Here is a link to a search page on www.mercola.com, the number one ranking wellness site that has everything on that website related to info on the realities of sugar and also other sweeteners out there.
In addition to teaching physical, mental, and emotional sex life skills to my clients, I also teach them about what I've integrated into my life successfully in the wellness department; particularly as it relates to forwarding better sex lives. Here is what I can add to the discussion on sugar and the wasting it's doing to sex lives everywhere:
One thing I realized for myself a few years ago is you can't have every pleasure out there. I've talked to friends and acquaintences and many have said they want their amazing hot sex and their amazing hot fudge sundae. Trouble is, you can't. Some pleasures are compatible and others are not, or are only in the very short run. Choose your pleasures. First, decide what pleasures are most important to you in life and after you do that, investigate which ones degrade or block you from enjoying those most-important pleasures. When you identify them, like sugar, eliminate them or change their form from candy/cake/cookie indulgences to fruit or dried unsweetened fruit or an occasional small spoonful of raw honey. Drop the bread out of your life too because that metabolizes into sugar.
You might be saying to me, "But those are the pleasures that make life worth living!" I pose a different perspective. What if your ability to enjoy the pleasures you value the most, like great sex, youthful longevity, mental clarity, an ability to play a sport or other physical passion would be increased ten-fold, but in exchange, you had to give up lesser pleasures of sugar, ice cream, cookies, candy and the like? Most of us want to have a sexy body for as long as possible for your partner(s) to enjoy and lose their minds and bodies in, but you also want sweets and processed foods of other kinds. You can't have both. You have to make a decision. I see sugar, for myself, as a pleasure of the past. A childhood pleasure. A lot of how we approach sugar, me included, is from memories. I want adult pleasures now, thank you. They're far more powerful and fulfilling. I'm ready to throw off the lesser and grasp fully the greater.
There are those who eating and sugar is their only source of pleasure in life mostly based on how easy the access to it is and the leniency our culture has around it vs sexual enjoyment. I say break out of the easy and take on little bits at a time of the challenging. Every little bit you instill in yourself of the challenging makes you better and better until one day, you turn around, like I did, and you barely remember the details of what life was like before. That was totally unexpected for me. I always assumed I would miss cookies etc and when I went long enough without them, my body had changed. I no longer had an attraction to what I had before and when I returned to it, or to the amounts of it, my body sickened. That was something I never expected! It made me remember when I was a kid and I'd have a "tummy ache" after eating the way many adults do now. Why don't adults get tummy aches from candy? Because the body adapts to the poisoning. Once I let it go, my long lost tummy aches returned. It gave me an extra impetus for change. Who wants to feel sick?!
I loved my new endurance and tone. I lapse sometimes too. I did a month-long total drop of sugar sources and I can now see my abs easier than I could before. My lapse is over after getting that payoff. When you're stressed, turn to human contact. Massage, sex, warmth, orgasms, love. Pleasurable physical and visual sensation is tremendous for stress. Sometimes I wonder if porn addiction is in part, for some anyway, a stress reliever for that reason. If you don't currently have a source for physical touch and contact, look into massages during the lunch hour. If that doesn't work, I know female friends and lovers of mine who trade massages and oil rubdowns with their close girlfriends. They aren't sexual and don't touch bum or boobs, but it's a great way to integrate human touch beyond a hug economically while practicing their own massage skills. I'll bet you may be able to to the same thing with a gay male friend who's interested in the same idea for economy massage as I'll bet they came up with this idea before I did. It's a much better way to spend an evening after work than television and ice cream. I wish I knew an economy way to direct to straight men. Lesbian and striaght male relations aren't at their highest and that's more than 99% of bros want to do on a bro-date. Though we know men have their outlets for massage, so I'm not too worried. At work, when there's junk food always around, take dried fruits with you to munch on when appropriate.
If there is nothing else you'll take away from this blog post, take this: the pleasure you'll feel when a beautiful woman (or man) fawns and lusts over your in-shape and getting in-shaper body, during sex or out of the bedroom, feels far better than what sugar will ever make you feel. I've been there and I go there every night I have sex. To hell with sweets! Take the greatest pleasures in life and make them yours.
For those new to my blog, I write on my and others' sex life, in erotica form, because many of us need only read of an example of what really is possible. It so often lights a desire to "Want to do that. Feel that." They want to learn how to have better sex through sex advice and sex education, maybe for the first time in their lives. I also intend to present to my readers the reality of great sex from basic to advanced. Finally, ever wonder how good the sex that your sex therapist is having in their own sex life? I have. I'm not a sex therapist, I don't do sex therapy. I'm a sex life coach. I teach and I do.
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