Thinking Off & Energy Orgasms on Strange Sex

Mon, 07/19/2010 - 09:42
Submitted by Anonymous

I'm watching another "Strange Sex" documentary. It wasn't as interesting as the last one I saw, and I was switching back and forth, but I caught an amazingly interesting segment with a woman who made me think of Betty Dodson.

Barbara Carellas assists people in reaching orgasm. Not through genital stimulation, though. They achieve orgasm through their mind. She calls it "thinking off", which is a play off of "jacking/jilling off", I'd assume. Some people call it an "energy orgasm". Nonetheless, no genital touching is done to make you come.

The camera taped her having one of these orgasms. She was fully clothed and squirming around on the floor, moaning, arching her back, and trembling. She was INCREDIBLY vocal and ended the energy orgasm laughing hysterically and moaning loudly. From afar, it seemed fun and pleasurable. She says that some people can have an orgasm from thinking about fantasy, and with others, it's just with breathing and movement of energy.

She actually does workshops where people lay on the floor and experience these thinking orgasms. It's almost like tantric yoga. They would lay on mats, with their eyes closed, and she would talk them through to their orgasm. There were different reactions with the five or six people in the workshops. Some were moaning and moving a lot, others were just breathing deeply with minimal movement. It varied from person to person, just like genital orgasms do.

She went to a laboratory where they monitored her brain activity during these thinking orgasms. Apparently, she is, indeed, experiencing an orgasm comparable to a genital orgasm. Barbara thinks this could change the entire idea of orgasms for so many people. People who have experienced genital mutilation or people who are intersexed or even people who think they can't orgasm at all can learn to have an orgasm with no genital touching.

I've heard of this before. People being able to come without touching themselves. I even tried it a few times. Maybe I didn't do it right. I mean, I got wet and turned on, but I also got frustrated. When I masturbate, the ultimate goal is an orgasm. I never really have a problem getting there and I'm almost always satisfied. I wonder if it would be the same way with a mental orgasm. I would love to experience it, to really see if I'm "capable" of coming without touching myself.

I still question it, though. I often compare other pleasurable things in my life with an orgasm. If I eat something that's good, but not amazing, I'll say something like "It's okay, but I'm not having a foodgasm or anything". Orgasms are the pinnacle of extreme pleasure and there's nothing like it. Could I achieve that without touching my clitoris? I guess I'd say I'm doubtful, but open.

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One word: Lame. Another

Mon, 07/19/2010 - 10:37
Christina Cicchelli (not verified)

One word: Lame. Another word: Pointless.

I say this as somebody who does experience mini-orgasms from time to time. I can't always control unless I'm intensely aroused. Other times it may be an outside stimulus other than the obvious (the subway seats vibrate, for example) or sometimes it happens for no damn reason.

In the grand scheme of things, this doesn't mean anything. And, quite frankly, I don't see the point of teaching people how to think themselves into an orgasm.

There are no health benefits. It doesn't make you a better lover. If anything, it will probably set up a few (many) women to feel disappointed or frustrated (remember the squirt trend?) when, after they've spent x amount of dollars, they still can't think themselves to orgasm. Pfft. Spend that money learning magic tricks. Same results AND you can probably you earn what was wasted on something like this. Plus its fun for everyone.

Moreover, I just don't understand the sexual component to this entire performance... except for sexual fantasy. Even then we're avoiding a very important element of this entire experience: Our bodies. Self-touch and self-exploration is essential and we're placing value on what? Nothing.

"Illusion is the first of all pleasures" - Oscar Wilde


Mon, 07/19/2010 - 12:01

I just watched this last night as well!!! I thought it was kind of amazing. Here I am, having to touch myself for an orgasm when I could be sitting in traffic, bored, and BAM! Orgasm! Though she did say that her thinking orgasm isn't the same as a genital orgasm, I still would love to be able to try it for myself!

