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After hearing the story of the 4 year old who was beaten to death for "touching himself", I had to respond.  Childhood sexuality is a fact of everyone's life. Like it or not all you sex fearing parents who punish your children for an act that is as natural as eating! Shame on all of you! Even though you believe it is for your child's sake, inhibiting masturbation is the first blow of sexual repression that leaves a permanent scar on every child's ability to enjoy adult sexuality.

Not only was she expelled, but she was escorted out heckled by her classmates. Then the university took out newspaper ads challenging her "morality". Shocking.

I'm sure you've heard about the crazed gunman at Fort Hood who went on a shooting rampage.  Well, this is the woman who brought him down...literally.  Sgt. Kimberly Munley is an expert in firearms and a member of the local police SWAT team.  She was on her way to take her car into the shop when she heard about the shooting on her police radio.  She raced to the scene, jumped out of her car - gun drawn - and exchanged direct fire with Nidal Malik Hasan and took the motherf*cker out.  Don't worry...she's fine but she did get shot in both thighs and in the right wrist.

I love Mary's music because it's so real. On October 23, 2009 The Mary J. Blige Center for Women opened right here in Yonkers. The Center will focus on reaching out to young, single mothers who need help with parenting, education, and vocational training. I cried when I watched this video:

I met Shula at the Vulvagraphics show and knew immediately that she was "Dodson & Ross" material.  It was the black bustier, the red hair, and her brilliant mind.  She'll be blogging on body image/sexuality and relationship issues.  Here's her full bio:

Shula Melamed holds a B.S. in Communication from Boston University and a M.A. in Psychology from the New School for Social research.

It is from a variety of experiences, not only academic, but also professional and social that allows for Shula to speak on a number of topics regarding relationships, sexuality and self-presentation with some authority.

Baubo is one of many wild Grecian goddesses of sacred sexuality, the Crone- a wise old woman who is full of irreverent joy and comically lewd behavior. She has been called the belly goddess of laughter and obscenity, a refreshing contrast to contemporary images of old age. Baubo also represents three aspects of women's lives: sexuality, old age and transformative personal power though sexual liberation. Instead of an old woman ravaged by time with nothing about her that is remotely sexual, Baubo radiates her Crone sexual energy with a functioning postmenopausal orgasmic vulva! This concept upsets all societies that scorn or totally deny older women's sexuality.

A new DNA test given to women as young as 18 can predict how long you have left to start a family.  At 36, I would totally have this fertility test done and know exactly how long my eggs were fertilizable.  Then I wouldn't have to hear my mother scare me with infertility stories.  God, I love science.

The breakthrough follows the discovery of a gene called Fragile X that indicates the rate at which a woman's egg supply will diminish over the years.

Professor Norbert Gleicher, of the Centre for Human Reproduction in New York, said: 'We can take an 18 or 20-year-old girl and check her Fragile X and make a pretty good prediction of whether she's at risk.'

I never watch Gossip Girl but thought about tivoing an upcoming episode when I saw the famed "threesome" promo.  The Parents Television Council flipped penning a letter to the CW network calling the promo "reckless and irresponsible".  

I liked the promo because it was the first time I've seen a threesome tease involving one woman AND TWO MEN.  "Serena" (Blake Lively) is clearly the woman in the man sandwich but you have no idea who the two men are....that's the point I think.

Nicole Kidman. She embodies the classic appeal of Hollywood that's rarely seen on the red carpet today. Behind that porcelain skin and ever-changing beauty, however, is a woman that welcomes a good challenge.

On the cover of British GQ, Kidman shows off her darker side. And, in an interview with the award-winning actress, the 42-year old mother and wife of country star Keith Urban describes her marriage as "dangerous":

"...I've explored strange sexual fetish stuff, I've explored the mundane aspect of marriage, and monogamy" - Nicole Kidman

Britney Spear's new single "3" says absolutely nothing about threesomes. The video gets the juices flowing but it's the same old dance.  The lyrics start off, "1, 2, 3 Not only you and me" which pushes the threesome button but that's as far as it goes.

When did this culture get so obsessed over fake sex and sexual innuendo? How has pop culture "progressed" towards "sexual liberation" by talking subliminally about it?

Now, sure there are plenty of popular resources that do speak frankly and straightforwardly about sexual encounters, but the infinite pool of pop culture that we absorb on a daily basis is scarce when it comes to informational and entertaining thoughts and ideas about sexuality.

Meet Lawrence Lanoff - our new blogger on all things religious, cultural, tantric, and in desperate need of demythologizing.  Betty and I met Lawrence during our "Tantra Weekend" and I knew we had to have him write for the site. 

He has quite the pedigree starting his career in film (he directed over 10 feature films - I know) then shifting gears to direct films for Playboy, start his own beauty company specializing in non-smudging lip color (he sold a ton at the swinger conventions), and find himself teaching the finer points of sexual liberation and personal growth. 

What I love most about Lawrence is his ability to question, his willingness to engage, and his appreciation for all things woman.  And you're going to love him too!

Some big names in music confirmed their unintended involvement in torturing suspected terrorists. So this week, musicians got behind a Freedom of Information Act request to reveal an exact list of songs the government used to torture detainees in the war on terror.

According to some detainees subjected to the "acoustical bombardment", Britney Spears will be on the list and so will The Boss. There are a few songs I'm actually rooting for, like Shakira's She Wolf - accompanied with the full length video. No doubt, that's the equivalent of "shock and awe" in acoustical bombardment circles.

Liz Canner took a job editing erotic content for a drug trial for a pharmaceutical company developing the "Lady" viagara. Her experiences are chronicled in a new documentary Orgasm Inc:

Bravo Terry Alen for calling out Big Pharma and their lackeys; Some 22 drug companies, including Pfizer, had financial ties to 18 of the 19 authors that defined female sexual dysfunction. Smart women just get a vibrator and tune into a hot fantasy and enjoy all the orgasms they want when they want them. We need to STOP defining female sexuality with the male model. What's good for the goose just doesn't work for the gander.

My favorite line: "The pharmaceutical industry wants you to think that if you don't have sex like a porn star, you're in need of their drugs."

The latest greatest:

A new study finds that men would rather look at your ass than your smile (yay for me).  Seems they prefer butterfaces (everything but her face) for sex and beautiful faces for long term relationships.

The Irish lilt was voted sexiest accent beating out French for the first time.  Give me some South African and I cream.

USAToday reports that gay couples are just like straight couples - they "couple" at the same age, make the same $, and have the same number of children.