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Marty Klein hit the nail on the head again in his latest issue of Sexual Intelligence:

Newsweek recently called out Oprah for being a quack. In a cover story titled "Crazy Talk: Oprah, Wacky Cures & You," they cited shows she's enthusiastically done on cancer, autism, and other subjects featuring non-experts offering ineffective or dangerous medical tips. She also endorses mystical new age "thinking" as a health strategy.

One thing Newsweek didn't mention was Oprah's ignorant, destructive positions on sex.

Take sexual orientation, for example-a subject that's been in the news once or twice lately. As recently as 10 weeks ago, Oprah was asking psychologist Lisa Diamond if women turn to other women sexually "because of a shortage of men." Oprah also wondered why, when women turn away from men, so many seem to choose women who don't, um, look so feminine.

I had to post this woman's rant on the lack of oral sex reciprocity.  Unless a man knows how to "go down", it's been my experience that it's not worth it. Instead of a shower nozzle, I prefer my Hitachi ;)

Don't shoot the messenger but here is "Renee's" position:

Sex, Sex, Sex and more Sex. We are so obsessed with sex that we often attach it to things that it has no relation to and when it comes to the actual conversations about intercourse, we use ridiculous euphemisms to highlight our supposed discomfort. Speaking directly is something that is often discouraged in women and yet we are expected to be overwhelmed with our lovers prowess even when they leave us wanting to reach for a vibrator.

Sexually men are understood as predatory and in constant image search of sex and this dynamic is routinely played out in the bedroom. No man is ever to shy to say suck my dick and often fellatio is perceived as a necessary prerequisite to copulation. A woman that does not enjoy giving head or finds it repulsive, is image deemed to be sexually repressed. When it is about a mans pleasure suddenly the idea of female sexual purity dissipates... Erections often lead to a loss of supposed sexual morality; orgasms before slut shaming.

Eric Francis has been my astrologer and I've been his sex teacher who inspired him to publicly embrace masturbation. His "Book of Blue" has grown into a delightful diary of a courageous and talented young man exploring life, sex and himself with a camera and the written word:

I think vulvas are gorgeous-and I do mean some of the most beautiful creations of nature. Yes, I am chick happy. But this is a special passion for me; and the vulva is no ordinary physical or biological object. It is, for most of us, the gateway to life. It has many other roles, but we owe the vulva its due as the portal into human existence, as designed by nature. And for that reason alone, it's worthy of the highest praise.

When it comes down to it, relationships take a ton of time.  I never thought of the hookup as the replacement for dating...and I never thought of it as a time management issue.  Thank you NPR for this piece on Sex Without Intimacy:

The hookup - that meeting and mating ritual that started among high school and college students - is becoming a trend among young people who have entered the workaday world. For the many who are delaying the responsibilities of marriage and child-rearing, hooking up has virtually replaced dating.

It is a major shift in the culture over the past few decades, says Kathleen Bogle, a professor of sociology and criminal justice at La Salle University.

Young people during one of the most sexually active periods of their lives aren't necessarily looking for a mate. What used to be a mate-seeking ritual has shifted to hookups: sexual encounters with no strings attached.

First I absolutely love your videos. At 22 I've only had sex once a few months ago and i've been masturbating for about 5 years but had never fingered myself. Then, I was being adventerous (woo) and looking at myself in the mirror and as usual was disgusted by the vagina. icky, gross, not normal (like the pornstars).  So i got online trying to find actual pictures of different vaginas so i could figure out what was wrong with mine (yeah, that was actually my thought.) Then, it was like jesus sun rays coming through my window directly onto my vag as I discovered Dodson's drawing collection of different vulva and found mine.

I possibly danced naked for a second, at the joy. THEN, i fall onto the website and then the videos and then the entire video collection here on youtube and i'm pretty sure i watched all of them in one sitting. You guys have answered nearly every question i've ever had and some i didnt know i had yet. I told my friends it was my sexual awakening. No longer afraid/grossed out by my vagina, brave and excited to try new things, not feeling guilty for some of my fantasies. I'm a little bit in love with you two.

Found this on Jamye Waxman's blog. Brilliant:

Now we know why they have to bus in to New York AND THERE ARE SO MANY LATE TERM ABORTIONS:

We got back from our conference to a stack of Ask Dr Betty questions about how to have a vaginal orgasm. Betty's been answering this same question since 1968. It's all clit all the time whether its direct or indirect. And Betty found Anne Koedt's original thesis The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm.

While I appreciate this woman's honesty and respect her feelings, her blog entry is a perfect example of a woman with a limited sexual script. Or call it "sex style." She was fortunate to get as far as she did on monogamous marital sex.

It's sad to hear anyone longing for something that is really quite available, if not in the flesh, in our minds at least. Nothing like a cyber affair to spice up your selfloving or delving into the darkest recesses of our minds for better masturbation fantasies with an array of fabulous sextoys.

I've spent my career separating partnersex from solosex from threewaysex from groupsex. They all have their time and place. I want to tell her to buy a massage. Consider one with "full release" or how about an escort service? Or any young man who delivers or fixes inside or outside the house. And why do so many women turn to other women for sexual pleasures when partnersex leaves a marriage? In the end, I felt her testimony represents so many women in the world who were raised to be dependent on one man for all of their sexual needs.

Thanks, Robin, for the link:

We're in Phoenix for the AASECT conference. It will be our first joint presentation and the debut of the first 2 clips from our Sex Skills Series.

Truthout's piece on child beauty pageants brought back a painful memory from childhood.  Mother was nearly perfect except the time she entered me in a beauty contest when I was five. I wore a two piece bathing suit with a BIG bow on top of my Shirley Temple sausage curls. Mother rehearsed me to walk up to the front of the stage, put my hand on my hip and say, "Why don't you come up and see me sometime?"

I was the sweet little girl on the Good Ship Lollypop combined with Mae West, the most brazen outspoken sexual woman of her time. On the day of the contest I was running a fever but determined to follow through.

Thank you, Anita, for the link: