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  • When I Orgasm, I Poop A Little!   16 weeks 6 days ago

    Phew I am so happy to read these other posts on this subject
    To the degree I am going to talk to my new male friend about this because I have been so embarrassed it's stopped an orgasm
    Never happened before

  • Need Help Explaining to BF How to Touch My Clitoris?   16 weeks 6 days ago

    I know it can be tricky to tell menn what to do (they are kinda thick in theirs skull sometime there). But maybe just tell him openly if he can stimuly longer on your clit, and that it would make you very happy if he did.
    If not that working, bring a vibrator and do it yourself. Guys don't always know that much about how to do these things, even the ones who have had sex for decades even. So either a person have to teach or take matters into own hands.

  • When I Orgasm, I Poop A Little!   16 weeks 6 days ago

    When my wife orgasms she would bear down, I guess it intensifies her feeling. I also notice when she orgasms during oral sex her anus pulses pretty intensely. As time went on, I found I could make her orgasms more intense when I pressed my thumb on her anus or inserted a finger in her butt during oral sex. This would make her bear down more and sometimes she would fart or start to pass a little poop(turtle head)! I know it really embarrassed her, but I could tell how this ass play was so arousing for her. One time while we were having sex, I had my finger in her vagina and I could feel through her vagina she had a big, hard turd in her rectum. I started pushing down on her back wall of her vagina. This slowly started pushing the poop out of her ass. When an inch or two passed out of her butt, she exploded in orgasm. All the while I used my thumb to resist her from passing all the poop. Afterwards she pooped. I told her if she likes that feeling of pooping during orgasm, it's okay. We just keep some towels in a dresser by the bed and lay them under her hips during sex. She is more comfortable now with her funny orgasms. She likes it so much and that I'm so understanding that she holds it in all day until we have sex. What we do know is have inter course and she's learned to control her bowels to poop just as her orgasm is starting.

  • Need Help Explaining to BF How to Touch My Clitoris?   17 weeks 2 min ago
    ?

    She's asking how to communicate how she likes her clit touched, and your advice is essentially, don't even bother; just take charge of it yourself? That doesn't seem very helpful. 

  • The Absence of Pleasure Leads to Systemic Violence   17 weeks 11 hours ago

    Dearest Carlin
    I do not often comment... but i really want to tell you how sorry I am that you have to go through this. I hope you can teach the people from ASC some valuable lessons about a healthy development of sexuality. The states are really crazy with their fear of sex. I am from Switzerland and while not everything is rosy here, we defenetily are more relaxed about sex, nakedness and parenting.
    I really like to thank you for your amazing work togehter with Betty, which is still transforming my life and the life of my friends.
    Trough this site I get the feeling of knowing you, and I look at you as a very strong worrier women. Therfore I know you have the strenght and will power to protect your family!

    Lots of love and support from Switzerland!
    Karine

  • I Got in My Bathtub & Turned the Facet on Full Blast, Slipped My Clit Under the Stream & Waited   17 weeks 2 days ago

    Anon,
    If you send your post directly to Betty Dodson (just cut and paste) into the Ask Dr Betty section, I'm sure she'd respond.

    Your partner might find it useful to try using a (waterproof) vibrator in the bath tub rather than the flow of water. Once she can orgasm with her vibrator lying in the water, she could try practicing with the vibrator lying all warm in her bed. Once she's happy with her solo orgasms in bed, she might want to think about inviting you into bed to watch and share...

  • Why Women Think They Can't Orgasm   17 weeks 3 days ago

    I am beyond words at how unbelievably happy I am I came across this post from a google search. I'm a 23 year old female, who has always felt like she couldn't have an orgasm. I was always the girl that none of the guys liked so when I was in college, I was so lonely, horny, and desparte I started sleeping with random guys just hoping one of them would know how to pleasure me. Theres been a lot of guys(something I'm not proud of, not because its wrong to have a lot of partners, but because I was doing for all the wrong reasons and wasn't being safe) and NONE of them really know/understand the kind of stimulation and expericence a girl needs. I have always blamed the internet and lack of sex ed for my generations guys not knowing what theyre doing when it comes to sex(serioulsy I can only tell a guy so many times that just because the chick in the porn videos you watch can bend that way, doesn't mean every girl can). 
    I'm rambling sorry. My point I was trying to make was, I never took the time, even when maturbating, to just enjoy the good feelings. If I start feeling really good my focus immediatetly goes to "omg am i gonna have an orgasm how?!) and I never feel like I do. I l always attributed it to the fact that I have depression and anxiety and have never learned how to just turn my brain off and relax, mixed with any medication I was taking (my dr though says the medication I'm on shouldn't have that side effect?

