Lifestyle

Everything You Need to Know About the Bodysex Workshops

Thu, 01/31/2013 - 16:20
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative.  They're done in the nude but it's not sexual.  It's about building sisterhood and healing body shame.

The next workshops will be held in the Spring on these dates:

May 25 & 26
June 22 & 23

They take place at Betty's apartment in midtown manhattan from 1-6pm Saturday and Sunday. 

The price is $1,000 and that includes everything you'll need (you get to take the vaginal barbell home with you).  I wish every young woman could take a workshop and connect with herself as part of her sexual rite of passage.

If you're traveling from out of town here are some hotels close to Betty's apartment:

Menopause & Hormone Replacement: One Sexologist’s Personal Experience

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Sat, 02/12/2011 - 17:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

To my knowledge, there is no one-size-fits-all solution for a woman to remain vaginally active long past menopause without some kind of Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). It's unfortunate, but each of us must find our own path through trial and error. First off, menopause varies greatly. What many don't know is that more than half of all women in the USA have little to no uncomfortable symptoms. After all, it's a natural transition we all experience. Others suffer with hot flashes, night sweats, sleeplessness, memory loss, etc., symptoms that will eventually pass. However, medical professionals along with our overzealous pharmaceutical companies have turned menopause into a deficiency that needs to be treated.

Let’s Grow Up & Stop Destroying Families Because of Sex

Wed, 05/22/2013 - 07:44
Submitted by Fateh Alix Born

There’s a really endearing scene in Grey’s Anatomy where two young doctors try to have a discreet conversation about sex in front of a patient. April says “I told him I’ve never been to the carnival but I have and now I don’t know what to do.” Meredith replies “I love the carnival. I go to the carnival any chance I get.” I could not agree more. In fact, I love the carnival so much I often go alone.

This carnival comparison got me thinking about monogamy.

Have you ever really considered what a big responsibility it is to be monogamous?

Suck a C*ck on Camera...Denied

Tue, 05/21/2013 - 08:50
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Americans consume more pornography than any country in the world...the Bible Belt consumes the most. I believe that porn consumption tracks directly with sexual repression. When we make something taboo, we want it even more.

In the ultimate hypocritical move, several banks have denied adult stars and adult companies bank accounts and loans citing "moral" grounds.

Chanel Preston (featured left) went public when her bank opened an account in her company's name then closed it the next day when she admitted working in the adult industry. You so know that someone in the bank pulled up her web cam site and they spent all afternoon watching clips before revoking her account.

Punched in the Asshole

Mon, 05/20/2013 - 08:06
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Reid Mihalko is one of our favorite "sex geeks".  I remember the day when Betty shared this story...she was a bit chagrined.  She doesn't know what came over her but she did punch Reid in the asshole:

Nudity is the Healing

Sat, 05/18/2013 - 09:13
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Not many New York women know that it's completely and totally legal to go topless anywhere & anytime as long as it's for a "non-commercial" purpose.  You can't charge people to look at your breasts. We owe this privilege to the tireless efforts of performance artist and photographer Holly Van Voast (pictured left).

She's been arrested numerous times for bearing her breasts in public (she went topless at Hooters, a public park and in front of a public school). This year the NYPD is training their officers that they can't arrest women solely for going topless (they can arrest you if your simulating sex or masturbating while topless).

Christy Turlington: I Can't Wait to be 50

Fri, 05/17/2013 - 17:02
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Christy Turlington is a 44 year-old supermodel who hasn't had any plastic surgery and doesn't plan to...ever. In her latest interview with Harper's Bazaar, she confessed that she "can't wait to be 50".

It's so refreshing to hear a woman welcome age. Her livelihood is her face and to forego treatments that could extend her career is pretty f*cking noble.

I was searching for an image of Christy and googled "Christy Turlington no photoshop". I found this image which was entitled "wrinkly face Christy". Wow. So many male actors have visible wrinkles. Why are we so offended to see a female face graced by age?

I've been looking into laser treatments to get rid of the sun damage on my face...time to refocus.

The Golden Age of Pornography

Thu, 05/16/2013 - 07:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is a photo from Barbara Nitke's new book American Ecstasy. She documented the "Golden Age" of porn working on adult movie sets in New York during the 1980s.

“It’s hard to imagine now, but back then, there was no Internet, no video cassette players, no DVDs,” Nitke reminisced, "people went out to downtown movie theatres to watch porn movies. We shot them on 35 mm film with big cameras and fairly big crews.

It was a wonderful time in the porn world because we felt we were part of the indie filmmaking world, and that our porn movies could one day be considered mainstream.”

Men...in Labor

Wed, 05/15/2013 - 07:53
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is adorable and these men are great sports. My mom tells a story of hearing my father on the phone saying how easy delivering my sister was - all 9 pounds of her. My mother confronted him holding a ten pound bag of sugar and said, "imagine squeezing this out of your urethra". He apologized:

I Once Believed the Sexual Double Standard Favored Men

Tue, 05/14/2013 - 08:30
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Lately I’ve been getting men requesting sex coaching sessions similar to the work I do with women. While I believe this kind of sex training would make a big difference for them and their partners, private hands-on sessions with a man is called “prostitution” by our government.

Unfortunately, this remains illegal although it’s a victimless crime. Even a woman doing erotic massage is flirting with John Law. You can thank our puritanical government filled with lying, phony Christians, Mormons and Jews who consistently get caught “cheating” but end up redeemed after a round of public humiliation and they promise to seek professional help.

Angelina Jolie's Medical Choice

Tue, 05/14/2013 - 08:12
Submitted by Carlin Ross

In a complete un-celebrity move, Angelina Jolie wrote a piece for the Times about her choice to have a double masectomy. Her mother died of breast cancer and she carries the same gene BRCA1 leaving her with a 87% chance of developing breast cancer too.

I can't imagine what it's like to be deemed "the most beautiful woman in the world" - have this huge career and live every moment fearing for your life. But she had a choice and she took it:

The Variation of Clitoral Hoods

Mon, 05/13/2013 - 16:20
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This graphic charting the variation of clitoral hoods was posted on a tumblr blog Uncutting - it was created by a 22 year-old guy who's currently restoring his foreskin and opposed to infant circumcision.  He wondered whether clitoral hoods followed the same range in "coverage" as the Foreskin Coverage Index.  They did. 

I never thought of the clitoral hood as being the vulva equivalent of the foreskin.  In our last bodysex workhsop during genital show & tell, one of the women had a very large and beautiful clitoral hood.  It was the largest hood I've ever seen.  I swear I could look at genitals all day.

Did I Have to Do a Body Reset

Sat, 05/11/2013 - 12:04
Submitted by Carlin Ross

At the beginning of each season, I head to my closet and try on my clothes from last year. It's about figuring out what I "want" to buy and what I "need" to buy before heading to the shops. For the last several years, I've spent xmas in Barbados so it's only been a few months since I've been in jean shorts and sundresses.

Did I have to do a body reset. Since going off the pill, my body has been in a state of flux. First, I gained a few pounds right on my stomach. I didn't freak out but decided to embrace my new body. Then I noticed that my hips and ass kind of leaned out a bit...that was fine too. I've always had to sculpt my lower body because that was where I put on weight. Now it was about my core. Got it.