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WHAT THE HELL???

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Fri, 04/16/2004 - 08:07
Submitted by moni_leigh

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I am not a happy camper. Okay, so last night, my man and I are going at it, having some of the best sex we've ever had. I got off twice! He was able to hold off, and did. When he was finally ready to blow, we're in the position where he's on top and my ankles are above his ears (I LOVE that.). All of the sudden, he whips it out and attempts to shove it in my ass! Now, I have nothing against anal sex, but I told him I want a butt plug first, to help loosen it up. It just hurt like hell! What is the deal? He's always attempting to put something (usually a finger) in there, and when I asked him about it he said it's because in FHM that's what Jenna Jameson reccomended. Thus the title, WHAT THE HELL??

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‹ How about no talking and more fucking for part-timers ? Just need to Vent ›

Fri, 04/16/2004 - 10:24
Kojak Kitty

Adult film stars have great experience and suggestions. But sometimes their advice does fit the norm.

If I were you I would tell your guy that you are not an experienced adult star and you like it (describe to him what you want/like) this way.

Either he does it your way or not at all. Sex is really no fun if it hurts like hell, unless you are into the pain game.

Fri, 04/16/2004 - 14:08
vixxen

It's when men do things like this that they really weaken their case.... If you were regularly having anal sex then I could understand it, but to just take the initiative to shove it in? You have the right to have pushed him off of you. And you have the right now to tell him that your body is yours and you need to control what goes into your ass and when. Until and unless he's willing to offer up his anus as your domain to do with as you please, he needs to respect your need to ease into it.

And just so you know, going from anal back to vaginal (unless you're using condoms OR washing very carefully in between) can lead to bacterial vaginal infections. Lots of lube is also a major prerequisite!

Sat, 04/17/2004 - 21:12
honeymilf

The various posts on anal have led me to believe not everyone is willing/ready to have a dick in their ass. Some love it, some(like myself) are very guarded about this delicate issue. If I were you I'd cut him off for awhile and say that somebody on cherrybomb.com suggested it. :lol:

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Sun, 04/18/2004 - 18:45
moni_leigh

Great idea, maybe I will... :twisted:

Mon, 04/19/2004 - 09:17
Carlin Ross

All this thanks to FHM. Your experience has inspired me to write a guide on anal sex FOR MEN. Anal sex isn't the problem. The problem is whether your man has the skills and experience so that it's enjoyable and gets you off. I'll keep you posted.

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Mon, 04/19/2004 - 18:06
moni_leigh

I think that sounds like a wonderful idea. If you need any help or contributing stories, let me know! :D

anal sex on women...for men

Mon, 04/19/2004 - 19:14
vixxen

there's a great book by a guy who writes about all things anal...for anyone of any sexual orientation...the bigger problem might be just getting people to stop using magazines and books to tell them what to do with their sex partners. maybe they should just fucking ask each other!!!

[weird thing about anal, in my mind, is that most women don't actually do it, but i think that anal porn films make men think that more women do...and those who don't want it are made to feel less-than....]

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Mon, 04/19/2004 - 19:27
Tom

I agree, vixxen. I think the number of women who do it is rather small, and I also think the number of those women who enjoy it, is even smaller. I love to have anal sex with a woman who's into it. The last thing I want to do is have a woman agree to something she's really not into, but is only doing it for my sake. I've been fortunate the last several years to have known a couple of women who'd do it and seemed to like it.

Growing up, dating, and even during my marraige, none of those women liked it and my ex-wife flatly refused.

I also think you make a great point about porno movies... men get a skewed idea that many, many women like it, from watching the action in a porno movie, and that's simply not true, I believe.

However, I think the younger generation of women, those now in their late teens and twenties... are into more than older women, and I think the influence of the Internet is the leading cause of a new wider acceptance of several behaviors, not really seen regularly in older generations.

Fri, 04/23/2004 - 00:45
Nicki Is Here

vixxen wrote:
It's when men do things like this that they really weaken their case.... If you were regularly having anal sex then I could understand it, but to just take the initiative to shove it in? You have the right to have pushed him off of you. And you have the right now to tell him that your body is yours and you need to control what goes into your ass and when. Until and unless he's willing to offer up his anus as your domain to do with as you please, he needs to respect your need to ease into it.

And just so you know, going from anal back to vaginal (unless you're using condoms OR washing very carefully in between) can lead to bacterial vaginal infections. Lots of lube is also a major prerequisite!

I told my hubby if he wanted to try that was fine but he had to go first and until he went first he should put it out of his mind. We have been married 12 yrs next month and that was like 7 yrs ago that he mentioned it. Haven't heard a word about it since. :lol: Then again showed him the dildo I would use on him (which is the same size as him). He said "no thanks I have exit only tattooed on my bum do not enter will be next". :lol: