we recently filmed a Bodysex workshop and during the shoot, I was unable to come. I was so exhausted and stressed out I couldn’t get off so I finally just gave up. Worst of all was remembering that during past Bodysex workshops,...
Anyone who follows us on facebook/youtube knows that we were in Oslo, Norway last August.  We were sworn to secrecy and couldn't reveal the details of our "secret sex mission"...until now.  Betty had been invited by NRK television to do a private session on camera.  We doubted whether they'd show Betty's work on network television...
Saturday September 17, the day after our closing party at Carlin and Geof’s apartment and I am one exhausted, happy and very fortunate octogenarian to have had the opportunity to document a workshop that I ran for 25 years. Then to have it be spectacularly successful is a dream come true. I base this conclusion on the seven women in the workshop...
I’ve finally learned my lesson with the Anthony Weiner incident of texting a photo of his penis on Twitter. BFD!  This hard working Congressman is one of the few Democrats who speaks his mind unlike the spineless shits who cave into Republican demands. My response to these uproars over some poor public persona getting raked over the coals...
Thousands of years before the time of Christ, the cannabis hemp plant was Earth's largest agricultural crop that produced the majority of fiber, fabric, lighting oil, paper, incense and medicines. Hemp was also the primary source of essential food, oil and protein for humans and animals. From 1776 until 1937, hemp was a major American crop that...
I deal with your problem all the time and my answer begins with, “Accept her just the way she is.” Do not put any pressure on her to have sex. Other than cannabis, the only other drug that would create sexual desire in a woman would be to duplicate the early romantic phase of falling in love. However, I doubt the pharmaceutical companies will ever...
For every smart man who has ever asked, “What do women want?” the sexual desires of each wish list will differ from woman to woman and will depend upon her age. When I was a romance junkie in my early twenties, I went along with whatever kind of sex each boyfriend did as long as he was cute, promised to only have sex with me and said he loved me...
Betty Dodson original drawing
When it comes to creating or watching sexual material, we are still debating what is acceptable to view, create or to enjoy. The porn wars rage on while most guys secretly masturbate to what turns them on while too many women want to censor pornography. Most people will agree that sex is a very personal matter, but now that sexual imagery has...
First let me say this: I am so sick of answering questions on this topic when in my heart I believe it’s mostly crap! And no one has the guts to say it out loud. I clearly remember stating in one essay that the fact researchers didn’t know what women were squirting was the fly in female ejaculation. Recently a man asked me what I thought the fluid...
Two Views of Woman by Betty Dodson
Looking back over past decades filled with many sex partners and a handful of lovers, I’m back to being my own lover this year. Just as it should be when I look back over my life. After 8 decades on Planet Earth you might say I’ve been around the block a few times. But I still want to become more loving, gentler and consistently kinder toward me!...
The most common course for entering the field of sexuality is usually the study of psychology. However, many sex researchers, educators, therapists and sexologists have had backgrounds in medicine, sociology and nursing to name a few. One of our best sex researchers Alfred Kinsey was an entomologist studying gall wasps. Alex Comfort the author of...
The question, “What do I want to be when I grow up?” is not that much different than asking, “What do I want to be when I grow old”? Recently I realized that growing pains are part of the creative process, not something that ever ends. For instance, “How do I want to live my life” is similar to asking, “How do I want to end my life”? So I...
The other day I was watching a porn movie made by a woman so I figured it would be better than most. The plot begins with a couple acting out a cliché of a married couple who have very quick vanilla sex, got back into bed, roll over and go to sleep. I could identify with that one. The next more sexually adventurous couple with a hot blonde and...
Since I had my first and last cosmetic surgery in 2002 at the age of 71, very few people have believed my age when I tell them. In our last YouTube when I said I was thankful for good health and having robust orgasms with my sex toys at 82, a cry went up from our fans saying, “It can’t be the truth!” Okay so I did lie. I’m actually 81 but stop...
A discussion between two sex educators with Carlin and me took place the other day. We were talking about the importance of titles for books and essays. We agreed that Becky Chalker who was present had one of the best titles for her book, The Clitoral Truth. Gina Ogden who was with us said her publisher recently told her books about sex and death...
Christine may have lost her bid for Congress, but she did masturbation a great service. For that I sincerely thank her. After more years than I care to remember, I've struggled to liberate this basic healthy activity, but now, I have to hand it to her. She managed to get the word into the public sphere in a way that far surpassed Dr. Elders and my...
Sexually speaking, I was a divided woman like many women today. Whenever I had sex with myself, I stimulated my clitoris directly, but when I had sex with a lover, I tried to come from his touch or vaginal penetration only. After a life-time of sexual activity with forty-some years of teaching sex, my position today is that we each need to be...
The blogosphere is littered with posts about female genital mutilation happening today, right now at Cornell University with boingboing's Female Genital Mutilation at Cornell? It's Complicated leading the charge.  This is my official position on intersex surgery and why we must rescue our sex organs from religion, unnecessary medical...
Yesterday I received an email from Amy Jo, a sister sex educator with the alarming news that Kegel exercises were not beneficial but actually detrimental. What? Pelvic floor muscle awareness has been a big part of my teaching women about orgasms with me repeating: "Squeeze and release" while my Vaginal Barbell is inside my client's vagina while...
It seems the twenty-something young women in America are all very confused about what an orgasm is, what it feels like, and how to have one. I believe a big part of this problem is due to watching porn where professionals either fake an orgasm or they are skilled practitioners of all things sexual. Or we expect sex to be like in the movies where...
One evening I announced to several friends that I'd been making an effort to claim my intellectual property to establish my place in history. One academic friend smiled and said, "That's like trying to hold onto a pile of money in the middle of a busy intersection." Although I laughed at the time, I now realize how accurate his analogy was. Still...
In 1990, I was invited to speak at a conference titled: "Say Yes to Masturbation". It was in Montreal Canada sponsored by the Raelians, a world-wide organization who follows their prophet Rael. He claims to have been contacted by extra terrestrials, or ET's. Sort of like Moses receiving a message from God through a burning bush, or Buddha...
You will need a few basic items. If at all possible set aside at least an hour in a warm room that's completely private. Turn off the phone and put your cell phone in another room. Wash you hands and make sure you have smooth clean fingernails. 1. For your genital examination you will want a make-up mirror that stands alone with at least an eight-...
Excerpt from My Romantic Love Wars One summer at a Yoga camp, I'd watched a group of young men rolling their abs. When I asked the benefits of the exercise, they said it forced old blood out of the internal organs, allowing new blood to enter. They claimed that advanced male yogis could give them selves an enema by sucking in water and pushing it...
My feminist awareness first struck like a series of lightening bolts while reading Betty Freidan's The Feminine Mystique in 1963. At the time I was unhappily married. Although I never wanted to be a wife and mother, I surrendered to being "normal" in 1959. By the time I finished Freidan's book, I secretly began planning my escape from middle class...