An unfortunate part of being human is that we are all limited by our brain's ability to think, reason and make sense of life. Many of us cling to myths and stories to help us do this. The problem with the brain is that if we don’t like what we see, we can literally deny reality with our beliefs.
Take the case of North Carolina. Last week voters passed a constitutional amendment defining marriage solely as a one woman and one man union. The reason given was that the supposed honoring of “God’s clear definition of marriage.” Now this whole “clear definition” concept is really just a complete denial of reality. If it’s all so clear, why is there controversy at all? It’s clear, right? Beuler?
Fortunately, we humans are not stand alone brains in glass jars. We live in a shared reality, and the larger tide against gay-anything is changing. The moral question of “gay” will come to an end – probably in our lifetime.
Like pretty much all of life, marriage is far more complex and complicated than words on a page - and rarely ever contains a one man one woman union. In fact, typically, even the most tame marriages contain other people. Be it flirtations, extramarital affairs, or "affairs of the heart". Marriage is far from an isolated union of a man and a woman.
This is because marriages exist in a cultural context. We are forced to interact with people and ideas. The smaller culture may say gay marriage is bad, but the greater human reality demonstrates the incorrectness of this idea. The reality is that gay pairing do in fact exist in humans and in nature - they always have, and they always will. To say that the "nature of God's design" for people is heterosexual union is bat shit craziness!
What is the hard-core evidence for this idea, other than an overly interpreted piece of gibberish we call the bible?
We can say I'm a banana. We can even create a constitutional amendment saying that I am a banana. Saying I'm a banana, and even legislating that I'm a banana doesn't make me a banana. There is no way to legislate gay marriage out of existence.
When it comes to religion, we are all playing a game of make-believe - especially when we are talking about an invisible man's absolute laws that have to be taken on faith. If they are absolute laws, then faith is not necessary at all. They are absolutes - which means there is no room for interpretation.
But all we do with these supposed “absolute laws” is interpret them - which by definition makes them ambiguous and arbitrary. The meaning of marriage is whatever we say it is, exactly because there is no inherent constant, truth or meaning to marriage–other what the culture gives it. And that is exactly why there are so many different types of religious pairings that exist in God’s "absolute" world.
And speaking of ambiguity, apparently Jesus is interpretive about his own teachings. Jesus told Obama that, contrary to the teachings in the bible, he's actually cool with gay marriage.
So North Carolina, get with the program. Maybe Jesus’s dad is an ignorant asshole, but like lots of kids today, Jesus is actually cool with gay people.
You see, the reality is that when one of the most influential people in the free world comes down on the side of gay marriage (I’m talking about Obama, not his invisible friend), it means that religious biases against sexual orientation are really coming to an end.