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  • What Can I Say When Criticized for Casual Sex & Multiple Partners?   28 weeks 6 days ago

    R,
    I say good for you, the more the better but as long as it is pleasurable and fulfilling to you. It is very liberating and frankly some women simply have stronger needs and urges. I certainly do.
    But you do not want to be doing this to seek affirmation from others or because you seek a man for permission to enjoy your pleasure. Also, I find I can achieve and sustain more pleasure from a companion who knows me better and that means having had multiple sexual experiences with.  One night stand are hit or miss and I found myself often less than satisfied and having to immediately pursue another. 
    A healthy mix of masturbation, sex with a familiar companion, and the excitement of different sexual partners may be what you need most. Now days, it is not at all unusual or taboo to enjoy sex as you do but mix it up and you may be orgasmically surprised.

  • What Can I Say When Criticized for Casual Sex & Multiple Partners?   28 weeks 6 days ago

    R,
    I say good for you, the more the better but as long as it is pleasurable and fulfilling to you. It is very liberating and frankly some women simply have stronger needs and urges. I certainly do.
    But you do not want to be doing this to seek affirmation from others or because you seek a man for permission to enjoy your pleasure. Also, I find I can achieve and sustain more pleasure from a companion who knows me better and that means having had multiple sexual experiences with.  One night stand are hit or miss and I found myself often less than satisfied and having to immediately pursue another. 
    A healthy mix of masturbation, sex with a familiar companion, and the excitement of different sexual partners may be what you need most.

  • As I Age, Wrinkle, Sag & Grow a Bigger Belly, I Refuse to be Invisible   28 weeks 6 days ago

    I don't know if this is ok, but in my opinion you're a VERY beautiful.women.
    I'm a plus size guy married to a VERY sexy plus size women, and you BOTH remind me of how beautiful a women can be.
    Thank you both !

  • What Can I Say When Criticized for Casual Sex & Multiple Partners?   29 weeks 15 hours ago

     so, why do you need to share your sex life with others?  Multiple sex partners doesn't include multipe private information sharers?  Are you certain that the titillating details are not what you are really interested in sharing?  Really, do what you like and stop being affected by what others---- say and stop telling them.  ----

    to Robin -- find a good therapist who can teach you social skills that will help. There are many books on Amazon to help Aspies know what women want, what relatioships are about as well as the various sexual acts.  This website has lots of videos etc to help you too.  Aspergers should not seem a sentence but, you're right,you need to learn some social skills.  

  • Why Interracial Porn Is Stupid   29 weeks 1 day ago

    I agree that interracial porn often involves demeaning stereotypes. As a black woman who is generally attracted to black men, I don't often find myself watching much interracial porn. Sadly, in order to find porn involving black people on mainstream sites, I'd have to search for words like "ghetto", "thug", or "hoodrat". I stick to erotic literature instead.

  • What Can I Say When Criticized for Casual Sex & Multiple Partners?   29 weeks 1 day ago

    My gf and I had a competition and probably slept with a three digits. I found out what is quality and it came in the form of my last liover before I met my dh. We were married for 39 years. He passed away 11 months ago.

    Life is full of surprises. I am in a LDR with my last lover. We are both the same age. The sex is great and different because of toys.We talk every day a lot about sex and are seeing each other in a couple of weeks. We have no baggage. The relationship satisfies the two things I want in life. A close intimate one and hot crazy sex. We are both lustful.

    He believes She Comes First. I just completed the Pleasure Pledge. Still doing it. He likes to hear about my efforts.

    I read Helen Gurley Brown's bio. She slept with 178. It continued after she married. She was orgasmic when kissing. Wonder how many were married. Last time she shagged her dh, he was 93. She was 89.

  • Need Help Explaining to BF How to Touch My Clitoris?   29 weeks 1 day ago

    Your boyfriend and you have been having reproductive sex, ie. practising for making babies for the last couple of months, which happens to be perfect for his orgasm and not for yours. 

    There is a whole range of sex out there that you could explore together, so is he willing to look beyond making babies, and find a way of sex that works for both of you? The easiest way of introducing him to your masturbation technique is to show him with some mutual masturbation "show and tell". If you can learn fellatio, he can certainly learn cunnilingus and both of you can learn what touch works best with each other.

    As a general rule, "the lady comes first" is old fashioned but well-mannered advice all young men should learn.

    & if he isn't willing to move beyond straight vanilla sex for babies, then he's not really a "keeper" long term. Selfishness in sex is always accompanied by selfishness in other parts of life.

  • Natural Cycles is a Birth Control App as Effective as the Pill   29 weeks 1 day ago

    Just to state the obvious, it might be worth being a bit careful on holiday in different time zones etc, maybe taking alternatives along with you as mostly the timing of temperature records has to be very reliable.

  • What Can I Say When Criticized for Casual Sex & Multiple Partners?   29 weeks 1 day ago

    "What can I say back, when ppl don't care about the facts or just being more positive about sex?"

    You can say that you're happy, happy to be living your life the way you want to live and with such generous warm people to support your choices.

    You could stress that you make informed decisions and always take responsbility for knowing and managing any risks that you come across.

    You can say that thankfully the world is full of very different people with very different needs and desires and wouldn't it be sad to be living in anything less. 

    And you could add that your more than happy to share any of the information or help that you've received from others along your journey.

  • Is It Legal to Sell Used, Unwashed Panties & Ship Them in the Mail?   29 weeks 1 day ago

    Of course this is legal! Stop scaremongoring in the comments. I've started doing it and think many others should. So much so I share free advice here: http://sellusedpanties.net

  • Natural Cycles is a Birth Control App as Effective as the Pill   29 weeks 1 day ago

    sounds like something unreal..how can an app be more affective than a pill??if you miscalculate something, you are done for..that's why taking a pill is a better and secure way..
    Best
    L Martin,
    do my hw service expert

  • Natural Cycles is a Birth Control App as Effective as the Pill   29 weeks 1 day ago

    But this is something the Catholics have been doing for years its called the rythem method all by just taking your temperaiture each morning and the other thing is a calender to write it down on, when it goes up then no sex, all so easy and no posh phone needed.

