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The Next Bodysex Workshops

Sat, 03/18/2017 - 09:14
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative.  We focus on overcoming negative body image and pleasure anxiety. 

Yes, they're done in the nude but it's not sexual.  Betty developed these workshops using the consciousness raising model of second wave feminism where women got together and shared their experience first person. You can read about past workshops to better understand the experience here (scroll down to read blog posts written by Carlin and our Bodysex leaders).

Whatever your race, orientation, upbringing, or country of origin, we have wounds to heal. All are welcome.

The next workshops will be held Spring 2017 on these dates:

Bodysex Certification

Thu, 11/17/2016 - 15:00
Submitted by Carlin Ross

If you have any questions or would like to start the certification process, send an email to admin@dodsonandross.com

Mission:

Our goal is to certify women to hold their own Bodysex workshops so that the Betty Dodson method of self-love and sisterhood continues and expands to every country around the world.

When Betty and I first got together, we had this vision of a world map with red lights being illuminated every time someone clicked on D&R. Now we feel that those red lights represent women certified in the Betty Dodson method as each woman holds her own Bodysex workshops.

Our Latest Ebook & Vulva Anatomy

Wed, 02/13/2013 - 17:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm really focused on ebooks right now because it's the easiest way for us to get our information out globally and keep the lights on.  Betty's memoir My Romantic Love Wars is out as an ebook and we're releasing several how-to sex ebooks including my first writing venture

Menopause & Hormone Replacement: One Sexologist’s Personal Experience

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Sat, 02/12/2011 - 17:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

To my knowledge, there is no one-size-fits-all solution for a woman to remain vaginally active long past menopause without some kind of Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). It's unfortunate, but each of us must find our own path through trial and error. First off, menopause varies greatly. What many don't know is that more than half of all women in the USA have little to no uncomfortable symptoms. After all, it's a natural transition we all experience. Others suffer with hot flashes, night sweats, sleeplessness, memory loss, etc., symptoms that will eventually pass. However, medical professionals along with our overzealous pharmaceutical companies have turned menopause into a deficiency that needs to be treated.

The Power of Visibility

Tue, 03/21/2017 - 06:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Evan Rachel Wood's acceptance speech is so powerful because she describes what it feels like to grow up "bisexual" without a clear understanding of your orientation.  This is my favorite line, "I see you.  You see me.  We aren't so different.  Through connection the healing begins". 

I feel the same way about Bodysex.  When we connect...when we are seen and we see each other we are healed.

If Women Were Assigned Power...

Thu, 03/16/2017 - 08:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

These are my two favorite paintings from artist Felice House. 

After moving from the Northeast to Austin, she fell if love with the concept of the "West" and thought about the roles women were relegated to, inspiring her to replace the cowboys in iconic (male-dominated) Western art with women. 

Her work says so much about power dynamics and gender roles.  Her paintings are 1.25 life-sized so the women are larger than the viewer, "when you see them in person, people are surprised by the scale. People aren't used to women towering over them."

Just breathtaking.

The Power of the Group Guided the Perfect Experience for All of Us

Tue, 03/14/2017 - 07:57
Submitted by Laura Belle

After taking two Bodysex workshops with Betty and Carlin in New York, I really wanted to share the experience with a group of friends in Ohio. I figured this would give me valuable practice as I pursue my certification as a Bodysex facilitator.

I hosted a movie night and invited seven friends that were curious about my new passion. We watched Betty’s Bodysex Workshop DVD and talked about it. When I asked my friends who would like to join in a circle at my home with me as the facilitator, most were enthusiastic about participating. We set the date for a few weeks later and I began to prepare everything that we needed.

If You Look For The Light, The Light Is What You’ll Find

Sat, 03/11/2017 - 08:39
Submitted by Natasha

“If you look for the light, the light is what you’ll find. And if you think about the light, the light will fill your mind. If you shine on the light, the light comes shining back on you. It’s an old, old story…….. ain’t nothing new.”

Lyrics by Joyce Dancer


The day before this past weekend’s Body Sex Retreat I was emotional and weepy —overwhelmed with the realization that this is really the path I’m on. Only 3 years ago it was all just an idea and yet here I was on my way to the airport to pick up a woman for my 6th Bodysex circle. I felt honoured and grateful that even though this path has been full of both joy and pain, it’s without a doubt the path I’m meant to be on.

Best Arrest Photo from Day Without A Woman

Thu, 03/09/2017 - 08:33
Submitted by Carlin Ross

A big thank you to Tamika Mallory, Linda Sarsour, Carmen Perez and Bob Bland - the four main organizers of the Women's March - who were arrested yesterday protesting outside Trump Tower in nyc for A Day Without A Woman (9 other protestors were also arrested).

This is the best arrest photo ever. Wish I could have been there but motherhood and raising a feminist son is my priority right now. I keep looking for numbers on yesterday's global strike *fingerscrossed*.

Feminism has finally gone mainstream.

How I Create Sexual Energy & Desire

Tue, 03/07/2017 - 08:07
Submitted by bila kolbe

There are those times every month when I get hot flashes. I’m not talking about those uncomfortable body temperature spikes often attributable to menopause which I, as a sexagenarian, fortunately do not experience.

No, in this case I’m referring to feeling downright randy and prone to impromptu episodes of ‘backstroke roulette’. So while my hands were dutifully employed, my mind got to pondering about some of my favorite ways to ratchet up sexual energy during solo and paired trysts.

Jacqueline Secor's Vulva Art

Sun, 02/26/2017 - 14:37
Submitted by Carlin Ross

It seems like vulva art is popping up everywhere and I'm loving Jacqueline Secor's work.  Each image captures a "vulva style" and almost all have dangling inner lips.

She began painting vulvas to deal with some body dysmorphia issues she was having living in Utah where there's only one definition of beauty.  Looking forward to viewing more of her work.

Who Would Think a Victorian Nude Would Push Buttons

Fri, 02/17/2017 - 15:59
Submitted by Carlin Ross

These nude photographs were part of a Valentine's exhibition at the South Downs Heritage Centre.  After receiving a slew of complaints, the gallery pulled them before rethinking it and reinstating them a few days later.

Incredible that nude photographs from the Victorian era would push so many buttons.  I love the real bodies and the playfulness.  Beautiful.

A Betty Dodson Valentine

Tue, 02/14/2017 - 09:28
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love the sentiment of this Valentine Betty drew in 1987.

First, she dedicates it to herself (I think she should be credited with the selflove movement) and then the love she has for "all my friends, lovers and strangers all over planet earth".

The Absence of Pleasure Leads to Systemic Violence

Tue, 02/07/2017 - 15:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Natasha posted a link to James Prescott's research on body pleasure and the origins of violence. I read through the dense extract and it was life affirming. We have instincts that, at times, we question. Everything Betty teaches through her books and the workshops can be quantified. Touch and pleasure inhibit violence across the board.

It starts with maternal touch as infants. Cultures that support mothers, don't sexualize breastfeeding toddlers, and encourage general affection have less violence. The concept that pain is useful in child-rearing produces angry, aggressive adolescents and adults. Here's an interesting wrinkle: mothers who didn't experience orgasm were more likely to abuse their children.

Feminism at the Superbowl

Mon, 02/06/2017 - 07:55
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I don't think we've ever had a more policitized Superbowl.  Most of the ads had a clear pro-diversity theme and it made me proud to be an American.

Then there was this moment when the Schuyler Sisters from the cast of Hamilton sang America the Beautiful and inserted "sisterhood" after the line "and crown thy hood in brotherhood"...it was electric:

Maybe we needed some push back to pave the way for true equality.   The people have spoken.