Thank you for your advice OnceAVixen :D
I can make myself come through masturbation much easier and quicker than I come with sex! I love it! There is nothing wrong with it, just do what feels good!
I want my wife to be agressive, but when she is i usually get freaked out. do i need a stint on a couch or am i fixable?
OK, this may sound gross, but whatever.. we are all pals here, right?
Back before I got preggars, during my monthly, I would take a bath and my DH would go down on me. At first I was reluctant to let him during "that time", but I realized that I don't even bleed when he is doing that.. sorta like how if you start your period when you are swimming you don't start bleeding until you are outta the pool. Anyway, if my husband is willing to do that while I am surfing the crimson tide, then your idiot husband should be willing to do it to you!
PS: I do think being shaved bare helps. :)
Oh, yesssssss, definitely. I love the bullet. It is the best for fun........ I have a freaking bullet graveyard I wear them out so often. :wink:
This is why, dear girls, you should TALK to a man before you sleep with him, much less marry him. A guy who won't go downtown?! Please. That is just scary!
Do not fuck him. It's that simple.
You just tell him that unless he gets over whatever goofy hangup he has, he gets NOTHING. I would not stand for that. What else is he squeamish about?! It just seems so.. ugh.... weird to me. Oral, IMO, is one of the most intimate acts there are.. if my husband didn't do that.. well, it would make me feel rejected and sad and UNLOVED. You deserve head. As much as you want, when you want. it's that simple. Ask him how good it feels when YOU do that to HIM. then ask him why he doesn't want you to experience the same thing.
i really wanna know this position becasue i have trouble getting orgasms. You must feel like a god!!! I think you should tell my boyfriend your hints and tell me the position.
I think the statistics say that only around 13% of women can orgasm through intercourse ALONE. You sound totally normal to me. And the point is, you CAN orgasm with your new husband... that is the important thing. It sort of sounds to me like you may be so hung up on orgasming through intercourse alone that it may be hindering you. Maybe once you focus on how much you love your new husband and what a great man he is then it will take some of the pressure off.
PLEASE!! What is the position!
No. They do not work. Sorry.
Getting pregnant again helps!!! :)
I think some women do get larger breasts from using BC pills, but I am not sure what type. :(
Other than that, may I suggest a new push up bra? Good luck!
I definitely agree with two women. I have experiance in this area as well. I think that its new and erotic and women know where you need to be pleased ( unlike some men) and often can pleasure you better than a man. ALthough...i'd rather have a real dick in me than a fake one but hey its just for fun!
Ditto here, always been curious, fantasize about it when masturbating, but never had the courage for the real thing! So how does someone go about finding someone to experiment with?
You know until recently I had never masturbated in front of a partner. So at 33 years old I learned to let myself go. My last long term partner was very inhibited in bed. He was not comfortable with the idea of me masturbating or toys or anything like that. So it took me by surprise when my current partner was so open and asked to watch me. but I knew by then he was open to most things, so I just laid back and let it go.... I started out with my eyes closed until I was relaxed enough to look directly at him while I did it....... eventually he did join in.... and it was wonderful...... man oh man...... :twisted:
I don't make it a topic of discussion with someone I am intimate with. Number one reason is that until a few months ago I was married to the only person U had ever slept with. Then in the course of a few months I "sowed my wild oats" so to speak. Two of them knew that they were not the only people I was with and the others, I operated on a don't ask don't tell basis.... They didn't ask, I didn't tell. I was safe with all but one and he is the one that I knew was going to be long term and I knew him as a friend for a long time before we ever were intimate. For the record it is five.....and for now I plan to keep it there.
Are you on any new medications? have you started the pill or switched recently? are you stressed about the wedding? maybe you should try to spend a weekend just the 2 of you and not go anywhere...maybe get a hotel room away from home to get out of a familiar setting...give each other massages, get some cool new toys and make sure your room has a hot tub, champagne, and lots of strawberries and chocolate sauce and good luck!
Thanks :) i wasnt sure how much was too much as far as bringing it up to him. I'm extremely frustrated but at the same time i dont want to hurt him.. thanks for the reply :)
See, I'm not the only one going through this frustration. He is a WONDERFUL man in every other way. But, damn it, I want to be licked!!! I would NEVER cheat on him, but I do fanatasize about just finding someone to satisfy this and me not have to do anything in return. LOL..Well I guess I'll just have to suffer. He isn't budging on this either. :cry:
I had the same problem with my husband. The very few boyfriends (That I was actually sexually active with) in my life had no problem in it. There was a hold on him however. I sat him down about once a month (not often enough for him to feel pressured about it, because we all know guys don't like pressure) and told him why I felt he needed to do this for me. It's not fair to a woman to be expected to go down on a guy, and not be gone down on in return. (My english teacher is going to kill me) The other side of this is, maybe he has issues, deeper ones that you can't see. Maybe he's never learned how. My husband, (as much as he said he's done it before) didn't have a CLUE as to what he was doing. Offer to show him what you like. Show him by doing so on his arm, or on him. Relax him on the subject. Maybe he's never had a relationship where he was asked. A lot of guys are in and out. It's possible that he's never thought of what a woman needs in bed. Maybe he had a father or buddies that he's hung around that view woman as a garage, and they are the car that needs to be parked for the night. And not something that needs to be fooled with all too much. Guys are different on so many levels because of who they hang around, what their teachings were like. It's up to the women to re-train them! :D I hope this helps.
wow...i just posted almost the same thing...i wouldnt have if i had seen this...sorry :( i feel your pain!
what part of it did you not enjoy?
Could it have been from nerves?
did you not find her as attractive?
how long have you felt this way?
if it has been just for the last few weeks...well then it could be from the stress of the wedding.
R u attracted to someone else, are you starting to feel like getting married is not the thing to do?
I am assuming you're referring to boobs...
I don't even think you can get silcone ones anymore.
Saline ones are better and safer.
Depending on how large you go...basically depends on how hard they are.
I know a gal who saline ones put in...she went from an A to a small C it's taken almost three years for her breasts to settle down and feel and appear normal.
Sounds like your med are affecting your sex drive.
I know with some meds I have taken in the past for depression had me totally disinterested in sex and I took a long time to have an orgasm.
I trully feel for you, do you think some of it might be mental like because you can't get pregnant that maybe you feel like you should not be enjoying sex...I know it really sounds dumb but sometimes our subconcious minds can control alot of things that we think we actually have full control over...
Have you thought of taking a drug vacation? Cutting doses back?
What about sex therapy?
Buck up...don't get so down on yourself. There is hope and their is an answer out there.
Thank You, for the words of advice. I will figure out how to get him to tell me the truth, the next time I see him online. I guess it just shocked me when I saw the shemales website, so the best way for me to handle it was to walk out.
Okay some of the strange porn sites could just be natually curiousity.
If it bothers you this much maybe you should express your concerns...keep the communication lines open. Be sure he knows that you won't accuse, point fingers or judge...
maybe next time you walk in on him looking at porn online you could like comment...like "wow those tits can't be real" or "thats' a pretty color"
that way he will not feel like he has to be secretive around you about it.
Hope that helps.