May you be like the lotus flower, rooted in
yet emerging from the murkiest of waters.

this blog reminds me of

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Mon, 07/19/2010 - 16:44

this blog reminds me of Bernini's Ectasy of St Teresa...I saw this amazing statue on my last visit to lovers and art historians have used sexual imagery to describe the sculpture for centuries...It definetely mesmorized both me and the dh with it's hot sensual and overtly sexual facial expression emanating from the cool white jives with my theory that orgasms are an earthly glimpse of the eternal...

here's how St Teresa describes "thinking off" from Wikipedia:

"The Life of Teresa of Jesus’ (1515–1582). Her experience of religious ecstasy in her encounter with the angel is described as follows:

I saw in his hand a long spear of gold, and at the iron's point there seemed to be a little fire. He appeared to me to be thrusting it at times into my heart, and to pierce my very entrails; when he drew it out, he seemed to draw them out also, and to leave me all on fire with a great love of God. The pain was so great, that it made me moan; and yet so surpassing was the sweetness of this excessive pain, that I could not wish to be rid of it. The soul is satisfied now with nothing less than God. The pain is not bodily, but spiritual; though the body has its share in it. It is a caressing of love so sweet which now takes place between the soul and God, that I pray God of His goodness to make him experience it who may think that I am lying."

it looks like Barbara Carellas is not doing something new, unknown or perhaps not even mystical or tantric.   I've always enjoyed having orgasms in dreams often times there's no touching involved, you probably have too...she's just doing it on-demand and now making the $$$'s...funny how times change!!!

I didn't take it as her

Mon, 07/19/2010 - 13:38
VirginMonoblogger (not verified)

I didn't take it as her trying to "replace" genital orgasms. It's just another way to relax yourself and make yourself feel good. It's all about learning, I suppose. Some women, who can't orgasm (genitally) as easily as others, end up frustrated, too.

I just think it would be cool to experience it, if it's "real". She commented on how, if she was dropping a kid off at soccer practice or sitting under a tree in a park, it would be great to have the ability to have an energy orgasm.

I don't know. I'm not reading into that much. I just found it interesting.

sexuality and

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Mon, 07/19/2010 - 16:48

sexuality and spirituality...two of my favorite's always fun when the two can be linked...

We sometimes lose that connection in a our modern "get the cum shot in the face" world...

I tagged you in a blog post

Mon, 07/19/2010 - 21:08
Jewely (not verified)

I tagged you in a blog post of mine, I hope you don't mind!

Maybe the soul's home is the mind, not the heart

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Tue, 07/20/2010 - 09:03

So if you think about your spirituality, or your soul, as the highest function of your mind, and nothing to do with your heart's expression, and you want to become more in touch with your spirituality, then you would need to take some kind of action to exercise your brain in order to improve the function of the brain/soul and also the nervous system that it controls.

I like Lawrence's exercise he posted a few days ago.

I did not see the show that VMB writes about, but I wouldn't be surprised if this type nerve development is involved.

Deep Brain Sex Technique

"thinking off" orgasms

Tue, 07/20/2010 - 21:53
LeslieC (not verified)

Lame and pointless? I don't think so! Any orgasm is a good orgasm in my book. I happen to be one of the lucky ones who can reach climax without being touched. I learned this accidentally one time with my boyfriend...we were watching tv on the couch, he leaned over to hug me, only our eyebrows touched and BAM...I came. I couldn't believe it myself. I immediately googled "eyebrow orgasm" and found it mentioned in a book called Bonk by Mary Roach. Since then I've had thousands, some with just little non-sexual touch like that and others with no touch at all. We made almost a game of it now, doing it in public places from several feet apart! Another benefit: it's completely safe sex!!!

I am not a thinker, I am a feeler!

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Fri, 07/23/2010 - 15:46

I seen the show to and was very unhappy with the idea of thinking off. I mean men don’t touch in the right spots now. How is this going to help them explore our bodies if we don’t even touch ourselves? Someone else said thinking off was a trend. Well this trend may set women back 20 years. At least with trantic sex there is touching and breathing and thinking and again TOUCHING. Sex I thought was about exploring our bodies. Yes I know our mind is a great toy, but to just lay there and think “it will cum“.  I say Teach, explore, and touch that great package between your legs male and female. (Use protection when possible)

I have to think all the time about everything. I guess adult ADD would be to blame. After I have thought about kids, school, work, man, family, and myself I would love to just NOT THINK. The last thing I would want to do is think out my orgasm. Maybe I am lazy. With all the thinking that goes on in my brain I could never just lay there and think, “CUM Heidi“. The point of my orgasm is to relax my mind and my body. The only thing I want to think about is NOTHING. I want someone to hold me, I want someone to touch my clit and make it happy. I have sexual fantasizes 24/7 in my brain. I stay wet and ready for sex. I want to act out my fantasizes since I have thought about them so much. I want human interaction with myself and/or another human being. Thinking is so overrated. Just fucking do it.

