Defining Our Own Sexuality

Christina came by and we recorded our most scandalous podcast to date.  We hit all the no nos: unprotected sex, how mothers make their sons into their lovers, college masturbation orgies, why the world fears female sexuality and our own cock obsessions.  And we're all getting diaphragms except Betty.

no orgasms ?

Sun, 03/14/2010 - 16:52

Did I get it right, both Christina and Carlin never had an orgam with a guy ?

Or was it just not that great?

I think the fear part is important, what if a guy was holding the woman and she masturbated or he would do it for her, but there was no penetration. I don't know if it's better than a solo orgasm with a vibe, but fears like pregnancies or stds are nearly non existent and it should be easier to achieve an orgasm.

I had something like this happen to me where we just did a lot without penis in vagina, lots of touching and she had orgasms. It was just casual fun, but after two days and severel orgasms, mutual feelings of attachment developed when we had to part.

Helen Fisher talks a bit about orgasm, oxytocin and bonding.

"and with orgasm the release of oxytocin and vasopressin can stimulate
feelings of attachment (which is why casual sex is rarely casual; it
either turns you on or off.)"

"The scans showed that in the female orgasm, activity is reduced
across all the brain regions - conscious and subconscious - that handle
emotion, including the amygdale, medial prefrontal cortex and orbitofrontal

"What this means is that deactivation, letting go of all fear and
anxiety, might be the most important thing, even necessary, to have an
orgasm," Dr Holstege said."

Verrrrry cool article.

Mon, 03/15/2010 - 03:06
Christina Cicchelli (not verified)

Verrrrry cool article. Thanks for sharing! I'll probably write up about this tomorrow... today.. now (I forgot that tonight I have insomnia).

Well, I don't know if I'm afraid of pregnancy or STD... I've had unprotected sex before. And I do love the penis in my vagina...

I won't go too much into it because I'm writing it up... now... but I realize that orgasms aren't cut and dry for me. They're not the same for me all of the time. I can only describe it as a source of meditation. When I have an orgasm, it's therapeutic for me so I tend to enjoy them alone that with a partner... at least this is what I realize last night.


"Illusion is the first of all pleasures" - Oscar Wilde