Sex Not Fair For So Many Straight Women

I was walking Phineas this morning when a beautiful young woman walked up and gushed over my dog's supernatural cuteness. We'd talked before, she'd gushed before, so this was our round three. We'll call her Raven. This time Raven asked me what I do, eyes and hands down at the ubercute dog in my arms.

"Well, I'm a sex life consultant."

Her head jolted up with wide, excited, brown eyes behind her stylish sunglasses. Raven and I had a conversation with words to the effect of:

"Wow, really? Awesome. My friend is going to become a sex therapist."

I said, "Yes, that's psychology's sex wing. I don't do psych."

"What do you cover then?"

"Psychologist are qualified to treat sexual disorders as their greatest strength, and can teach how to have better sex to a basic degree. I go deeply into how to have wonderful sex when everything is healthy, or healing, and ready to go."

She asked me where I learned my info or if it was experiencial-only. I said from Betty, other teachers, and my own experience. I sought out Betty in the very beginning to learn from someone who was already there and I felt had acknowledgement from her peers.

Raven continued: "It's hard not to go into the personal when you talk about sex, but here goes: you know what sex means to me? Not Fair! I have had boyfriends and hookups and it's always them coming every time and me not. I mean, I was with a guy recently, and he came, and this time I actually said to him, 'Okay, my turn....' He yawns and says to me that he's tired!"

I nodded an understanding nod.

"But, maybe it's not right to pressure someone like that if they don't want to..."

I said, "I learned there are limits and realities to that concern, but based on the example you gave, that's not what's happening here. I've heard of indigenous cultures who still hunt with spears for their meat every day that if the man does not have sexual skills enough to make his wife come, then he is not a man the same as he's not a man if he cannot hunt or fight. No different. I'd like to see industrialized cultures across the world value the reality of a woman's orgasms the same as they worship a 50 yard pass, killing a man on a battlefield, or being a financial success."

Raven agreed and we continued to chat as Phineas sniffed about. I said look at how much time and energy women everywhere put into blowjobs and blowjob skills. How many women bust their ass over their man's dick? Millions. And this guy thinks he can get away with, 'I'm tired?!' Fuck that!

Now, I understand the power of oxytocin that makes the sleepy, drugged, post-orgasm state, but for all the value placed on jumping higher, running faster, and busting through a linebacker, men are going to let a little neuro-chemical put them down? You grab a dildo your lover lusts to watch you fuck her with with your manly arms, suck her clitoris or put her pretty fingers on her hard button and watch her, hear her, and smell her come all over your hands and hers. That's what you do, among many other options, gentlemen! I guarantee that will wake you the hell up. And don't forget to breathe. Who knows? Maybe being in the middle of all that will make your dick hard again, and if it doesn't and you need a little help, your woman will certainly be more excited to facefuck your growing cock into the back of her throat because her pussy still buzzing from her sloppy wet come. Because she appreciates you, your skill, and how fucking hot and amazing you are in general. The good news is, with a little training, it's not hard. You do harder and more boring stuff every day.

That's what was going through my mind and being that I didn't expand upon with Raven, but she got the gist. We had a nice closure to our meeting when the beauty's cell rang and we said we'd spend more time together.

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