Lifestyle

Was looking at a favorite pinup model today named Suzie Q. Her interview mentioned how she retained her nipple sensitivity while going from a B - C size to a D cup. I have discussed breast enhancement / augmentation with lovers before and the issue that gives them pause, besides back issues, clothes fitting, and difficulty with exercise, is loss of nipple sensitivity and scars. Suzie Q is the first I've heard with no visible scarring or loss of nipple sensitivity because they go in through the underarm. Thought I'd put that out there for women who are interested in a larger cup size and keep their nipple eroticism. This sounds like it would make breastfeeding with augmented breasts possible too. Although I admittedly don't know anything specific about that topic.

It was summer of 2007, the year that one of the most ubiquitous lifestyle pieces covered in major media outlets was the emergence of a very interesting fitness phenomenon - pole dancing for everyone! I was preparing to go into my second year of my master's program in psychology and was working with a preeminent sex therapist. Not convinced that becoming a clinician was the route for me I was looking for a sexuality topic to create a research program around.

The coverage of recreational pole dance class in the media was highly visual and the sight of regular women working the pole seemed to intrigue, titillate and entertain the general public.

Domindoll at sexbodygender had quite the rant after watching Betty and Carlin's How to Squirt video.  Betty asked me to respond with the latest on female ejaculation:

In terms of female ejaculation, the world is divided into two groups: those who do it or have seen it, and believe it, and those who don't do it or haven't seen it and remain skeptical. Betty and I have been having a collegial discussion about female ejaculation for years. I'm a believer, she's not.

There's a new cosmetic therapy out that is a bit macobre.  It's called the "Dracula" therapy and it involves injecting your own blood into your face (at least it's not toxic like botox). The idea is that a doctor draws vials of your own blood, then separates it into the red blood cells, the clear serum and the platelets. Then, after vitamins and amino acids have been added, the enriched serum is injected back into your face.

This stimulates DNA repair, heals scars and makes dry, wizened, wrinkled and lacklustre skin look and feel younger naturally, without the need for synthetic fillers or harsh and painful lasers or peels.  Dentists have been using serum therapy for years to treat gum disease.

This week, we're going to take a look, have a smell, indulge in a taste, steal a touch, and listen in on the many, many forms of body worship.

As you can already tell, we're focusing on the five senses, each of which can illicit fetishistic associations with either the purpose of each sense or the sense itself. Of course, we will talk about the many body parts that are fetishized by all, but, I thought we should at least appreciate the unforeseen power that our senses play on us when we live in our fetish. All of our senses provide rooted connections to us and our fetish-object. And, for some of us, we needn't look too far for worship. Some of us simply need to take a whiff or listen in... and this is how we connect.

Halloween is the witch's new year.  We all got together at Betty's and Barbara Carrellas did the ritual. The separation between the living and the dead is the thinnest on All Hallows Eve so we each conjured someone from the hereafter and then we wrote down on a piece of paper what we want to let go of and burned it.  

Here are the pics: flickr/halloween.

If I would have had Sarah Hrdy's information sooner, there would have been far less sexual guilt in my life. I tried so hard to be monogamous with several different lovers and especially after I got married. The first year of being Mrs., I cheated. The thought of only having sex with my husband was just too depressing especially since we had not managed to make what my therapist called our "marital adjustment". He remained a premature ejaculator while I engaged in compulsive secretive marital masturbation! What a waste of our youthful sexlives. Here's the review of Sarah Hrdy's research straight from Harvard:

Women are naturally monogamous. Men tend to rove.

That assumption is not only part of popular belief, it has also been enshrined by science.

Ever since Roman Polanski's arrest hit the proverbial presses, almost everyone has been talking about it. No... Actually, everyone has been talking about it. Polanski supporters and naysayers are overwhelmingly spurned by a majority of the feminist press because, of course, they're anti-rape. But, what has always upset me about the discussion of rape (or, specifically, "date-rape") is that we make it so black and white when it just isn't.

This video makes a girl want to do really naughty things

Today, I want to discuss an often misunderstood and somewhat degraded character that comes up time and time again in Halloween traditions: The Witch.

That's right, guys! You've seen how she's turned out. Frankly, there's only two places you're going to buy the average witch costume: Ricky's and any bargain store that sells a ratty black wig and green make-up. And maybe a fake witch's mole. But that's it.

So, we've taken very polarized images of a witch, the oversexed, less-than-scary "sexy witch", and the ugly, old, and comical "Witch from Wizard of Oz" look. Not much of the Goddess's image has been explored ever since.

Kate Bornstein is one of my favorite people. She is a transgendered woman who doesn't refer to herself as either male or female. She refers to herself as transgendered. Her book "Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks and Other Outlaws" is brilliant and featured in this month's OTI newsletter.  If you know someone who's struggling with gender issues, turn them on to Kate's work.

He wanted to hear me orgasm. Not just the superficial moans and feminine whimpers. He wanted guttural screams and earth-shattering grunts. He wanted to feel the ground beneath him shake. He wanted to the roof above him to crack and rain down rubble. He wanted his life to be forever changed by my vocal pleasure.

This task was hard to perform because I was one of 20 women sitting in a darkly lit room. I didn't want to impinge on the other operators. So, I cupped my mouth and held my mic as close to my face as possible.

This month's Playboy magazine has a 5 page article on "Traci" - The Woman Who Could Think Herself Off.  Becky Chalker brought it up last night over dinner and, knowing I had the latest issue, I couldn't wait to finish the Times and get into my Playboy.  Suffice it to say Betty wasn't amused by women feeling even more pressure to orgasm - this time without even touching their bodies.  I tried to keep an open mind.

"Traci" is a 30 something career woman who discovered her talent while her marriage was falling apart.  One night chatting online she revealed that she was so horny that she could orgasm if someone even touched her arm - surprise surprise - her male friend rose to the occasion and cybersexed her to orgasm.  She claims that she couldn't touch herself because she was still married *sigh* and that she got off chatting about her fantasies.

To quote a friend, sex is "physical, psychological, emotional, aural and olfactoral". This episode is dedicated to sex smells.