The research that has been done on touch. It has shaped this nation to have a massage chair in most nail salons, shopping malls, airports, office chairs and home recliners. There is a massage salon in every town these days. Touch can relax the body and mind. Why would anyone want to just Think off without touching the warm wet pulsing genitals? Guess I am not a thinker, I am a feeler.

Heidi Miller

You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year
of conversation. Plato So I've decided to play with as many toys as I can. It will help me discover myself.

Actually, there may be

Mon, 07/26/2010 - 23:02
Anon. (not verified)

Actually, there may be health benefits. Dr. Oz (as well as many other healthcare professionals) suggests having two orgasms a week to stay healthy. Also, orgasms and healthy sex lives in general help fight depression and can be very beneficial to weight loss.

Furthermore, "thinking off" could help people like me, who can not masturbate due to physical limitations (I literally can not reach my clitoris due to a disability and don't have the strength to hold and use a device) and don't have a sexual partner, to finally feel that pleasure which is our right as human beings.

This is just my opinion though.

Wow...I'm happy to see this is happening!

Sat, 08/21/2010 - 19:16
ShelbyPoo (not verified)

Just two nights ago...I laid in bed....and had the wildest orgasm of my life. I have actually found this to be something 'normal'. I never knew that there were other people who were doing this and I had no idea that it was even so much controversy over the subject. I think it, It happens, I'm pleasured, and I'm on my way to doing what I need to do next! I just thought it was something everyone could do. No grant it, I don't do this everyday, or every week, or even every month for that matter. It just happens when I don't have a partner, am too lazy to get up to get the toy, so I just turn my mind onto my body, close my eyes, and release, and it's a wonderful heart beats fast, I get dizzy, I'm sweating, and totally exhausted.

No I do apologize for just blindly writing this post. I happened to turn to TLC less than 10 minutes ago and saw the show, did a search for the topic so that I could leave my comments to say that YES THIS IS REAL. Now that I have it all of it off my chest, I'll go back and read the other posts, whether they are negative or positive. I just wanted to say THANK YOU.....I'm NOT a dirty freak...I'm sensual, and I love stimulation, no matter how it is acheived. Thank you! I hope people, especially women listen to this teaching and become intune with their bodies and enjoy it. Just dont have a heart attack in the process! LOL


Sat, 08/21/2010 - 22:46
Amanda Armstrong (not verified)

As a young adult I personally am very sexually active. But recently I have found myself not able to actually reach my point as normal. Actually it's been a few months now that I haven't been able to. So tonight flipping through the channels I came across Strange Sex and Barbara was talking about Thinking off. And I became very intrested. I truly want to know if this works and how not only for of course personally gain, but to help my relationship also. I have been in this fantastic relationship, with the man of my dream but now not being able to reach climax has become a strain on us both. To the point that we fight during and after sex and I sometimes just don't want to. If anyone could give me some tips or ideas I would be greatly thankful!

It's all in your head

Tue, 08/24/2010 - 07:51
John O (not verified)

The brain is the biggest sexual organ so why is is it so hard to believe you can't control it for pleasure. I was skeptical at first, but for me it happened quite easily. It's not the same as a physical orgasm, but different isn't a bad thing in this case.
In order to achive this feeling, I lay down and completely relax. Breathing slow and deep, you have to allow your brain to allow your nerves and muscles to fire as if you where deep into a great orgasm. It's amazing that your body can react to the memories of these feelings and amplify them as you allow yourself enjoy the sensations.
It was such a turn on that within a few seconds I was doing it again and again. While this orgasm is not the same as the physical orgasm, it is very intense and real. I was dizzy, short of breath, and completly relaxed when done. It wouldn't suprise me if I could have multiple orgasms with a partner using this technique.
The thing that was most amazing about this technique is that it can be combined with the act of physical orgasm for the most intense orgasms of your life. While I haven't tried it with a partner, yet, I can only imagine it would be unbelievible. Heck I'm afraid of how intense it would be with what I've experienced on my own.
While I'm new to this and it came easily for me, I can't wait to explore the possibilities this has opened for me. I hope everyone can learn this, if you don't succeed at first don't be discouraged and give up, it's something you will never forget.


