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With the first resignation of a pope in six centuries, a huge energy block has been moved out of the way of human relationships.

For its entire history, the Roman Catholic Church has set the rules for relationships in our society and many others. Yet its own sexual and relational conduct has been so horrific that it has paid out more than $3 billion in settlements for child sex abuse.

Numerous archdioceses have filed for bankruptcy in recent years as a result. The outbound pope has had to use his diplomatic immunity as a head of state to protect him from being sued in the U.S. for personally taking part of the coverup.

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The Sexual State of the Union

Did you catch that Naomi Wolf, an American author and political consultant, has a new book out, about sex? It's called Vagina: A New Biography. I commend Wolf for figuring out that there is a sexual-social-political connection, and taking advantage of it.

Toni Bentley, who reviewed the book for The New York Times, summed it up this way: "The female counterpart to your penis is not (spoiler alert) our vagina, and calling a book about the female sex 'Vagina' is like calling a book about the male sex 'Scrotum'. Talk about a near miss." I kept thinking the same thing. Did this woman get her entire sex education at The Vagina Monologues?

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Betty Dodson's Bodysex Workshop

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We keep making these comparisons between the current nascent protest movement in Western culture and the 1960s. One involved an explosion of creative culture and an anti-war movement complete with draft-dodging, fueled by psychedelic drugs; the other features an economic protest finally making the connection between corporate crime and our endless, unjust wars, fueled by psychedelic social media.

Last week, I cautioned that some kind of false-flag event might be used to disrupt the Occupy Wall Street protests that have now spread to 1,100 cities in the United States. As of press time, the protesters had too strong a presence in Zuccotti Park for New York City to move ahead with its proposed 'cleaning' of the park first thing Friday morning.

Work on the Bodysex DVD is continuing at the Goddess temple on Manhattan's East Side. Monday and Tuesday have been devoted to interviews with participants.

One feature of Betty's videos is a lot of interview time. I'm not a big fan of the word 'empowerment', but if anything is empowering for women, it's hearing what their sisters have to say about sex and desire. I could write a long article about why this is, but there is one reason that stands out, but to sum up, opening up a space wherre women can speak about these topics without the fear of judgment is essential to all sexual healing.

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My First Bodysex Viewing Party

As many of Betty and Carlin's readers know, this is the week that they are filming a Bodysex workshop for a DVD. This is an all-women's event. I consider myself one of the men close to Betty and her work who is holding space for the experience, from the outside. Over the next few days I will share my thoughts about how that feels and what it means to me.

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Betty Dodson's Bodysex Workshop DVD

We're now at the 10th anniversary of the Sept. 11 incident, and it's high time we start asking questions.

You might say I'm the resident investigative reporter at Dodson and Ross -- in addition to writing lots and lots about masturbation, I specialize in covering corporate and government fraud. My prior investigations have covered Monsanto, GE and many agencies that have covered up environmental poisoning.

Wednesday night I had dinner with a friend who’s an experienced homeopath and teacher, helping me fill in some gaps in my studies. He was describing what homeopaths call the cancer miasm: that is, the whole thought form and energy pattern associated with the disease cancer.

We Americans live in what may be the most carcinogenic society on Earth, and homeopathy proposes that this is as much about our mentality as it is about toxins in the food and water. Even mainstream medical practitioners note that one thing many cancer patients have in common is the habit of suppressing their emotions.

I advocate choice in sexual matters. My promotion of shared masturbation is in alignment with the choice to abstain from, or have an alternative to, potentially pregnancy-creating sex. The logical thing for an “abstinence education” program to advocate would indeed be masturbation, sharing masturbation, shared fantasy, and so on.

However, these experiences promote sexuality, sexual consciousness and erotic sharing while avoiding the problems of unwanted pregnancy and the anxiety around STIs. They open up an erotic common ground that goes beyond gender politics.

In late 2010, one of the Planet Waves editors posted to our blog an article she found about the odd relationship options offered by Facebook (for example, the category 'it's complicated' being a stand-in for everything other than something supposedly normal, without saying what). Following that article back to its source, a blog called Onely.org, I discovered the existence of a singles movement.

In talking to kids about sex, there is what we tell them, what we say around them, and most important, how we feel when we say it. They are meaningful in the opposite order: how we feel is the most significant thing. We need to aim for clarity with ourselves and remember how vital this information is; therefore it needs to be conveyed with love and awareness.

We always assume kids know less than they know at the same time we assume they need less information than they need.

Many people have discovered the emancipating pleasure of sharing masturbation. Many who have not actually tried it have thought about quite a lot; some are delightfully obsessed: the idea of others masturbating, and oneself being seen or caught masturbating, are two of the most dependable fantasies out there. So you may have a window into how potent of a balm this is, and how beautifully it opens up the space for other forms of exploration. For now, let's work from the other direction.

One of the first things that we learn about masturbation is to do it alone.

I've been having a series of revelations on the theme of writing about sex, and why my writing strikes some people as controversial.

In a thread below that has racked up more than 80 comments, I describe the connections between sex and astrology in theoretical terms: using the astrological houses as a model. Fair to say that my ideas about sexuality and astrology inform one another on a regular basis, and I've learned a lot from both reading charts and listening to people. I see the potential in my own chart and I do my best to live up to it and honor the mission I perceive (Cancer rising, Aquarius Moon conjunct Vesta, 8th house, and a bit of Chiron next door in Pisces). Studying astrology opens up a whole dimension of veiled information, much of which involves perspectives on how self encounters self, and how people encounter one another.

Ladies and gentlemen, meet the 2012 Republican candidate for president: Mr. Handsome. Or he will be, if he can stay out of the sex scandal business.

But first, psychology class.

Dr. Wilhelm Reich, renowned as Freud's brightest student, and notably the one who rebelled against him with the most precision, said that politics was the very pinnacle of neurosis.

We have options for understanding the current state of politics, other than psychoanalytic. We can look at the election of Scott Brown to the U.S. Senate as a backlash against the failings of the Democrats, and Obama's seeming failure to live up to his campaign promises.

I FLOATED on the edge of sleep, lightly dreaming on a cloud of cool steam. The taste of my semen coated my mouth. I was nobody.

Relieved of desire, and relieved of identity.

My first cognitive thought in that space was that my erotic identity had been erased. My sexual orientation, my unbearable craving for women, my curiosity for men, my drive to explore myself-all had disappeared and replaced by the thin stream of breath entering and exiting my body.

My mind drifted around images and memories of what I had just experienced with Enesa and Jon, who were now secluded privately in their room once again. Then an idea coalesced around the feeling I was floating within: I had returned to the scene of my conception, recreating it as a conscious experience.