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BodySex Again...And Again

Thu, 03/01/2012 - 10:02
Submitted by Liandra Dahl

I wrote a very emotional peice on My BodySex effect a couple of weeks back but I've found I'm experiencing more still. On my last blog post FondCare left a comment regarding shared masturbation and it's effects being involved in evolutionary development for humans. I can readily believe that but I am certain it is essential to personal sexual evolution. The first time I watched another adult woman masturbate was in online pornography on ifeelmyself.com (IFM).

Watching other women masturbate is, of course, a massive turn on for me because I am sexually attracted to women (as well as all genders). However, watching women wank has a value for my sexuality beyond arousal. When I worked for IFM I saw hundreds of women masturbate and it made me realise there are so many different ways it can be done and I've tried most of them. I experienced this again at the BodySex Workshop and I picked up new techniques from the women involved to try. I described previously using Betty's vulvic massage and using Carlin's advice not to use tension to chase the orgasm. Last night, I tried the other womens techniques and it was fucking. awesome. again.

Whilst masturbating I picked up a mirror as Marissa used while masturbating in the group and looked into my own eyes. At first I was very uncomfortable with it, then it became very surreal and I saw myself in a way I had not before. I also remember Sayaka describing how she uses a vibrator by pressing inwards towards her clitoris from the outside of her labia majora. I tried this and I was shocked at how intense the sensations were. I can handle direct contact on my clitoris with my vibrator but this actually felt just as good, if not better, and I have been mixing this technique in with direct contact to great orgasmic, cunt gushing effect.

As soon as I had finished last night I thought about writing this blog and my second thought was... I have yet to try D's technique! It was so sexy watching her cum right next to me lying on her belly, her magic wand under her making the whole floor vibrate. I can't believe I hadn't thought to try it immediately afterwards as I remember thinking "I really want to try that" at the time. 

I started masturbation in my childhood on my belly as a grinder, many women do, and I still do grind into my pillow or blankets quite often to masturbate. I have not as yet lay on my belly and ground my clit and cunt into a hitachi magic wand as D does. So... I've bought one and I'm waiting for it to arrive.

So I guess what I am saying is, regardless of whether you are same sex attracted or not, there is massive benefit in witnessing and/or sharing masturbation with your own sex for expanding and exploring your own capacity to give yourself a fucking good time in the sack. 

We Suggest: 
Betty Dodson's Bodysex Workshop
Betty Dodson's Bodysex Workshop DVD
Andreas Gonzales
The Capacity of Pleasure to Heal, Sustain & Support Us
My First Bodysex Viewing Party
Sex Documentarian
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Hey! I was intrigued by what

Thu, 03/01/2012 - 13:57
Elin A (not verified)

Hey!
I was intrigued by what you wrote about looking into your own eyes in the mirror. Could you tell me more about what you experienced?
I really think it's important to try different techniques and not just stay in your old rut... It helps us grow and understand our bodies better!

exploring options

Fri, 03/02/2012 - 15:07
Marisa Black

My friends and lovers can tell you that I'm a person who definitely enjoys having options. Even if I end up choosing the same thing repeatedly, I take deep and lasting comfort in knowing there are choices, and I can make another choice at any given time.

I'm in full agreement with you, Li, about the options for masturbation, and how absolutely valuable the Bodysex workshop is (whether watching the DVD/video or participating) in offering a visual representation of those options.

It makes me incredibly happy to know that you tried mirror-gazing while masturbating, as I did on camera for Bodysex. I'm not on some mission to get people to try it, but I have found it to be personally enlightening and it makes me happy to know that someone I care about (you!) has tried it for herself. I'm also curious to hear more of that experience, as the commenter above requested.

And Elin, if you're curious about another person's mirror experience, I'll say that mirrorplay has increasingly become one of my self-sex practices. For me it reinforces that I am my own lover, that when I give myself orgasms I am having sex and making love to myself. It feels connective, looking into eyes, and my experience is similar to what Li noted above, where I see myself differently than I usually do.  Even if I look in a mirror while masturbating on a regular basis, every time I see a new layer, a new iteration of myself. I see my many faces, the many women I am, have been, and will be. And I love myself all the more fiercely as a result.

Thank you again, Li, for sharing more of your Bodysex aftermath download. I have a couple posts that have been percolating in my mind and I expect them to be manifest outwardly in the near future.

xo

sorry, this isn't the place, but....

Mon, 03/05/2012 - 14:51
ellvee (not verified)

you sort of took away my favorite tool for my girlfriend and I to get off together. what happened to your reading time video  i was sad to see it dissapear the first time and then extatic to see it the second time around. sadly we only had one chance to "use" it before you took it back down. anway, thanks for making it and post it. wish you would consider re posting. also, to elin and marisa, thanks for bringing up mirror play and the joys of it. i've been thinking about trying it before but for one reason or another put it off for another day. i think your discription just made me push this up on my list of priorities. 

learning about orgasm

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Fri, 09/28/2012 - 13:40
little jo

is how I got into watching women masturbate on porn sites... I have a quite peculiar story, as I didn't have a functional clitoris before 53, when I decided to experience orgasm. And after 2 years of tracking the different ways women climax and their different techniques on-line, I finally found mine.
There are several advantages for a woman to watch other women getting off: as you're saying it's a massive turn-on that makes us love ourselves more, it cheers us up (if I'm getting cunt-negative I watch an orgasm compilation) and it gives us tips and ideas to find/enhance our own masturbation techniques...
... but there's something more it can offer: sometimes while watching someone climaxing I have an orgasm myself. Just by watching, no other stimulation. Now it's not the same kind of orgasm my vibrator provides (a long spinal shiver followed by a serie of vaginal spasms), but my heart is pumping and I feel a massive muscular contraction and a rush on my face and chest.
So I definitely recommand sharing our experiences for more pleasure to come. Thank you for sharing yours :-)

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