Sat, 08/28/2010 - 01:07
Unnoted (not verified)

The point for this "thinking off" isnt for sexual arousal or a saexual orgasm its to make ur hole body feel like its orgasmic.....and it does have health benifits for phisycal disabilites.....oh and IF YOUR GANA WATCH THE TV SHOW BOUT THINGS LIKE THIS PAY the show they explain the benifits and wat its used for....again its for the whole body to feel orgasmic and majorly relaxed like nothing felt befor

I want to know how to do this

Sun, 11/07/2010 - 00:35
MeganB (not verified)

Hey guys

So for anyone who knows how to do this, will you please take the time to write a detailed discription of how to do this. I mean step by step and dont leave anything out because I want to do this a.s.a.p. My boyfriend has health conditions and most of the time he cannot stay up if you know what I mean.. We have been together for an extremly long time and we plan to get married and hopefully be able to have children! We are extremly in love and I literally have never been this thrilled about life, about a person, I have never felt so comfortable and trusting, and this is just an amazing relationship with the exception of one thing. I am a sexual being! I love sex, I mean if I had my choice I would literally have sex at least every single day. Really though, If I had my choice it would be multiple times a day everyday :) Sex is just something I really enjoy especially with my boyfriend because we have such a deep connection we are able to connect on so many different levels during sex, it is like we can read each others mind during the deed. It is quite nice but it is extremly rare when we are able to enjoy being with each other. Anyways the point is, learing how to do this would really fill a great void for the both of us! This could be like a dream come true for the both of us, but especially for me! I really hope somebody responds because I am extremly excited and nervous, and I am going to be crossing my fingers and waiting to hear! Thanks!!!!! This really a dream come true!

Thinking off

Sat, 04/02/2011 - 20:10
Teddy low (not verified)

I saw your post about wanting to learn how to have one of these thinking orgasms. I was just wondering if you'd had any responses and if has worked for you.

If so, I would love for you to share the technique with me!

Thank you,

thinking off, a nice addition but not a replacement

Sat, 04/30/2011 - 18:19

I discovered what I call hands free orgasms by accident about a year ago.  I had 3 in 24hrs and was completely confused about why and how they were occurring spontaneously.  
I have discovered that they are wonder and enjoyable, but they do not clear out sexual tension as well as a good clitoral orgasm does.  They do however tend to get stronger and more satisfying after you've had a few.
For me they begin with the wonderful pulsing feeling and if I focus internally on that delicious sensation it increases to a full pounding sensation before intensely pulsing and causing me to have a rush of pleasurable feelings radiating out of my pelvis.  Goosebumps race over my shoulders and down my legs and if it's really strong they feel like they race out of my toes.  I am completely lost in the pure pleasure of it.  The big difference is that the sensation is higher in my vagina and only causes a light flutter in my pc muscle…but causes a strong movement up higher in my vagina near my cervix.
I nearly always experience these kinds of orgasms when my girlfriend kisses my mouth and neck…I start to get lost in the wetness of her mouth and the sex of our tongues and then the sensation envelopes me and I am thrown into waves of these orgasms…they are delicious, but in no way make me want to give up the powerful explosive orgasms that I enjoy through clitoral stimulation.
Like all other sex play and exploration…I won't go out of my way to force an experience…relax, play and explore.  The best sex is what happens when you've got an afternoon to indulge and the only goal is to have fun playing and see where it leads.

Is thinking off for men too?

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Sat, 05/21/2011 - 22:56
Marias Chaos

Just wondering

Thinking-off for men? Perhaps so.

Mon, 08/01/2011 - 15:08
Edgerman58 (not verified)

To: Marias Chaos
From: Edgerman58
(Before I say anything else, I want to say thanks for your replies to some of my comments! They were very appreciated.) Now, as for this current topic (thinking-off): Yes, I think it is possible for a man to think himself into an orgasm.
For example, I just got back from a very long driving trip from the Mid-West to Portland, Oregan, and back again, and somewhere along the road through Wyoming, I think it was Wyoming (surrounded by all that rolling, open, sun-drenched country-side, with nothing to do but drive, and look, and of course think), I got to feeling really, really horney out there all alone, and I found myself daydreaming about (you guessed it!) sex.
As I drove, I kept playing mental sex scenarios, of various sorts (there seemed to be a horney trucker theme buzzing around inside my mind, I guess for the simple fact that there were so many truckers out there!), and edging up really close to having an orgasm. My cock would reach a point where (cramped though it was inside my slacks!) I could feel the pre-orgasmic throbbing, and it felt nice!
I didn't push it far enough to actually come, though. Had I, I am sure that I would have! (But I had no way to clean up the mess! There wasn't all that many places to stop and do that in all that open space, and I didn't want to drive for ten hours with it setting there like that.)
Anyway, I toyed with this thinking-off thing (if that's what it was) frequently. It helped pass the time, that's for sure! By the evening, when I stopped for the night, I was even more horney than before; and I made sure I got-off really good. The mind and the body are so closely intertwined. It's fun exploring where one begins and the other leaves off.
So, is that what you think thinking-off is? I'd be interested to know how you see it. I'm a big edging masturbator anyway, and thinking-off (and in the context of a long cross-country drive!) seems like one more way of doing that.
Anyway, I thought I'd throw my two cents worth in, and see what someone else might think!

