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One of the most important advantages of selfloving is for developing sexual sophistication in forms both physical and mental. Selfloving can serve as your punching bag in the gym, so to speak, to practice body-based sexual pleasure skills and fantasy for mind-based skills.

I figured this out a long time ago and it was one of the reasons I chose Betty to be my sex life coaching mentor because we were on the same page in a time when no one else in my world was.

I remember back before my partnersex life began when it occurred to me to explore specific regions of my glans (head of the penis) for sensitivity. Then come up with a technique that would integrate those erotically-sensitive zones with ones I'd already discovered. The result was more powerful pleasure returns for me plus bigger orgasms.

Once my sex life began, I utilized selfloving sessions for practicing come control, or in other words, freeing myself from premature ejaculation as it manifested itself in me. It was a long term project, but it paid off with gaining much more control and allowed me to stumble across new techniques and sexually-beneficial principles along the way.

A fact was made plain to me throughout my experience with these two examples of selfloving for application beyond a quick orgasm. The fact was, selfloving is a very practical way to get better and better at sex. I have talked to socially-conservative adults in the past who attack self-stimulation and the practicality is hard to get around: you have the most access to self-stimulation compared to partnered. The time it would take you to develop new skills with less time spent in practice is, as with all things, much longer than what it would otherwise have to be.

Plus, trying to develop ejaculatory control during partnersex is much more difficult due to the extra erotic elements present. In short, a real vagina that feels amazing for one thing, and an attractive woman to have sex with for another. Further, that woman will have to be subjected to a longer learning process first hand, which from her perspective makes her start to wonder if it's ever going to happen. If your belief system forbids selfloving, that's fine with me. That's a decision each of us has a right to make one way or the other. However, the utility and sexual skills development potential speaks for itself.

Watch Eric's Masturbation Techniques:

Man Masturbation with Lubrication

Man Masturbating with Vibrators

-Fin

For those new to my blog, I write on my and others' sex life, in erotica form, because many of us need only read of an example of what really is possible in sexual pleasure. It so often lights a desire to "Want to do that. Feel that." They want to learn how to have better sex through developing their sexual sophistication maybe for the first time in their lives. I also intend to present to my readers the reality of great sex from basic to advanced to inspire them as it will. Finally, ever wonder how good the sex that your sex therapist is having in their own sex life? I have. I'm not a sex educator, nor a sex therapist. I don't do sex therapy. I'm a sex life coach. I guide, I teach, and I do.
   

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