    It was really nice to just read this and know that I'm not alone. I take so much comformt knowing that other girls are experiencing the same things and that means theres nothing wrong with me. I always felt like I wasn't going to be good enough for the right man one day if i couldn't have an orgasm. I thought I was just differernt than everyone else. I am so happy to know i'm not alone. 

    I apologize for the lengthy comment, but I just had to express my feelings and gratitude for your post! 

  • Nudity with Strangers Makes You Happy   17 weeks 3 days ago

    It is so true if you only give it a chance. Too many women are still too self-concious and unable to give themselves permission to loosten up and explore.  However, the experience of being nude and exploring yourself in a group of non-judgemental, supportive strangers, even a small group, hs meant so much to me and I know many other women like myself.
    It breaks down all those preconceieved notions we hold that limit us from achiving the sexual and orgasmic capacity within us that is forever longing to express itself and lift us up.
    I've read that women who have allowed themselves these experiences, who are comfortable with themselves enough to be naked and masturbate with other supportive women, tend to be far more orgasmic and sexually satisfied down the road. Many actually go on to enjoy a highly orgasmic centered lifetyle and help other women toward the same.
    I, for one, am one of those women and proud of it!  Actually, nothing makes my husband more happy either than my orgasmic lifestyle either.  He's so understanding.

  • Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique   17 weeks 3 days ago

    Wow.  I never considered prostate massage but will definately try that now.
    Yes, I've read that 3 ejaculations a week is the absolute minimum for prostate health and overall sexual health as well.  However, the average guy these days exceeds that by far but it can certainly be a challange for older men or men with health conditions to maintain a healthy ejaculatory frequency. 
    I've read that most healthy men should actually strive for more than that if they seek improvement over just sustaining themselves and most do from the combination of sex and masturbation they enjoy.
    Prostate stimulation and eStimulation can enable an average, healthy man to sustain a lifestyle of several ejaculations a day which, to be honest, we all dream of whether we admit that or not. So it's no wonder that has become more popular. I'm looking forward to it.

  • I Got in My Bathtub & Turned the Facet on Full Blast, Slipped My Clit Under the Stream & Waited   17 weeks 3 days ago

    Like the person two comments above, the girl I'm dating can only seem to reach orgasm via the bath tub currently. We both want her to be able to reach it while together but it is difficult for her right now and she becomes impatient and/or frustrated which in turn makes me feel bad as she can't quite get there. Anyways, I found this as I was searching & reading trying to find any way to somewhat simulate the feeling she gets from the water if I can. Any tips on how I can do this or things I can do to help her on her journey to not needing just the tub and being able to do it together would be appreciated! I know this is an old article...

  • I Got in My Bathtub & Turned the Facet on Full Blast, Slipped My Clit Under the Stream & Waited   17 weeks 3 days ago

    Like the person two comments above, the girl I'm dating can only seem to reach orgasm via the bath tub currently. We both want her to be able to reach it while together but it is difficult for her right now and she becomes impatient and/or frustrated which in turn makes me feel bad as she can't quite get there. Anyways, I found this as I was searching & reading trying to find any way to somewhat simulate the feeling she gets from the water if I can. Any tips on how I can do this or things I can do to help her on her journey to not needing just the tub and being able to do it together would be appreciated! I know this is an old article...

  • Is It More Difficult for Large Women to Orgasm?   17 weeks 3 days ago

    Betty,
    The woman clearly stated that she realizes that her weight is an issue. Instead of acknowledging that and moving forward with the topic the way you might with a person who has another body issue or even a disability, you focused solely on her eating behaviors, shaming her further. 
    I'm truly disappointed in you. 
    Yes, her weight may be a serious health issue. You know what else may be leading to those patterns of overeating and other behaviors linked to weight gain and obesity? Depression and stress. In fact, some of that stress may be from the relationship, which may be brought on by an unsatisfactory sex life... which you have the power and knowledge to help with, but instead opted to chastise her and give her the same advice that every fat woman has heard over and over in their life. 
    Your response was lazy and dripping with personal bias. 
    I used to truly respect you and enjoy your work. Now I can see you're just like everyone else. 