    How simple.

    NOWHARD  

  • As I Age, Wrinkle, Sag & Grow a Bigger Belly, I Refuse to be Invisible   29 weeks 2 days ago

         Rebekah, There is something refreshing and very erotic in what you wrote. All to often in today's society we are surrounded by such woefully manufactured views of how women should be, it is no wonder women have issues about body image. As a black male I applaud you and must state your confidence and omg that picture has me aroused to the point of dripping precum. Sorry if I am being too graphic. Needless to say I need to engage in a little fantasy and self-pleaure. 

  • Hi everybody   29 weeks 2 days ago

        To expand my erotic horizons.

  • I Sometimes Experience Bad Cramps in My Lower Tummy After Sex   29 weeks 2 days ago

    Hi Betty This is an answer, and it could be whats giving her the pains shes getting, its called a stuck orgasm, so to my answer.

    just been doing an answer on yes a stuck orgasm, doing a bit more research found this out, a stuck orgasm comes from not being relaxed, if your relaxed, it lets any orgasm or multi orgasms flow away through your body, that's why its best to just lie back and enjoy the moment.

    Does this help?

    NOWHARD

  • What Can I Say When Criticized for Casual Sex & Multiple Partners?   29 weeks 2 days ago

    Hi If its a guy doing that they would call him a stud if a women does it she tagged a slut, for me your just a studess, if it makes you happy and your enjoying your sex life than take no notice of these sick people. OK

    NOWHARD

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  • Loving This Picture of Vicky Balch   29 weeks 3 days ago

    Beautiful

  • Thinking of Labiaplasty for My Large Dark Labia   29 weeks 3 days ago

    Most sexually aware and sophisticated men would love a big mouthful of beautiful labia!

  • you decide.... circumcised or uncircumcised?   29 weeks 4 days ago

    Hi
    I was circumcised as an adult so know the before and after. I couldn't imagine why any adult male would choose circumcision. However, I discovered that many actually choose to be circumcised. What shocked me to the core was that it appeared be mainly driven by women! Couldn't believe it...
    The reasons appeared to be three-fold.
    1. Cleanliness and appearance with foreskin
    2. Appearance of the circumcised penis
    3. How do I put this? A number of women seemed happy that the circumcision effectively reduced the penis to a human dildo. The actual removal of ALL of the sensitive bits (for examply, the frenulum, my best friend) was the whole point!. The importance of THAT, it would appear, was to actively decrease the pleasure felt, in order for the guy to last longer.
    Check for yourself. Look for "circumcision" and "tumblr". 
    Mind boggling, at least to me
    Interested to see any feedback

  • At the Age of 87 I'm Still Having Orgasms   29 weeks 4 days ago

    dear dr. dodson

    reading your articles i could experience orgasm by stimulating my own clitoris ,i am 55 and never experienced orgasm with my spouse , he comes in 3 minutes ,and doesn't use much foreplay , or oral sex. so i don't have much time to masturbate during partner sex . and i begin to masturbate or use massagor after he fells asleep . he says i am cold and many women come in only 3 minutes so for many years i felt i was sick and didn't ask for sex much .  on the other hand i have had contraceptive pills for many years. i have 3 girls and these days i feel i want more sex although i don't orgasm with him . unfortunately i can not find a dildo in my country iran .  it is not legal but i use massagor on my clit and i come in 3 minutes by clit not vaginally . could you please advise what more i can do. i have started kegel excercises as well. 

  • The Absence of Pleasure Leads to Systemic Violence   29 weeks 4 days ago

    I'm heartbroken to hear this Carlin. You and Betty were instrumental in setting me on a path to being content and confident with my sexuality in my late 40s for the first time in my life. Having a lifetime of self-judgement and judgement of others lifted from me has meant the world to me. I hope you're not forced to step away by the current horrible climate. All the very best from me.

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  • Natural Cycles is a Birth Control App as Effective as the Pill   29 weeks 5 days ago

    There are plenty of apps that help you monitor your fertility and ask you to enter your temperature each morning. The difference? Those can be downloaded for free or $3.99 max and Natural Cycles costs $80/year. What's with the annual service fee? The app runs on algorithms, just like any normal calendar or FAM app. I suspect they set the price point to what women pay for birth control.
    [= 12.8px]I'm glad it's making news so that women can become more in tune with their bodies and enjoy a hormone-free, side effect-free option, but the subscription payment structure is such a turn-off.[/]

  • I'm Wet, Trembling & Breathing Hard But No Orgasm?   29 weeks 5 days ago

    So this is very embarrassing but I'd really love to get options, suggestions, help. I am 20 and I experience what I think was a orgasm almost two or three years ago which was just I got really wet I don't really know how it felt but I just can't now and I hate it I want to so bad I don't really masterbait a lot never really I'm just not horny until I'm with my significant and it's not like he doesn't pleasure me or do what ever I want because he does and it's not like his cocks to small I get really wet everytime and enjoy it and I actually try to organism I really don't understand what I'm doing wrong. I'll occasionally try and watch porn and try to find my self and I'll et wet and then just stop and I'll get alittle wet and when I do I just stop I'll lose any interest in it I don't know what im doing wrong it actually pissed me off. I've read a couple articles briefly like maybe it's because I'm so tiny down there like my clit and and vagina is so tight even if we just had sex like ten minutes later if we go again it's still really tight I'm not sure but if anyone has any advice itd be highly appreciated