My lover Kira and I just had her first orgasm with me via oral sex. She has a clitoris that wants a lot of direct stimulation. Right on the glans. No to the right or left of it, no avoiding direct clitoral stimulation till the end; it's straight on, rock on, and don't stop till she comes loud and proud. She told me she has a love-hate relationship with oral sex because while it feels good, even the best tongues don't have the stamina or strength to provide the required intensity level for her to reach her clitoral orgasm.
The first time we did it, it was foreplay to get her even more soaked than she already was. The second time, we stopped and did some communication about it in the moment, then moved to her preferred vibrator. Getting head gets her hard and wet, but her favorite vibe, the Mystic Wand, is her go-to combined with a hard penis moving where hard penises move best inside her. It's okay with me if that's what her body needs. I agree with my mentor, Betty Dodson, that if a vibrator is a woman's preferred form of clitoral stimulation, she shouldn't be made to feel bad or less than because that is the case. Ever. Not from anyone. If you can't handle it, walk. She'll find someone who can. You get the idea. Now, if she decides she wants to explore orgasm without a vibe, then I join in to be a part of creating that over time, for as long as she has an interest in developing it.
I'd decided to add some extra stimulation to the mix on the night the very lovely Kira came all over my face. For whatever reason, I'd not gone that route yet. Probably because our intercourse is so good that we lose it and rush ahead to that. This time I forced my hard cock to wait and her aroused pussy to take something different as an appetizer. In this case, the Fun Factory brand "Bubbles" toy. It's one of their bestsellers and among the sex toys I suggest to my sex life consulting clients. I pumped her vagina and gspot with a specific technique I teach while my firey intention and tongue joined to do their most aggressive, unrelenting below-job on her hard clit and achy-wet pussy.
Kira's pretty flat tummy went taught from arching her back from the multi-layered pleasures inside and out of her curvacous lower body. Gradually, the arches came more often till her bubble-curved, hard-yet-soft ass lifted up off the mattress just before slamming back down and bucking over and over to cope with the strength of the climaxing superpleasure in her clitoris. That high, feminine voice lost some of its sweetness and went primal, but still very femmy-- as beautiful as it was erotic. The technique I used inside her with the toy helped a great deal, she said afterwards, my head resting on her inner thigh.
Kira also said that the vibe inside, (which the Bubbles can do too) at least at the setting I used, wasn't significant enough to add to her pleasure experience. "Okay, good to know!" I said with warmth. Kira also said, "Oh, and you can go harder on my clit next time too, babe." I smiled, knowing that other people being told the same thing would devastate their egoes because they couldn't go any harder or faster. It pays to know some things about sex so that things can be put into accurate perspective. I -think- I told her at the time that was as fast as I could go. Maybe not. It did suddenly make me ask myself a "What if..." question.
So I said to myself, I said, "Self, assuming the clitoral hood is already drawn back, you need a stronger tongue to create higher intensity tongue pleasure on her clitoris. How do we do that? Never thought of that before. We'd always utilized other stronger stimulation sources like fast moving fingers or her favorite vibrator. What if a woman who loves her vibe and can't come from tongue stimulation on her clit, but wants to? Could she get off via a stronger tongue? It is a muscle after all. We could practice tongue exercises every day while at work or reading on the subway etc, now couldn't we?"
Myself agreed wholeheartedly and suggested internet research. I looked up tongue exercises and found a kooky method where you hold a pen in your mouth and click the button in and out with your tongue. It worked, but has to provide enough resistence. Gripping the plastic with my teeth wasn't good either. Then I found the info I excerpt below from the usc.louisiana.edu website on speech therapy and rehab. After you read the exercises, text them to yourself so you'll have them for easy review before they're memorized. There was also a section on the webpage for tongue lengthening, which I'm sure a few people out there may be interested in as well. The link is at the bottom of this blog post. Let me know how it goes, everyone! Let's give those hot and sexy, tough-girl clits every fucking thing we've got!
The instructions say to do these once through, ten times a day:
1. Tongue Push Forward
2. Tongue Push Up
3. Tongue Push To The Side
4. Tongue Inside Push
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