    L

  • How Do I Maintain My Erection?   17 weeks 4 days ago

    Your response the "nail right on the head" for me. Married for 42 years, my wife has become increasingly lazy with sex. For the first ten years, she was a tiger in bed. Then as her body weight increased, she lost interest in all things active...including sex.

    Frequency dropped way below the norm for couples our age. She even got to the point where she would change the TV channel if a program suddenly showed scene with a woman in a bikini or underwear.
    Sexually, she became the taker and I became the giver. She basically laid there and dictated what I would do to her. It finally reached the point where she stated that vaginal dryness hurt her too much for penetration, and all she wanted was a quick dry hump. She doesn't even want oral because it makes her cum more than once.
    It has become difficult for me to maintain an erection with someone who just wants to "get it over with". I've bought her a couple of vibrators to bring some fun into our sex life, but she got indignant and won't even open them.  She's perfectly happy with sex twice a year...even if she doesn't need it.
    What is one to do? Have I spoiled her? Has she lost all interest in me because I'm here and too available?  She is totally absorbed in reading romance novels. Maybe I just can't compete with her imagination?

  • Soft Penetration is a Great Way to Deepen Our Connection   17 weeks 6 days ago

    Sorry for my question, I'm not english speaking and I don't understand what you mean when you reffer to ' a man can let his partner penetrate him' you mean anal penetration?

  • The Absence of Pleasure Leads to Systemic Violence   18 weeks 12 hours ago

    thank you for all these supportive comments.  We're making out way through this minus a week of sleep plus a few arguments. 

    You're all so right.  When I look at Grayson and he smiles back at me I know that I'm a great mom and it will all work out.  I just have to let go and let it run its course.  

    <3 

  • Something About a Woman in Leather on a Bike   18 weeks 1 day ago

    Some guys say it's really beautiful, but I don't see anything spectacular in that. I feel more excited when a woman is working with a laptop with http://customwritingcompany.com/. It can be a housewife with a cup of coffee. Besides, leather is taken from poor animals.

  • The Absence of Pleasure Leads to Systemic Violence   18 weeks 3 days ago

    Be confident in the love you feel for your child and for your parenting skills which are manifold. 

    Both will be very clear to the ACS (child welfare) whatever or whoever caused their visit.

    Do not let yourself become fearful or to doubt - your child needs your confidence, your openess and delight in him and in life. 

    Think of the most important lessons that you wish your child to learn: love, gentleness, kindness, strength, confidence, open hearted and open minded. 

    Know that you are loved, within your family and beyond. You are the delight of your son's life, his strength and tenderness.

    Live your life accordingly.

  • The Absence of Pleasure Leads to Systemic Violence   18 weeks 3 days ago

    Dear One,
    My heart hurts for you and your family. You and Betty have led the transition for 'us' to claim our power. You have been the wayshowers and now it is time for those of us who have stayed too long in the background to come forward and to show ourselves and our resolve of, "NO MORE!

    Sending healing thoughts. IF there is anything to be done please let us know.

    Thank you for sharing this.

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  • Is It Possible For Girls to have an Orgasm From Hitting the Cervix?   18 weeks 4 days ago

    I only began having Cervical orgasms after my 2nd child was born (I had a cesarean with my first child). I later left the relationship with the father, and  began seeing someone who had a bigger penis with a slight curve and my sex life has never been the same. I have entered a zone which I wish I had known about much earlier. My partner teases my cervix by alternating with deep and shallow thrusts. Extremely intense wave after wave of orgasms. We both feel so connected. It is as if we were literally made for each other. I can't imagine sex with anyone else. My gynaecologist says I have a forward tilting cervix. Beautiful sex, no matter how it happens is just Heaven on Earth! 

  • The Absence of Pleasure Leads to Systemic Violence   18 weeks 6 days ago

    Hi Carlin,

    First let me say that I and many others believe both you and Betty are providing an extremely valuable service to society.  However, it is also very sad but true that there is a significant segment of society that would call your work a travesty on society.
     