Why not?

Mon, 08/01/2011 - 19:29

Anyone with a brain and a sex drive could probably think off or come close. I've had the female equivalent of wet dreams (so much cleaner!) and I love to fantasize during sex (and on the way to work, at work, in the supermarket, while cooking dinner etc...). Keep us posted on the progress Edgerman 58. Your posts are fantasy fodder as well.

Why not?

Mon, 08/01/2011 - 19:29

Anyone with a brain and a sex drive could probably think off or come close. I've had the female equivalent of wet dreams (so much cleaner!) and I love to fantasize during sex (and on the way to work, at work, in the supermarket, while cooking dinner etc...). Keep us posted on the progress Edgerman 58. Your posts are fantasy fodder as well.

More about Thinking-Off

Wed, 08/03/2011 - 19:25
Edgerman58 (not verified)

Thanks for the reply, Heylin! Yes, your'e correct that anyone with a brain and a sex-drive could think-off; it's just that I never paid it that much (conscious) attention before seeing it refered to here on Betty and Carlin's site!
My posts are fantasy fodder? Huh. I hadn't thought of that. That caught me by surprise. Thanks. I just try to be honest, and write what might be worth while reading. Isn't the Inter-net amazing? What Betty and Carlin have achieved here so far is really fantastic. I'll try to post more as time goes on. Thanks again for your reply.

"thinking off" Is actually more like feeling off.

Fri, 09/30/2011 - 04:28
AstralProjectee (not verified)

 I tried doing solo masturbation to cultivate sexual energy to learn how to orgasm for hours on end (like in tantra).  Even though I did touch my self. I think that in time I should be able to do it without touching. At first I didn't have much success. Then I tried something different. I put on a blind fold and laid down under the covers. I was trying  different things. With little to no physical touch on my penis. It took me quite awhile to get into the mood as my health is not all that great. Eventually I got the hang of it though. First thing you have to do is RELAX and BREATHE. If you don't relax any lower sexual energy that is generated will just bring you to cum once it's generated.  You want to focus on the journey not the destination. I was touching my self all over my body while relaxing into feeling. I stopped judging my self, and focused on the feelings I had. I would touch my nipples as they are also a  sexual  part of my man too you know. Sexual energy really started to pulse through my body about an hour in, as I don't have a good sex drive. I would try to roll my  eyes up and forget about my hindrances and embraced the now of feeling. Little need for words or thoughts. Just relax into your feelings. I didn't moan as I didn't want some family member to hear me. I was moving my head and my body around slowly. If your having a hard time staying present, then your default state should be to relax and breathe deeply. In order to sensitize your nervous system you have to relax first. Then you can touch your self slowly and try to really focus on the smallest things at times to re-sensitize your self. I was breathing in and out feelings of sexual energy. Making it like of  like wet dream is kind of how I did it. Thinking sexual thoughts at times. Taking pleasure in and enjoying every whim of my hearts desire. If I am correct I believe the brains sexual plesure center to be in the middle of the brain. So focusing on that I'm sure will help too. I was elated once I was done. I was shocked that it worked. I felt liberated. I had the biggest smile on my face.
Many people think that some how sexual things are evil or are not spiritual. This is ignorance. There was a revolution many years ago when celibacy was supposedly the only way for someone to attain spiritual growth. Out of the revolution came tantra which is to find enlightenment through sexuality. This is what I want to do. As tantra has many benefits over other forms of spirituality, both spiritually and physically speaking. If you learn tantra you should be able to eventually be able think, or should I say feel off. 

