How Can I Make a Woman Squirt?

Dear Betty:

I want to say thank you and let you know i've shared your site with others and that I have enjoyed your site for many years now. It's just great in so many ways in all your catagories. I hope that this new site will be just as great and that you will still have the old things as well as some new things. Ok now for my question that I am hoping you can help with and I am sure others are interested in it as well. The subject is "Squirting" and I would love to know how to make or what to do to make women have a "squirting orgasm". Please let me know if you or Carlin can share that knowledge with me and your readers. Thanks again for the wonderful work you have done over the years for all of us out here hungry for knowledge, acceptance, and ways to havng a great sex life.

 

Hi MidniteWolf,

I just made up a name for you. Thanks for all the kind thoughts and yes, everything from my old site will eventually appear on this new one. Plus a lot more.

As for you question, let me say up front that I'm not a big fan of "squirting" and I do not have G-spot orgasms. A chapter is devoted to the subject in my book Orgasms for Two. I'm sure you would enjoy reading it. First let me draw attention to your use of words, "make a women have a squirting orgasm." The word "make" is the problem. I believe we are responsible for our own orgasms. What if your GF wanted to "make" you have a prostate orgasm? How would you like to be approached? What if the idea didn't appeal to you at all? Not everyone wants to have their anus or vagina probed for some new kind of orgasm when you've been enjoying the ones you already have. There are many books, dvd's and websites that address this topic. Google "female ejaculation" and see how much information is there.

Just remember, a large part of the G-spot and female ejaculation feeding frenzy doesn't apply to that many women. For those women who naturally have this response, it's a blessing to discover they're "okay." But when something becomes the latest fashion for female orgasms, another skill or parlor trick for women to "achieve" I question why. If you and your partner would like to explore this, by all means do so. But check in with your lover first and see if she's interested. I'll be posting a new essay on the G-spot Revisited soon so stay tuned.

Dr. Betty