     Unfortunately, politicians and other lawmakers are reluctant to support ideas like those that you and Betty expound on because it is difficult for them to defend their positions at election time.  Progressive ideas are usually slow to take root in a society and usually are only pushed forward by rallies and demonstration by thousands of people over time.

    Back to your personal problem, I feel for you from personal experience.  Almost 50 years ago when my wife and I had our children (two daughters) we tried raising them with a positive attitude
    towards sex and nudity in the family.  When our oldest daughter was about eleven she and a neighborhood friend (boy) were playing together (you show me yours and I will show you mine) and were caught by his mother.  The mother went into a rage and accused our daughter of starting it.  She may have for all we know, however we thought it was normal behavior
    for kids that age.  Our daughter was so embarrassed that it left a deep and lasting impression on her that affected her till this day.  It would take a book to explain all the trauma she went through that could be traced back to this incident.

    Our world is controlled by a society that feels sex is the root of all evil.  It’s a wonder the human race hasn’t gone extent and who knows it may yet.  I and many other people believe the way you are raising Grayson is the best way to ensure he has a positive outlook on life.  However, we are in the minority and thus would lose if forced to fight for our believes.  The only way to win is to hold onto our believes, and raise generation after generation until someday maybe a future generation can change society.

    The bottom line is that despite all of your good intentions there is no way you can protect yourself or Grayson from the outside world.  You are a very intelligent woman and I know you have sacrificed a lot to get where you are.  Please do not lose sight of your goals of raising Grayson with a positive outlook on his sexuality.  However, keep in mind that it can back fire on you as it did with our family.  Be very, very careful.

    You are a wonderful person and I wish you and Grayson all the best.

  • Planned Parenthood is NOT Selling Baby Parts   18 weeks 6 days ago

    Planned parenthood should be a priority of every couple, however abortion should not be an option.  Couples should be responsible when it comes to planning to have their own children, never indulge in satisfaction when you are not responsible enough to be parents.  Just like the stories posted via https://rankly.com/list/top-10-cv-editing-services which are eye opening scenarios of parenthood.

  • Dealing with Extreme Vaginal Pain & My Clitoris Feels Dead   19 weeks 12 hours ago


    Hi
    C,

    My wife has just completed treatment from a Dr. Cherie LeFevre in St. Louis
    (314-977-7455).  Dr. LeFevre's practice deals only with problems of the
    vulva.  My wife's story is very similar to yours.  She was also
    diagnosed from a biopsy as having Lichen's Sclerosis.  We were unable
    to have sex because of her pain.  Within 6 weeks Dr. LeFevre had her pain
    reduced to a point we could start having sex again.  In my wife’s case Dr.
    LeFevre used an all out assault on allergens of anytime, anywhere anyhow. 
    Nothing but cotton underwear, no soaps with any scents, nothing but natural
    oils (such as almond oil), no fancy toilet paper with scents.  She also
    gave her medications for a yeast infection, just in case.

    Similar to your story, my wife had been to every OBGYN in the area, none of
    them seemed to know what they were doing although they all gave her more
    medicines.  Dr. LeFevre said they were all wrong, stop doing everything
    they are telling you.  We both were in tears after Dr. LeFevre examined my
    wife and said I don't think you have Lichen's Sclerosis, she gave us HOPE and
    low and behold she was correct.  And to top it off, she recommended Crisco
    twice a day in the vagina to keep it lubricated.  Who would have guessed
    Crisco, but it worked.  Keep in mind my wife is 66 years young and of
    course post-menopausal. 

    Dr. LeFevre also told us of some real horror stories of women who did not take
    care of their problem.  My advice to you is to get to a doctor who specializes
    in treating problems of the Vulva, not a OBGYN there is a difference between
    the two types of practices.

    Good Luck!

     

  • I Want to be Slutty But My Vagina Won't Let Me   19 weeks 14 hours ago

    Hi A good place to start might be with some dildos or vibrators of differant sizes and start your way into masturbating with them as this should open up your way into sex.

    Getting used to either dildos or vibrators will only helps you understand what it feels like to have sex and can only carry you forward to full sex with a man.

    Dont forget safe sex is the best sex, if your not on BC could be the time to start, if your not sure about your guy use comdoms even if you are on the pill.

    Keep it safe, relax and have fun.

    NOWHARD

  • I Should Feel Guilty For Wanting More…   19 weeks 16 hours ago

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