I wrote a very emotional peice on My BodySex effect a couple of weeks back but I've found I'm experiencing more still. On my last blog post FondCare left a comment regarding shared masturbation and it's effects being involved in evolutionary development for humans. I can readily believe that but I am certain it is essential to personal sexual evolution. The first time I watched another adult woman masturbate was in online pornography on ifeelmyself.com (IFM).
Watching other women masturbate is, of course, a massive turn on for me because I am sexually attracted to women (as well as all genders). However, watching women wank has a value for my sexuality beyond arousal. When I worked for IFM I saw hundreds of women masturbate and it made me realise there are so many different ways it can be done and I've tried most of them. I experienced this again at the BodySex Workshop and I picked up new techniques from the women involved to try. I described previously using Betty's vulvic massage and using Carlin's advice not to use tension to chase the orgasm. Last night, I tried the other womens techniques and it was fucking. awesome. again.
Whilst masturbating I picked up a mirror as Marissa used while masturbating in the group and looked into my own eyes. At first I was very uncomfortable with it, then it became very surreal and I saw myself in a way I had not before. I also remember Sayaka describing how she uses a vibrator by pressing inwards towards her clitoris from the outside of her labia majora. I tried this and I was shocked at how intense the sensations were. I can handle direct contact on my clitoris with my vibrator but this actually felt just as good, if not better, and I have been mixing this technique in with direct contact to great orgasmic, cunt gushing effect.
As soon as I had finished last night I thought about writing this blog and my second thought was... I have yet to try D's technique! It was so sexy watching her cum right next to me lying on her belly, her magic wand under her making the whole floor vibrate. I can't believe I hadn't thought to try it immediately afterwards as I remember thinking "I really want to try that" at the time.
I started masturbation in my childhood on my belly as a grinder, many women do, and I still do grind into my pillow or blankets quite often to masturbate. I have not as yet lay on my belly and ground my clit and cunt into a hitachi magic wand as D does. So... I've bought one and I'm waiting for it to arrive.
So I guess what I am saying is, regardless of whether you are same sex attracted or not, there is massive benefit in witnessing and/or sharing masturbation with your own sex for expanding and exploring your own capacity to give yourself a fucking good time in the sack.