I didn't cum as I have learned though Mantak Chia that you can have mind expanding pleasure hour after hour, there is no need to cum. Besides cuming only prevents you from reaching longer, higher peaks of rapturing pleasure.  I think with practice I can definitely do this. Even though I did touch my self, I think that in time I should be able to do it without touching my self at all.
Hope I gave some good info here to help someone.

I released oxytocin the love hormone using feeling, imagination

Sun, 10/02/2011 - 00:26
AstralProjectee (not verified)

AstralProjectee here again, I released oxytocin, the love hormone using my feeling and imagination. Yes I did it without a partner. It was like a dream fantasy only it was more real since I was awake. 
What I did was put on my eye mask, sat down,
 I let go of all judgments all doubts all defenses. And ever so tenderly I moved in and touched the sacred with my tongue, and licked the vulva of a beautiful women. She just melted when I did this. As I did this I felt peace come over me. I felt love. I heard music of a women singing ever so softly singing. It was magical. I  felt like a magnetic pull ever so slightly toward this women. I had the biggest smile on myself when done. So this is how you make love. It's to bad porn has done so much damage to peoples ideas and beliefs about sex. I will definitely experiment with this more. 
Hope this helps someone

I did it I thought off and had brain sex.

Mon, 10/03/2011 - 00:46
AstralProjectee (not verified)

I finally did it I thought off or felt off. I had brain sex. Without any touch I had a body orgasm. I put on my eye mask on was able to find the a spot in my brain that stated the orgasm. It felt more stimulating than normal masterbation. I felt my whole body revving up to cum. I felt like I had to move. So I did. Never thought I would be able to do it, but I did . It was almost like every thing was set aside in my brain, and all that really mattered was this hot spot. I didn't need any fantasy or thought really. Just a feeling in my brain that seemed to be located in the middle some where. I'm sure it's got to be the hypothalamus and or the pituitary. As they are the main glands of the brain, responsible for hormones. They say that the master gland is the hypothalamus, which is located in the middle of the brain. Perhaps I can describle what it felt like. Flet like two parts coming together in my brain in a sexual way.
I'm a guy so it seems like something a guy can do. 

Even though I am practicing semen retention, I could not help my self and cumed. Though that will probably be the last time unless it happens on accident or I have a child. As nobody needs to ejaculate to reach high states of sexual pleasure, hour after hour, as tantra and taoist can do. I just cumed so that I can say that I can think off and that it is possible.  It was not like I had saved my semen for a long time anyway. 
If you want to have brain sex don't give it an all or nothing attitude. Try touching yourself too. I took me a about good week before I could do it. I was practicing with a lot of touch and experiementing with different things. I may be that having a blink fold is really good at first to do this. Not sure. That is what I used though. A blind fold that could totally block out light. I also take ashwagandha, an aphrodisiac.
Good luck everyone.

i searched this topic because

Mon, 08/27/2012 - 23:05
Anonymousette (not verified)

i searched this topic because this has been happening to me for about a year... atleast 9 or 10 times, i've had these 100 percent touchless orgasms and i wondered what the hell was going on! i was aroused by auditory porn so to speak but i never touched myself once. it's very strange. and intense. 

Male Orgasm without touching

Wed, 02/19/2014 - 17:24
Old-timer (not verified)

Most definitally. Had two full orgasms and one almost. If the stimulous is intense enough anything is possible. In my case these were all visually induced.

First two occassions happened when I happened to be in a position to watch, unknown to them, two different sets of women seduce each other and ending with one of them eating the other to orgasm. These were actual normal women, not any of the staged crap on the internet. I had seen pictures and video's of this for 50 years but these were the first times I was witnessing the real thing. It blew my mind, and my load, right into my pants I might add.

One big surprise for me was witnessing the fact that, just like men, there was a Top and a Bottom and the Top was the one who manipulated who was going to be the one on her knees, and secondly, the women practiced "Wham Bam Thank you Mam" as well as the guys. Once the orgasm was done, it was "let's get dressed and get out of here". To be fair, in both cases I believe the Top was a straight person who happened to have a Gay person available and used her to "Get Off".
The other time was when one of my girlfriends showed me, for the first time, how she could fist herself.  At the time I did not know that was even possible. The tingling started immediately and would have finished without touching if I had not put things in her hands.
I would imagine that there are many, many women out there with similar stories of visual induced orgasms.