I recently received an interesting inquiry from a passionate and vibrant 67 year old disabled woman seeking help. She was a lot of fun to talk to and very upfront with her concerns. Annie was upset because the last time she had an orgasm was over two months ago and to put it her words: “ oh dear, I am going nuts, I want my orgasms back!!” I eagerly took the challenge in search of reclaiming her orgasms…
Intrigued, I talked with her for awhile and here is her story. Annie lives with short stature, standing at approximately 4 ½ feet tall, her husband was of “average size” who sadly suddenly died last year.
With no family or support network to help her, she has been unable to take of herself since becoming a widow and was forced to live in an assisted living residence. She suffers from back and spinal problems that typically affects people at a later age with her type of dwarfism. She has a hard time standing, walking, and loses her balance easily. She is often in a wheelchair or uses a walker in her room. When she was younger her career included being an elementary school teacher and an exotic belly dancer. She has always been very athletic and physically fit in her younger days.
She has a long torso and exceptionally short arms. She can only reach slightly above her waist line. She had a very healthy and active sex life when she was married and was able to have pleasure in achieving multiple orgasms and loved having sex with her husband. We talked about her current medications: she has been taking an anti-depressant and high blood pressure meds for many years and while it may take longer at times, it has not limited her overall sexual pleasure thus far.
I asked her to tell me about her last orgasm two months ago. She explained that the only way she can reach to stimulate herself is by holding herself up with one hand while standing legs apart at the side of her bed and leaning way over with her other hand she massages her clit with a magic wand type of vibrator. But now, she is unable to stand as long, gets tired very quickly in this position and needs to sit down because her back is in so much pain or loses balance. She says holding the vibrator is heavy, cumbersome, and harder to manage. Unfortunately, when she sits down to rest, she is totally unable to reach her clit to continue with self-stimulation and loses the motivation to try again.
I asked her how many inches away was her hand to her clit? Can she measure the distance for me? Maybe ask a nurse or aid at the facility to measure? She said there was no way they would be agreeable to do that because the staff does not discuss the sexual needs of the residents. This was not news to me, and pressed on to find a resolution. I asked if she had a sheet of paper or legal size envelope laying around…she found a legal size envelope and we proceeded to use this as a gage to measure the distance from her hand to her vagina area.
She estimated it was almost 1½ envelopes away. I measured an envelope and determined that it was approximately 12 inches. I immediately recommended that she get the Flex Stimulator Gerbil vibrator. After using the Gerbil, she was able to reclaim her orgasms and is able to comfortably stimulate herself while reclining in her chair or bed with ease! She told me it was an absolute godsend.
I often highly recommend two different sized vibrators that I sell on my website that are very popular for people who are unable to reach or have manual dexterity challenges. A really nice feature about these vibes is that they are a powerful battery operated stimulator with a smooth jelly coated flexible shaft for the versatility to bend and curve at any angle or direction, or use in any position. You can bend it easily to insert and comfortably reach all your pleasure zones. May also be used for male stimulation/genital play.
Flex Stimulator Gerbil – length is 14" base to tip.
Flex a Pleasure Flexible Vibrating Massager – length is 10.5” from base to tip.