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Dear Betty and Carlin,

I've recently got into a typical 'teenage' relationship. 'Going out' with each other, holding hands, kissing when we think no one is looking, and generally having a great time with each other. Its not love, but its fun, and its just enjoyable. The other day, taking it a step further, I gave him head. I'm not claiming to be amazing at head, but I love giving it, and I've always had positive feedback when I do... Except, in this case, it took almost an hour to get him off, which has never happened to me before, so I was a little....Shocked.

Dear Betty,

I have been married for three years now and my husband and I are anxious to have children. We have wonderful sex, but we have a problem. In the 3 years that we have been together, my husband has only ejactulated twice. He has no problem ejactulating while masterbating, but he does not cum when we are having sex.

hey betty,

love the site i have a question for you. for a while now i have being inserting my fingers in my butt while masturbating. i have started to like this and i was wondering if you could give me any advice or tips on how i can make the experience better. and also if you can have you got any advice on anal fisting.

What am I doing wrong? I tend 2 urinate when using my magic wandor even using my hands. I've even done this while i was getting oral sex!! This is very embarrassing when your with someone!! HELP!!

Hi I'm a 21 year old guy and i am uncircumcised. I have always been somewhat ashamed of the fact and recently decided i should get circumcised. I'm not over confident about the whole thing and wonder if it is a good choice, and what exactly the procedure would entail. Just thought you might have some info for me on the subject?

I'll start by saying that I personally am a 20 year old male that has been dating my girlfriend for over 2 years now. The first time we dated for just under a year, there was nothing physical beyond kissing, and even our first kiss took 6 months. The second time around, we both lost our virginity and became very sexual for about a month. After that, It died down to a once or twice a month level. This was about 6-8 months ago.

I am 71 years old, had a hysterectomy 30 years ago, been off estrogren for 10 years and not had intercourse in many years, and before that infrequently. The last time I attempted intercourse it was painful and stinging. Four months ago I began masturbating (no prior experience) the vaginal barbell at first was painful and stung to insert but soon became enjoyable. With the strawberry vibrator I never had any difficulty with stinging or burning upon insertion and I LOVE IT!

I redently purchased "Smartballs" but have found it stings and is quite painful upon trying to insert them.

Dear Betty,

I used to have a very hard time orgasiming at all, but after seeing a sex therapist once who explained the root of the problem and a few year of due dilligence, I have cured my issue and can cum by myself or with a man. But now I have been seeing this man who I care for very much who mostly has a very difficult time coming in bed with me (but not on his own). He says it's always been like that with women. I want to help him overcome this phycological hinderance, but he's pretty much given up hope and doesn't know why he is like this. Still, he sometimes gets very frustrated about this, so I know it bothers him.

The only time he can come easily is if we watch porn (which I like doing).

Single, age 68 (very young), not in a relationship, but interested, hysterectomy at age 44, on estrogen replacement for over 20 years till last year, testosterone cream (a little) for 2-3 years till last year, surprise invasive breast cancer last year, lumpectomy Nov., as of April on Arimidex aromatase inhibitor, supposedly for next 5 yrs., I am trying to work the mind over matter, around the deprivation of all my "fountain of youth" hormones and am starting to despair over lack of physical both skin/touch and vaginal feeling and capability to respond to fantasy and masturbation (I try to keep up the good work and not let go of hope).

I am a 68 yr. old woman, very young and energetic for my age , sexually active, my boyfriend is 57 and gets me so excited that I never need lubrication. I seem to get wet when he just touches or kisses me....unbelievable, however I have a difficult time reaching climax. I never took any HRT...do you think I should see my gyno as maybe my hormone levels are off thus making no blood flow to my clitoris?

I have dark spots or patches on my inner labia. The are not raised and don't cause any irritation. Is this normal, could this be cancer?

I'm a soon to be 60 year old women who thinks she has never had an orgasm and is just now exploring her sexuality. I was married very early in life at 20 and got pregnant with my very first sexual experience. I married this man and we were married for 34 years. He was a very loving and patient man with which I have 3 children. My husband died about 5 years ago.

I wanna have sex with my b'friend. But I'm a virgin. I'm worried about it. My family will never accept me if I lose my virginity. BUt I cant get orgasm while having anal sex. Dunno what to do. I fake my orgasm...right b4 it hurts badly, now I'm used to it. They say, I'll have an orgasm after a few times. Buy.... I haven't had an orgasm yet. :(((

I am 23 years old and have been married for 6 years and I am still kind of young and learning new feeling in that area everytime. I have never had an orgasm and would love to find out how to have one. I have tryed using a vibrator and dildo and intercourse and i just cant seem to find that spot. can you please help.

Do you agree that women like being led in the bedroom by a strong man who excites her. I know some women love to be man handled (oviously to a point) and taken by a real man. if the man knows how to have sex right she will have the best experience of her life. And feel a stonrger sense of exctasy all over her body rather than just in the vaginal area. Women have told me and also i see other products showing with similar responses.