Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Nice to hear from you again. Ditto on your statement: "Oh to be young again" spoken by a young woman still in her twenties. Remember when we so badly wanted to be older?

I'm not ancient, but sexting and texting weren't around when I was a teenager. God, the teenage years are such self-conscious ones! I didn't realize that sexting can take the edge off that self-consciousness for some people, make the painful shyness of those years easier to manage.

I think I'd have practically died of excitement if a girlfriend had sent me a video of herself masturbating. I really would have respected her privacy, though, and never shared it with anyone. People can be very unkind sometimes, though. One of the most heart-rending stories I ever came across in my professional work was that of a young woman who was painfully shy and insecure. Hoping to be liked and accepted, she had sex with several guys at a party. But somebody filmed it and, as a cruel "joke", made copies and sent them to everybody in her high school. She was devastated, and found herself treated mercilessly as a "slut" and laughingstock by both boys and girls. She became very promiscuous (and very troubled) afterwards because she felt worthless and had lost what little self-esteem she had had before this incident. I lost contact with her, but I think she did rebuild her life and overcome what had happened. Sad.

Never did a vid, but a certain partner and I did have fun with polaroids one afternoon. They have since been destroyed. In this age of everything being over the internet, I would probably avoid sexting and sending nude photos of myself. I would just like to make a PSA to all the men who find it amusing to send women pictures of their dicks: we women do more than just share the photos, we also compare technique and overall personality. So even if your dick is the most large and beautiful specimen known to human kind, if your personality sucks and you're selfish in the sack, no one will be impressed. But if you and your intended recipient have a chemistry, then feel free to send a sexy picture. I would like to see a total nude rather than just the dick though. I like to be able to judge proportions and see the contours and planes of the male body.

I once took nude Polaroids of my college girlfriend, who enthusiastically posed for them with a big smile on her face. Many years later, I found them stuck inside one of my books I hadn't opened for years. Amazing they survived that long. Nobody else ever saw them, though.

I don't get the 'dick picture' thing. No matter how beautiful I might find a picture of a particular pussy, it would mean nothing to me without some idea of the person it belonged to. Detached body parts just don't do it.

When I have partner sex, I just don't look at and play with the genitals. There's a whole other human being to interact with.
But Virgin! I'm shocked! (Kidding, as a 40 something I say I would avoid sexting, as a teenager, who knows what my crazy self would have done!) But your honesty is always refreshing and I love your blog!

I think some penis pics look really good and i have my favourites in the great wall of Vulva too. When I see a pic of a nice Vulva or penis my brain automatically ackowledges that it's part of a person and not a thing. Because it is a part of a person and so you can imaginre the rest of the person when you fantisize about it or just appreciate it by itself.
I've never sent anyone any pics of my penis, but I might if they want me too. I wouldn't spam them out anonymously :) I have a friend who use to get dick pics sent to her regularly on myspace and if she liked them she'd put glitter on them and send them back :)