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  • I Have Absolutely No Sex Drive   18 weeks 4 days ago

    No, it's not normal for a woman of your age, or at least does not have to be.
    Betty's given good advice to check with your doctor to see what the potential side effects of your medication might be and what the options are around finding some that can leave your sexlife intact. Make sure that your doctor takes your sexdrive seriously and look for a second opinion if you're not happy with their advice.

    Decent lubricants are essential and should always be checked to make sure they're compatible with your birthcontrol of choice. Take the pressure off partnersex with a little more self-loving, which may or may not lead to orgasm each time as you start to find your way with your new body. It's a bit like re-discovering your lover part-way through a marriage, persist and your sex life will be better.

    Menopause varies from woman to women but everyone suggests it requires a sense of humour, patience and a WTF attitude.  You will get your body back, a little different but still you.

  • The French First Couple is Perfection   18 weeks 4 days ago

    Apparently the age gap between France's new first couple and America's first couple is much the same, though obviously flipped by gender. 

    Aside from that similarity, there are a couple of obvious differences. Brigitte Trogneux has kept the use of her maiden name unlike Melania Trump, has a life of her own, and perhaps most importantly always looks delighted to be around her husband.

    She's also fairly aware of not only her own appeal but its limitations. When asked about her husband's bid for the presidency last September, she replied with a dreadful yet very self-aware truth. "He has to do it in 2017" she told the writer Nicolas Prisette, "because by 2022, his problme will be my face".

  • When Women are Disconnected from Themselves They have Disconnected Partner Sex   18 weeks 6 days ago

    I think it is so wonderful you discovered yourself and your passion through masturbation with the help of Betty's workshop. It's so generous and caring that you have become a deciple to spread the word and help others embrace a masturbatory lifestyle as you have done. That will make such a positive difference in so many lives.
    We should not depend upon our partners for sexual satisfaction.  It is unfair to them and frankly dishonest to ourselves.  That's not what love is.  Love is mutually supporting each other, empowering each other, accepting, helping each other develop in whatever ways they need, orgasmic or otherwise.
    I'd love it if you blogged and share your progress and stories.  That could help others just like yourself who have taken it upon themselves to spread the positive and essential message of masturbation.  Makes me proud as an older women now knowing things are improving.

    Marti

  • My Clit is Too Sensitive to Orgasm   19 weeks 9 hours ago

    It's called sexual anhedonia. You experience the physial effects of the orgasm (everything you've described) without feeling the chemical pleasure. 

  • Does the Penis Have 8,000 Nerve Endings Like the Clitoris?   19 weeks 2 days ago

    Hi I always thought there was around 16000 nerve ending at the frenulum but looking to back this info up, cant find where I got that from, theres a mention of between 10.000 and 20.000 nerve endings but seems no one has ever counted them, so would this be the same for a women having 8.00?

    But this site looks to be interesting for answers.
    norm dot org/losthtml

    But it still comes up with 10.00 to 20.00 at the head of a male penis, which could be right when you think of the size of a male gland to the size of a clitoris, and with circumcision so much of those nerve endings get lost.

    NOWHARD

  • How Can I Help My Boyfriend Keep His Erection?   19 weeks 3 days ago

    Dear Betty,
    I'm hoping to get your input on my situtation.
    [= 12.8px]The guy I'm dating can't stay hard for more than a couple minutes during penetration. I either have to cum very quickly during penetration or he willl bring me to orgasm by oral and manual, but the most satisfying orgasm for me is penetration with clitoral stimulation. He says I get to wet that's why he loses his erection, but all the men I've been with love how wet I get. Lately I've been feeling less enthusiastic about our sex life because he requires a lot of time and stimulation to orgasm and has difficulty staying hard. Thank you for any feedback! [/]

  • The barbell   19 weeks 4 days ago

    I think it is healthy and positive you are fantasizing about this and willing to share.  All I can say is, why wait for the experience.  I've always considered myself straight and I have a loving, understanding husband.  But the day I finally lightened up on myself and gave myself permission to masturbate with one of my girlfriends, it became so easy for me to embrace that as a regular thing and I have never looked back.  I hope you will do the same.

    Martha B

  • Am I Asexual?   19 weeks 4 days ago

    These days, we are so much more accepting of different lifestyles but they can be constricting sometimes.  AutoSexual, Asexual, masturbatory lifestyle, whatever you want to call it, has become quite common and even popular.  That does not mean you are unable to have fun and share with partners and new experiences can be rewarding and educational.
    I suggest hooking up with another masturbator, same or different sex, and masturbate together.  No expectations for anything else.  Mutual masturbation is normal and common and, these days, its so easy to find people on-line and in clubs who are looking for the same.
    After a few sessions, than you may be comfortable with each other enough to try other things and it will feel natural. That's actually how my husband and I found each other.  We were both avid masturbators and met at a masturbation party hosted by a girlfriend of mine. 
    We still masturbate quite a lot alone and online, over webcam, with our network or online friends.  But we also masturbate together and even enjoy intercourse or oral on occassion.  I think that is life these days.
    Martha

