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Tue, 06/19/2012 - 11:47
Submitted by reefmaster

So ive been watching and reading alot of the stuff you guys do, an im considering getting a diaphram.
im 22 ive been on the pill since i was 16 due to heavy periods, and at this point in my life i feel its doing nothing good for me at all except preventing pregnancy. ive had numerous skin isuues and breakthrough bleeding and its making me miserable.
im curious to know more about sex with a diaphram, if there are any special intrctuctions or some experience you can shed having one in during sexual penatration.

my partner is worried he will touch it, i am concerned it will get pushed to far up.

any advice ladies
thanks
xx

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Hi reefmaster The forum

Wed, 07/25/2012 - 17:21
Lady Grinning Soul

Hi reefmaster

The forum section tends to be a bit quiet, so I imagine not many people (like myself) saw your question.

I recently started using a diaphragm (but wasn't on hormonal contraception before that; I won't use it) and it's been perfectly fine. You have to go and get one fitted at a health clinic to determine the correct size for you. The doctor will have a feel about first to check the positioning of your cervix and then pick what they think is the best size diaphragm and insert it. She might ask you to then put your fingers up and feel the position it is sitting in. Then you'll be asked to take it out yourself and re-insert it, to show that you know how to properly position it. Then you'll be given it to take home for a week or so to keep practising insertion and you will be asked to go back to see the doc with it in place. If they're satisfied that you're putting it in correctly then that's it, you can keep it.*

You can't feel the diaphragm at all when it's in place and your partner shouldn't be able to feel the rim of it during penetration. The rim fits snugly against the walls of your vagina, covering your cervix, and the lower part of the rim sits on your pubic bone.

The diaphragm can't be pushed too far up - there's nowhere for it to go. The opening of the cervix is far too small for it to get any further than your vagina, and besides, it will be covering the cervix and if a correct fit, shouldn't become dislodged at all.

The doctor will talk you through all the precautions you must take such as using the spermicide and how long you put it in before sex, how long you must keep it in after sex etc. Ask them any questions you have. Hope you find using one works for you :)

* This was my experience of the fitting here in the UK. I assume it's much the same wherever you are.

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Wed, 07/25/2012 - 07:13
Stefanie

Since nobody answered by now:
I do not own y diaphragm, but I can highly reccommend to get off the damn pill. You'll get your great natural sex drive back, feel much more awake and more "there", you actually care about the  world. I'll never take that thing again.
I'm pretty happy using condoms. They're safe as long as they fit. "Onesize" does not fit all, when it comes to condoms. Too tight ones will rip/burst. Well fitting ones feel like no condom at all.
Here's what I do: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/symptothermal-method-22142.htm
Temperature plus Cervical Mucus and very strict evaluation rules (from the German "AG NFP", the method is called Sensiplan here). If you follow the rulesexactly, it is as safe as the pill.