I watched a great documentary tonight: Sexy Uganda, made by the Dutch woman, Sunny Bergman.
The documentary starts out in Holland where Bergman is inspired by a group of Ugandan women who talk about sex education. One of the first scenes is this big black Ugandan woman who is describing how she has sex with her man. One of the women says, “Show us”, and the woman gets on the floor and starts showing how she moves while having sex. Great! You’d never get a Danish woman to do a sex dance on the floor. Especially not with cameras rolling and a whole group of people watching! I loved it!
So Bergman goes to Uganda to see what makes these women so liberated about their sexuality.
I have to tell you right away that in Uganda women pull their inner labia to make them longer! No, I didn’t misspell anything or get it wrong, women are taught to pull their inner labia, because the bigger the labia, the bigger the pleasure! I wish I could have watched this documentary with Betty and Carlin; Betty would have been jumping around the room.
In Uganda having sex, or more exactly having great sex, is a concern to the whole family. It’s actually shameful to the family if the couple’s sex life isn’t working. That’s why the woman gets a sex educator who traditionally is the woman’s father’s sister… She’s called “Ssenga” and is suppose to educate the woman about pulling her labia and having sex with her man. It’s not only the women who have an educator; the men are educated by an uncle whom they call “Kojja”.
Bergman meets up with a professional Ssenga who tells Bergman about having sex. How you roll your hips and lift your butt to orgasm. The Ssenga also takes a look at Bergman’s labia and of course Bergman really needs to start pulling her inner lips. Bergman tells the Ssenga how some Western women have their labia cut off. I loved the look on the Ssenga’s face when she asked: “Why?”
Another thing the Ssenga tells Bergman is how friends can pull each other’s labia. However, it’s okay to get wet and even to orgasm, but you can only pull the labia. No fingering each other or anything like that. Unfortunately the limiting comes from homosexuality being a huge taboo in Uganda. It’s even discussed whether there should be a law that allows execution of homosexuals.
And here comes the saddest part. White missionaries brought this to Uganda. Before they came, nobody said anything about same sex relationships. Two men living together could even be considered holy men.
White men or not, some of the women tell Bergman about going to Catholic School. Even putting religion down on the Ugandans couldn’t prevent tradition. The women explain how the nuns at the school pulled the girls’ labia and how these young girls found this so pleasurable that they would ask for more.
So what’s my point of posting this?
It’s so important to know that our Western ways are not the only way. When it comes to sexuality we’ve f’ed so much, and we keep on feeding it. In all other aspects of life we ask for variation, color, nuance, originality… so where did this stereotype of a sexual person come from? Even in my liberated little country, Denmark, our young people don’t know the most elementary things when it comes to sex, but they know what tea-bagging is…I rest my case…to go stretch my inner labia.
Here's the link to the entire film: Sexy Uganda