  • Am I Asexual?   19 weeks 4 days ago

    These days, we are so much more accepting of different lifestyles but they can be constricting sometimes.  AutoSexual, Asexual, masturbatory lifestyle, whatever you want to call it, has become quite common and even popular.  That does not mean you are unable to have fun and share with partners and new experiences can be rewarding and educational.
    I suggest hooking up with another masturbator, same or different sex, and masturbate together.  No expectations for anything else.  Mutual masturbation is normal and common and, these days, its so easy to find people on-line and in clubs who are looking for the same.
    After a few sessions, than you may be comfortable with each other enough to try other things and it will feel natural. That's actually how my husband and I found each other.  We were both avid masturbators and met at a masturbation party hosted by a girlfriend of mine. 
    We still masturbate quite a lot alone and online, over webcam, with our network or online friends.  But we also masturbate together and even enjoy intercourse or oral on occassion.  I think that is life these days.
    Martha

  • Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique   19 weeks 4 days ago

    Older Lovers,
    I loved your comment and think it's so wonderful you accept your need and your wife is so understanding and willing to help you with it.  You and she are surely enlightened and love each other very much.  She shold get an award for having you edge and prolong your sessions. That can increase the pleasure, strength, and volume of a man's ejaculation so much.
    Your urologist was frank and honest with you about your need to ejaculate at least 3 times a week and I think we should stress the "at least" part.  Some urologists are not and leave their patients wanting and at risk. Fortunately, with such easy access to information these days, more men alreay know for themselves the importance of ejaculating regularly and often, and they do.  
    My own husband is a once to twice a day ejaculator and we love to enjoy that together even when we're not having sex.  Years ago he was at risk for prostate problems but after increasing his ejaculations he has been fine.

    Martha

  • I Can Never Seem to Get Myself All the Way There   19 weeks 5 days ago

    @ 7yeardryspell,

    You’re rather off topic here however it would seem the advice Betty gave T which I hear as “Know Thy Self” might be something that would do you well also. And as Betty points out it is not just knowing one’s self it is doing something in a positive direction to bring about change. So, 7yeardryspell, you have been drinking a lot. And you have not been having sex and when you did it might have been the excitement sex AKA sealed off sex not the intimate kind that builds bonds and keeps them well oiled – allows for exploring one’s physiological ramifications of emotion and connection to your self and another human being.
    You did not mention what the pain your wife was suffering where fore she elected a hysterectomy or offer us any insight as to how her recovery has been. You might want to read Carlin’s posts on her recovery from childbirth and how long and how hard she and her husband worked to get her vagina back on line. Think as you read Carlin’s post here; think about how you might empathize with what your wife has encountered all these 7 years.
    Through the complaining and blaming I’m hearing a woman, a wife, very dedicated to her marriage by her reaction to your brain bleed. I’m hearing she is terrified of loosing you to death. But if you hit the bottle again that’s the last straw. But being present with life and your wife requires more than not being “zombi” i.e. loosing your self in the bottle or dead. I’d guess. Is it being ‘present’ that is being requested of you?
    So think about how much this woman loves you. Empathize with her loneliness, her pain of you being lost in your self, the bottle, distant, possible seal off in excitement sex effects the bond. Give your self; self empathy as well for your loss of connection to her. You might want to check out the work of Sue M. Johnson and her ground breaking work with attachment and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
    Again Betty’s advice to T; “Start doing Yoga, swimming, running or some form of movement you enjoy to get into your body.” Wake up man, smell the goodness of life aground you. Stop looking to blame life itself, sealing your self off, instead embrace life with positive action, be present and live.

  • Is My Penis Too Small?   19 weeks 6 days ago

    Hi D Yes at 4 inchs your not very long and your girth is not great to say the least.

    So what can you do to improve your manhood, look go and have a look round wwww.pegym.com the pe stands for penis enlargment and yes it can be done.
    But its not a quick fix to get good gains it does take time, so be prepared for
    the long haul, if you go this way, your find lots of help on the, a guy called Big Al
    is the real guy to get under his wing if you can.

    A warning do just follow what you are told to do and how to do it, never go off track,
    do that you could end up with ED even if its only temporary and these little hic-cups
    dont help, so your warned.OK

    But its worked for me and can still gain at nearly 70? why well we all need a hobby.

