Sex Features

If you have any questions or would like to start the certification process, send an email to admin@dodsonandross.com Mission: Our goal is to certify women to hold their own Bodysex workshops so that the Betty Dodson method of self-love and sisterhood continues and expands to every country around the world. When Betty and I first got together, we...
Classical Vulva
Betty sketched these vulvas for the release of her international best seller Sex for One. Back in the 70's, during the Genital Show & Tell ritual in her Bodysex workshops, Betty started identifying the "style" of each vulva using architectural styles as a reference.  Here they are: Classical, Gothic, Modern, Renaissance, Baroque, and the...
After hearing countless sex histories from girls and women over the past four decades, I believe sexual repression begins the moment a parent or caregiver punishes a child’s natural curiosity for touching their own sex organs. Society needs to understand that the health of each person’s sexlife rests upon childhood masturbation— the foundation...
FIRST TIME ORGASM: Most young girls will begin by using their hands and massage oil. A young woman who has a history of little or no masturbation and has reached her mid to late-20s and is looking for her first orgasm, a battery driven vibrator can be a good choice. There are many of these vibrators available. However, it you are in your...
To my knowledge, there is no one-size-fits-all solution for a woman to remain vaginally active long past menopause without some kind of Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). It's unfortunate, but each of us must find our own path through trial and error. First off, menopause varies greatly. What many don't know is that more than half of all women in...
Over the years, one frequently asked question comes from women and a few men who are unable to incorporate their current method of masturbation into partnersex. Many have carried the same pattern of childhood masturbation over into adulthood and it's now the only way they can get off. Some are stimulating their genitals with one or both hands...
Betty Dodson has proven though working with thousands of women that a strong pelvic floor muscle enhances orgasm with oneself and during partnersex. The same muscle also insures bladder control, maintains vaginal health, and contributes to a person's overall health. Betty's Barbell is both a practical vaginal exerciser and an excellent pleasure...
Betty self-portrait
One of the most challenging aspects of my life has been going public with what I believe to be true based on observation, experience and information from sources I trust. I’m not sure when living out loud became my passion. Perhaps the biggest influence was my mother who always said, “Betty Anne, never hesitate to speak your mind.” She was an...
Teaching is about repetition so here I go again saying the same thing once more with different words. There seems to be no “common sense” when it comes to women’s orgasms because most of us demand instant success the American way…add hot water and stir. Or we are naturally angry for not being taught how to experience sexual pleasure in the first...
Original Drawing Betty Dodson
I’ve been designing my end game as anyone who has followed my blog knows. You would be surprised how many respond with an image of eternal life and I’m being rather morbid to speak of it ending. Yet it does. As I’ve designed how I have sex how could I not design my death? I consider the true measure of a person’s success is how they end up in old...
Original Drawing Betty Dodson
According to thousands of sex questions I’ve received during four decades, I’m aware of America’s profound lack of understanding when it comes to the basic act of heterosexual intercourse. Yes! Something we all take for granted, yet society could benefit from some very basic sex information/education to better understand what actually takes place...
Betty Dodson Original Drawing
I just read several question from women in their teens to fifty and beyond searching for their first orgasm. This sexual suffering seems never ending and it breaks my heart. Something totally natural has been perverted by religions in male dominated cultures. This is when wives and mothers are turned into a sexual police force controlling their...
I've always been a size queen and I've always been able to penetrate my vagina with ease. When women would share their stories of pain during penetration and how it affected their lives, I couldn't relate...until after I gave birth. Despite opting for a midwife and choosing a birthing center, I ended up having a C-section. Grayson weighed in at 9...
The way I visualize an antidepressant working is similar to repeatedly thinking (feeling) I’m a worthless idiot and as that thought keeps repeating inside my brain; the drug breaks this repetitious process. Similar to what most of us have experienced, first thing when I wake up, I start going over a jingle or a phrase that gets mentally repeated...
Since we just passed our ten year mark working together as equal partners, I took a moment to reflect. Looking back, I realized I’d spent more time looking for a business partner than looking for Mr. Right. The man I married was Mr. Wrong so I couldn’t even trust my own judgment. After the divorce, I was dedicated to art, enjoying working alone in...
BN sent the following message: “Great website! Very informative. I have a question regarding female orgasms for you as it has been a subject of tension between me and my gf... Well, tension for me. I know she can have them through squeezing her thighs together as she has told me (not shown me however but informed me they're "the best"...) as well...
Amazing how I continue to learn something new thanks to “Ask Dr. Betty” on our D&R website. Many times a questioner will ask something I know nothing about. That’s when I head over to my Google god and begin searching— so easy! Not like having to pour over big reference books in some musty library. Today, thanks to the Internet, most people...
Not long ago I wondered if I’d ever be invited to open a conference by delivering the keynote talk. After all, as a best selling feminist author who has also conducted countless Bodysex workshops worldwide, I’ve been teaching women how to harness the power of electric vibrators for independent orgasms along with overcoming genital shame and body...
When the question “How can I make some white stuff come out of my vagina?” went to the top of our most popular list, I groaned. Immediately I know this is another example of kids viewing online porn for their primary source of sex information. Let me tell you, it breaks every sex educator’s heart. We all know it’s more difficult to unlearn...
While I understand vibrators are here to stay along with other sex toys and porn, the younger generation seems to be overly reliant on technology. They forget our most potent sexual motivation is the human brain. Before being hooked on my vibrator, I'd made it to the age of 35 with just manual masturbation while focusing on one of many sexual...
In my twenties, I was a very traditional young woman. Once I had sex with a boyfriend, he had to promise to only have sex with me. Of course my being faithful was assumed. Thus began my mini-monogamous romantic sex affairs that lasted a few months to a year or so throughout the decade of my twenties. Getting married at 29 made me to question a...
A concept that is important in partner sex is how we communicate. We are told to talk with our sex partners about what we like during sex and to even demonstrate how we like it. For instance, when it comes to clitoral stimulation, we can demonstrate by touching a lovers arm with our preferred pressure. Or a guy can use his lover’s finger to...
After years of answering questions from women and girls around the world via the internet, most frequently asked is “How will I know if I’ve had an orgasm?” For many years the standard response was, “If you have to ask, then it hasn’t happened,” the assumption being that she’ll automatically know when she does. This is no longer true as the vast...
When I attended a birthday party to celebrate Dell Williams' 90th Birthday, I'd been asked to MC the affair that turned out quite a number of aging feminists as well as a few young ones. My birthday gift to Dell was a copy of the 1974 edition of my first self-published book, Liberating Masturbation: a Meditation on Self-love. Attached to the cover...
Below is a recent question I received from a young woman.  I'm noticing that more and more women want to know "how can I stop ejaculating?"  So I asked some of my friends - the experts - to weigh in: "I'm in my early 30's and have masturbated since I was a young child. I first experienced "squirting" in my teens and intermittently...