I cum too fast (im a girl)

Sun, 12/19/2004 - 04:59
Submitted by YellowPage18

This is going to sound dumb, but when I'm fooling aroung with a guy, even through clothes, I really don't have too much of a problem cuming most of the time. And it doesn't take me too long. That seemed great at first because I know some women have a really hard time getting off. But I feel like I cum WAY too soon. I know women can have multiple orgasms, but right after one, I get really sensitive and tired and I kind of just want to stop. What can I do to last longer or help myself get through the right-after stage and enjoy a second or third in one round?? Help please. I feel inadequate for guys. And early shootin' guys, damn, I feel your pain.

From a guys perspective I'd

Mon, 02/28/2011 - 14:12
Anonymous

From a guys perspective I'd say if you can't take care of it... learn to like your own taste (give oral after) and/or find a guy that cums fast too... there's also anal... at this point I'd love to have a girl who cums fast because I used to date a girl who couldn't at all and it fucked up my confidence

youth

Fri, 07/02/2010 - 20:08
t (not verified)

I started masturbating when I was 11 years old and before I knew what I was doing.. I would cum in about 10 seconds flat. I remember trying to insert *forgettable object* into my vagina, but was hitting my clit instead and ... !!wow!!
I didn't actually know what was happening until about 2 years later, but I kept doing it anyway. duh.
After awhile the time between the intial stimulation and my orgasm got further apart, so I would suggest - Keep Doing It! And.. do it for yourself.. you can learn how to control these things. At this point in my life I can't cum at all.. so darling, just enjoy. Happy Cumming.

right

Tue, 06/01/2010 - 18:03
Woohoo-Kungfoo (not verified)

"...sex is between two people..." wow,you must've been on top of your fucking class !

NICE

Mon, 10/18/2010 - 22:32
Anonymous

HAHA Finally someone who thinks that whole question is silly to put on the internet.

Communication

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Sun, 10/18/2009 - 13:56

I have a problem with coming too quickly at times myself. I find it helpful to just communicate with your partner when it happens... let them know you can't handle any physical stimulation for awhile and you'd like to do something for them until you can get back in the game. Go down on them or just makeout and touch for awhile.

Another thing I find fun to do during PIV or PIA sex is to try to extend the orgasm for the entire experience. I need to use a vibrator to make this happen, but it could be something different that does it for you. Once you hit that orgasm, don't just stop doing whatever you were doing to get there. Keep doing it and go deeper and deeper into it. It may feel a little uncomfortable at first, but if you just breath and keep going for it, it becomes incredible! I have been able to extend orgasms for about 3-5 minutes doing this, and that's usually more than enough time to get your man off as he's watching and feeling you come for such a long time!

Communication

Sun, 10/18/2009 - 17:52

My wife certainily doesn't come fast or often. But once she comes, regardless of the stimulation involved, her clit and the rest of her vulva become super sensitive. Any additional stimulation causes a reaction close to pain. Early in our relationship, she had to tell me about the ultra sensitivity and what her wishes were. We have been together enough now that verbal communication is rarely needed. Her post orgasm ultra sensitivity usually lasts five or ten minutes and I know she doesn't want any stimulation or movement. However, I try to maintain some sort of contact once she comes. If she comes from fingering, I slowly stop all movement, but keep my fingers on her vulva. If she comes from oral, again I stop any movement, but try to keep my motionless tongue on her clit. If she comes during intercourse, I push to obtain a deep penetration but then cease any and all movement. After her ultra sensivity wanes, she will usually let me know she is ready for more action by gently thrusting or squirming against my continued touch. Her orgasms always excite me and sharpen my interest in her pleasure, but she rarely has a second orgasm. Thus, her continued actions are almost always for my benefit. If she is not interested in me continuing to stimulate her, she will usually just ask if she can manually stimulate me. That's her way of saying she has had enough but is willing to insure that I am satisfied also. Communication and understanding are the key.

Woman too quick...

Thu, 10/15/2009 - 01:29
Anonymous (not verified)

I sympathise, my woman gets off so quickly when I penetrate that I can't keep up with her, half a dozen shuddering cums in under a minute and she's totally finished and out for the count, meantime I haven't managed to shoot myself off and feel completely frustated but she is too comatose to do it for me, and I'm useless at hand-wanking. A massive problem, I can tell you. Give me a slower woman any time, I've forgotten how it is to be able to thrust away for over a minute and be able to shoot off inside. I've asked for decent foreplay to bring me on a bit but she won't do that because all she wants is a cock up her, she hates foreplay of any kind, either giving it or receiving it. Any other fellas facing this problem have any solutions?

I had the exact same issue

Thu, 04/01/2010 - 16:52
Benevolio (not verified)

I had the exact same issue with my girlfriend, and eventually had to sit her down and have a talk with her. Now she allows me to keep going (even after her orgasm) until I reach my own. What you need to do is have a serious conversation with your girlfriend and explain to her you are not being sexually satisfied. I guarentee you she will be upset and might even get angry at you, but the fact is you are not recieving your end of the sexuality. If she continues to act the way she is, in that she refuses to finish you either via sex or via foreplay, then her perception of sex is immature and selfish. Sex is between two people and relies on the satisfaction of both parties. If she doesn't get this concept, then she may have deeper and more complicated problems than you first anticipated.

Wed, 12/22/2004 - 10:51

that sorta sounds like how after i come i'm extra sensitive for a minute or two... i say just keep going (in my case it's a little hard to keep going what with all the shuddering... when it gets that sensitive each thrust almost feels as good as an orgasm)
the sensitivity will only last a couple minutes, if that, and if he's the one doin all the 'work' you dont have to worry about your energy really

just trust me... keep going, you'll like it.