    NOWHARD

  • If Men Lived in a Woman's World   20 weeks 1 hour ago

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  • The Benefits of Foreskin   20 weeks 2 days ago

     A YouTube playlist of videos by women who say they've been with both cut and uncut partners, and prefer uncut. This playlist includes both videos by Betty and Carlin that talk about the foreskin.
    https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSMMxv--ZgLIYXjUhFIqdFm1ffOLWjki8

  • Why are American Women Biased Against Intact Penises?   20 weeks 2 days ago

     A YouTube playlist of videos by women who say they've been with both cut and uncut partners, and prefer uncut:
    https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSMMxv--ZgLIYXjUhFIqdFm1ffOLWjki8

  • I Believed the Man Who Raped Me had Permanently Damaged Me   20 weeks 2 days ago

     A YouTube playlist of videos by women who say they've been with both cut and uncut partners, and prefer uncut:
    https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSMMxv--ZgLIYXjUhFIqdFm1ffOLWjki8

  • Is My Penis Too Small?   20 weeks 3 days ago

    Dear D, There are small, narrow penises and shallow, narrow vaginas, extra long penises and extra deep vaginas. Such is the variety of human anatomy, the question is to find a mate who corresponds to you physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. The Kama Sutra speaks to the different dimensions of male and female genitalia and recommends sex among participants of similar dimension. Betty does well in recommending you develop skills stimulating the clitoris. Whether you want to supplement your penis with sex toys is your choice. I would suggest you investigate the many intercourse positions appropriate for your equipment. Bottom line: love yourself, be your best lover, masturbate edging orgasms, love your cock. If you'd like a unique perspective on masturbation, check out my website- www.therpom.com
    Journey well,
    Bila

  • I Can Never Seem to Get Myself All the Way There   20 weeks 6 days ago

    I posted this in the forum, but I really wanted to ask you about this:

    Seven years ago my wife had a hysterectomy, and then six months later I had a stroke (bleeding stroke).

    In that six months we had sex a couple of times and it was fantastic, but I noticed the lack of enthusiasm from her.

    However, since I had the stroke, we have not had sex once.

    I have tried and tried to no avail as she claims that my doctor thought that I was not healthy enough for sex, even though my doctor has given me the go ahead as I have completely recovered.

    So that has been her excuse to stay away from intmacy.

    We are now in our late 50's and have been together for close to 35 years and had an awesome sex life up until her operation, and everything else in our relationship is great!

    We did all kinds of stuff to keep our sex life active over the years . . .

    As an example, one night when I got home from work I found a huge piece of plastic laid out on the livingroom floor, with her sitting in the middle dressed in my favorite kinky outfit of hers (I'm a leg man, so nylons, garter belts and/or pantyhose is my turn on...and she knows it), with a gallon of ice creme, a large bottle of Hershey's chocolate syrup and a can of Rediwhip.

    She then told me to sit down on the couch and watch while she made herself into the most tasty ice creme sundae I've ever had in my life!

    Damn . . . thinking about that night that I will never forget has got me all fired up again!

    Anyway, that should give a little insight into what our sex life once was.

    In those seven years I have been repeatedly turned down for sex, and when I try to make any advances I get shot down and left hanging, as it were.

    Again, blaming it on my stroke.

    I went into a deep depression and started drinking whiskey heavily for about two years as I was seriously considering finding sex from someone else, but I'm not built that way and have never once cheated on her or any other of the women I have been with before we got together.

    But I almost did, which is why I used the drinking to stop me from stepping out on her.

    I quit drinking eight months ago as it almost ruined our marriage . . . but for some reason I didn't have the guts to really tell her why I started boozing.

    Well, now for some reason, I am suddenly more horny than I ever was when I was 18 (and I was a horndog back then), so two months ago I reactivated my quest for sex, and I came clean about the drinking and why I did it.

    That was when the bomb fell . . . she told me that she has absolutely no desire for sex anymore and is totally put off any time I try to make any advances or even a little dirty talk (which used to get us both going at a moments notice), and that she doesn't appreciate it when I do that and wants me to stop.

    Now, she said that she would 'try', but two months later still nothing . . . we are no closer to a solution!

    Me . . . I'm about to explode and she knows this!

    I've been having anxiety attacks over this, and the other night on my way home from work I stopped at three different liquor stores, but talked myself out of going in.

    I told her this when I got home, but she just said if I started drinking again she would hit the road.

    I'm at the end of my rope and as it looks right now, we may never be able to do the most wonderful thing that life gives us . . . each other and sex!

    I've had a few oportunities from some other women and turned them down, but now I'm seriously considering this . . . but don't want to!

    What I really want is to somehow get that old spark back but I am daily reminded that this may not ever happen.

    What is a guy to do in this situation?

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  • It's Not About the Orgasm   21 weeks 1 day ago

    I love reading your stories and musings as life evolves and changes for the both of you. I so hope to make it to a workshop in the near future! xxxx

  • If Men Lived in a Woman's World   21 weeks 6 days ago

    Women's rights are certainly different around the world. Some countries, women can be beaten or killed for merely showing a strand of hair, while in other areas, our rights as fully equal human beings are secured. academic coursework help I haven't travelled out of this country much, and when I did, it was as an American tourist pre- Iraq war part two, so I was treated well anyway. There's a lot of places that have very backwards ideas about women's rights. To a certain extant, the US itself can barely be arsed to care about our rights. Check out the rape conviction statistics and reports of court cases if you want to be utterly horrified. Some places are extremely bad about this stuff, like Saudi Arabia and Iran, but very few nations are blameless.

  • I Can Only Masturbate to Orgasm Face Down on My Stomach   22 weeks 9 hours ago

    What happened to you is that you sucked air into your vagina. It's completely normal and you're fine.