To call the totality of a woman's sex organ, inside and out, a vagina, is not accurate and puts to a halt advanced understanding. It is no more correct to call the penis "a urethra" than it is to refer to the female sex organ as simply the vagina. The vagina is the birth canal. A single part out of many that make up a woman's "sex."
Anatomists created a name for the totality of the action-part of the male reproductive organs: penis. No single word has ever been coined that isnt a slang term for that which refers to everything inside and outside a woman's... pussy. For lack of a better term? We can say vulva. However, that encapsulates all the external parts but it leaves out the internal parts. As it stands in our culture's present state, we say vagina as a stand-in, but that leaves out the clitoris, urethral opening, mons pubis, and labia minora and majora.
To say nothing of how both vulva and vagina leaves out the erotically sensitive erectile tissue and nerve plexuses inside the vaginal walls. The Spots. G, PS, A, the D's, and the vestibular bulbs of the clitoris. Which do feel good when massaged and pressed but have yet to be given a handy "_-spot" name. We say cock for a slang term for penis. We say pussy for everything that is and is of her sex organs. Sometimes cunt, but that often refers to a slang term for vagina. And of course, none of these terms can be used in polite or non-erotic (or offensive)/slang discussion.
The two words/phrases that come close to what I want is "yoni;" the sanscrit word for, as far as i understand its usage, anything and everything inside and out of a woman's sex organ. However, that carries with it tantric sex weight and beliefs that not everyone holds dear or understands fully. The second is "my sex" or "her sex" to refer to the totality, but it's not a single word and confusing
on its own without context clues. I do like it. I've used it a
lot in writing and discussion, but to say, her sex, people say, "What?"
and i have to explain.You can also say, "his sex." As my lover Olivia recently penned for the first time that I've seen it used that way.
One word. I can imagine our world with that word in it. Can you? It doesnt have to be approved by anatomists. It just has to work in formal discussion and refer to the totality. I wont be so arrogant as to attempt to create that word. I put it to all of us out there to create it. Then, once we decide on it, we have to start the work of planting it firmly in everyday use. Because if this doesnt happen, as Betty Dodson taught me from day one, the assumption will be "the vagina" is all a woman's sex organ is, or the primary part of interest. The almighty birth canal. For her pleasure and her partner's. That's the unspoken reality that has frustrated Betty for decades. The Vagina Monologues. A great first step. Time for the second one. It is an inaccuracy that feeds a lie and a disservice. And no, vajayjay doesnt work either. It's slang-light for vagina.
I want other feminist websites to catch this and help womankind get this done so we can move on to the things about that which makes us all weep, moan, breathe, and roar for better or best. Everyone post your ideas as comments to this blog. Thanks all. :)
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