Tutorial on Performing Oral Sex on a Woman

Wed, 03/16/2011 - 07:51
Submitted by Anonymous

This is an interesting cunnilingus tutorial that I found on The Clitoris.com. The article was written by unknown writers and is considered public property. So, I don't know who to thank. But I do have to add my own two cents to this very worthwhile tutorial.

The first point I'd like to make is that this tutorial should be used as a guide only. It is not meant to replace communication with your partner. She should be your first and last resource. What works for one woman will not work for all of womankind. Also, keep in mind that not every woman climaxes from oral sex.

Cunnilingus works best for women who need a mild to moderate level of stimulation in a certain area. Women who require a lot stimulation (i.e., vibe queens), who like a a lot of pressure, or just generalized stimulation all over the pubic area might not be orgasmic with oral - and there is nothing wrong with them. Plus, as I pointed out in my article No Orgasm: Here is One Surprising Reason Why, women who masturbate by moving or grinding against something are not as orgasmic from being passively stimulated by a partner.

Furthermore, as women age, testosterone levels drop and clitoral sensitivity may change. A woman who was orgasmic with oral sex at 25 may not be at 50. Keep all of this in mind and focus on pleasuring your partner, not demanding that she come so you'll feel like a stud or studette.

How to Eat Pussy
Tammy, Linda and Nicole

Hey, I have a lot of respect for all you guys who like to eat pussy because there are too few of you out there. And I'm not the only woman who says this. Furthermore, some of you guys who are giving it the old college try are not doing too well, so maybe this little lesson will help you out. When a woman finds a man who gives good head, she's found a treasure she's not going to let go of too quickly. This is one rare customer and she knows it. She won't even tell her girlfriends about it or that guy will become the most popular man in town. So, remember, most guys can fuck, and those who can usually do it satisfactorily, but the guy who gives good head, he's got it made.

Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you've got the world's most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she's going to worry about how you like her body. Tell her it's beautiful, tell her which parts you like best, tell her anything, but get her to trust you enough to let you down between her legs.

Now stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn't it? There is nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. I know. I've seen plenty of them. They come in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside like a little girl's cunnie and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz. Appreciate your woman's unique qualities and tell her what makes her special.

Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during love-making. They also respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her, the easier it will be to get her off. So all the time you're petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, talk to her about it.

Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Now spread the tops of her pussy up until you can find her clit. Women have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have different sized cocks. It doesn't mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm. All it means is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin.

Whenever you touch a woman's pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn't have any juices of it's own and it's extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it's dry and that hurts. But you don't want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled.

Approach her pussy slowly. Women, even more so than men, love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, then float away. Make her anticipate it.

Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her. After you've done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she's straining to get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit.

Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you're about to eat must be done gently.

Tongue-fuck her. This feels divine. It also teases the hell out of her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit. Check it out. See if her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of it's covering. If so, lick it. If you can't see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath. So bring your tongue up the top of her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience it's presence. But even if you can't feel the tiny pearl, you can make it rise by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press into her skin.

Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This should cause her legs to shudder. When you sense she's getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth. Start to suck gently and watch your lady's face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even harder. Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don't fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don't let go. That's what she'll be saying too: 'Don't stop. Don't ever stop!'

There's a reason for that, most men stop too soon. Just like with cock sucking, this is something worth learning about and worth learning to do well. I know a man who's a lousy fuck, simply lousy, but he can eat pussy like nobody I know and he never has trouble getting a date. Girls are falling all over him.

But back to your pussy eating session...There's another thing you can do to intensify your woman's pleasure. You can finger-fuck her while she's enjoying your clit-licking talents. Before, during or after. She'll really like it. In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up against when you're fucking her. Well, since your cock is pretty far away from your mouth, your fingers will have to do the fucking.

Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide and therefore can't get deep enough. Make sure they're wet so you don't irritate her skin. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with them rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing.

She'll let you know what to do. If you're sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you're giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she's getting high on this. If there's any doubt, check her out for symptoms. Each woman is unique. You may have one who's nipples get hard when she's excited or only when she's having an orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you'll be a more sensitive lover.

When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven's sakes, don't let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now.

If you play your cards right, you'll get some multiple orgasms this way. A woman stays excited for a full hour after she's had an orgasm. Do you realize the full impact of that information? The potential? One woman was clocked at 56 orgasms at one sitting. Do you know what effect you would have on a woman you gave 56 orgasms to? She'd be yours as long as you wanted her.

Some women like to have their man rub and enter their anal section with their finger while they are being eaten out!

The last advice I have for you is this: After you've made her come, made her your slave by giving her the best head she's ever had, don't leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she's come all the way down. A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments after sex.

Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you can have. But it's what you make it. Take your time, practice often, pay attention to your lover's signals, and most of all, enjoy yourself.

Now get to it and make your partner smile and love you forever!

With Love,

Tammy, Linda and Nicole

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Thanks Lilithland

Betty Dodson's picture
Wed, 03/16/2011 - 18:27
Betty Dodson

I've already recommended this to several of my questioners on how to do oral sex for a woman. It's one of the best essays I've come across in a long time. So I also thank the three women who wrote it. By the way, I am at the point where I believe female sexual dysfunction is how we define heterosexuality with basically a male model. We have our work cut out for us dear Blogger.

there has always , or

Wed, 03/16/2011 - 20:31
lsjbaby (not verified)

there has always , or recently, been a strong undercurrent, maybe no more, that the gold standard for sexual dysfunction was based on male paradigms of healthy sex. 
lots of comments, research, etc. to help women (and hopefully, men) understand that women do not operate, function, with the same goals or expectations. We are not therefore dysfunctional, just f'in different. 
your post is great and thank you for the shout out.

..to the authors..

Thu, 03/17/2011 - 12:27
marki (not verified)

..I read this post to my wife......the first thing she said to me was...'did you ghost this?'.......
What can I say? If all men read and understood it there would be quite a few more happy realtionships than there are.
This should be required reading in all relationships.

Hi Dr. Betty and Isjbaby, yes

Thu, 03/17/2011 - 16:03
LilithLand (not verified)

Hi Dr. Betty and Isjbaby, yes I think much of what passes for FSD is created because of our androcentric view of sex. It's weird in 19th century sexual repression was normalized and women were considered deviant if they had any sex drive at all; now, we live in a hypersexualized culture and women who don't want sex are deviant. Women are never seen as measuring up to to the male standard. I am sure if being really fat suddenly got trendy women would be seen as inept at that task too - in comparison to men.

Thanks, Marki glad you both

Thu, 03/17/2011 - 16:07
LilithLand (not verified)

Thanks, Marki glad you both got something out of it.

Continued education

Sun, 07/12/2015 - 19:32
ereqis (not verified)

I'm a guy and i really enjoyed this informative piece! I recently met with a woman I am VERY interested in and we are exploring many new sexual activities and a lot of 'firsts' for me. She informed me I was extreamly good at oral sex and that made me dive into the quest to do even better. I have been studying for many days now and can say she is a lucky woman. Men, don't only do whats required, become more educated, keep striving to do better and then you will see the face of true satisfaction on your woman.