It’s always nice to find a really good reason to encourage masturbation. The mental, emotional, and sexual benefits have long been extolled on this board. But just last week, I was reminded of another very, very good reason for men to masturbate.
I had a friend at work (he knows what I REALLY do for a living) come up to me and look around for a minute. “Can I talk to you for a second?”
I love it when that happens. First, it means the conversation is finally going to become interesting – usually sexual in nature. Second, it means that this person is taking a real risk and is going to be vulnerable for a few minutes. That’s where I like dealing with people – the pretense is down for a few minutes and we’re going to be honest. “Sure,” I said.
“I was jacking off last night and blood came out.” He was scared. Who wouldn’t be?
I pulled him into a quieter corner and asked him to tell me exactly what it looked like. Was there pain? Had he injured himself recently? Rough sex? First time it had ever happened? What about blood in urine? I didn’t want to tell him that I was scared too.
It could be nothing. Or it could be prostatitis (prostate infection) or, worst, it could be prostate cancer
I called one of the urologists I have worked with and got him an appointment the next day. A few days later, he had a prostate biopsy looking for cancer.
I remember watching the great movie “The Last Emperor” and the young prince would defecate into a bowl and the court ministers would all sniff it to make sure he was healthy. I also remembered learning someplace that we should all examine anything that comes out of our body – snot, earwax, urine, feces, blood and, yes, cum. Most guys love to watch themselves cum. But we usually don’t examine cum really closely on a regular basis.
A few years ago, I had an online conversation with a minister who bragged that he had never masturbated and that his wife had been the delighted recipient of every drop of semen he had produced since his wedding night. For some reason I found that concept revolting. The poor woman. An orgasm inside someone we love is as close to heaven as any of us can get, I think. But to make that person the spittoon of our testosterone seems a bit cruel.
But I finally have the answer to WHY that behavior is not without risks. That man had not seen his cum in 40 years. He could have had bloody semen for years and never known it. Seems to me that a doctor should prescribe that every man look at his semen closely at least once a month – even taste it. Alas, the doctors aren’t ever going to prescribe that. So I will. Be kind to your body. Take care of your health. Look at your cum.