British Scientist Penned Secret Diary of a Call Girl Blog

Mon, 11/16/2009 - 09:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

If you've never watched Secret Diary of a Call Girl on Showtime, you should.  It's based on a british blog about the day-to-day life of a high-end escort.  There's been widespread speculation about "who" really penned this blog with rumors it was a gay escort and not a woman at all.  Most felt that it glamourized sex work.  It does and that's the point.

Well, meet the real Belle Du Jour: Dr. Brooke Magnanti.  Magnanti is a respected specialist in developmental neurotoxicology and cancer epidemiology in a hospital research group in Bristol. Six years ago, in the final stages of her PhD thesis, she ran out of money and turned to prostitution through a London escort agency, charging £300 an hour.

She came forward because a former boyfriend was going to blow the whistle (asshole).  What I love most about Dr. Magnanti (I love writing that) is that she is completely unapologetic about being a sex worker:

"I couldn't find a professional job in my chosen field because I didn't have my PhD yet. I didn't have a lot of spare time on my hands because I was still making corrections and preparing for the viva; and I got through my savings a lot faster than I thought I would."

When she could no longer afford her rent, she started to think: "What can I do that I can start doing straightaway, that doesn't require a great deal of training or investment to get started, that's cash in hand and that leaves me spare time to do my work in?"

She found an escort agency and started her secret life. "I did have another job at one point, as a computer programmer, but I kept up with my other work because it was so much more enjoyable."

It was enjoyable, she made $, and now she has a literary career and a top television show in the UK and the US.  Not bad for a nights work ;)

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Sex work = glamour?

Tue, 11/17/2009 - 13:16
Anonymous User (not verified)

I grew up in one of London's "no-go" areas and there were two brothels in my street run by Polish pimps. If Dr. Magnanti saw what went on in these places, she wouldn't be so keen to glamourise sex work/prostitution. These were young girls beaten if they attempted to escape, beaten if they refused a visitor and in many cases they were raped by their pimps. The youngest was 13 years old.
Every so often you'd find one in the alleyway in tears. For them, it was utterly hellish, rather than "enjoyable". Thankfully, these places have since been shut down, but I have no idea where the girls ended up. I have a feeling, however, that they don't have PHDs, TV shows or literary careers.

They were so desperate. I just find it so bizarre that there are so many women fighting to escape sex work, yet others are quite happily entering it.

Thoughts on why men seek sex workers.

tom.penry's picture
Tue, 11/17/2009 - 17:38
tom.penry

Women often wonder, "Why would a man pay for sex when it is
easily obtained for free in our society?" The fact is that the man will pay because
he is only interested in "getting in and getting out," quickly, and without any
other involvement. This way of thinking is practically incomprehensible to a
woman.

But even more incomprehensible to a woman is that a man can have
sex with a woman he does not love at noon and then expect sex from a woman he does love in
the same afternoon. Women can not understand this total separation and then total merger
of sex and love.

See me and my story in the Art Gallery: http://dodsonandross.com/art/coming-age

Fighting to escape/quite happy entering?

Video Witness's picture
Thu, 11/19/2009 - 01:18
Video Witness

In response to anonymous' statement, "I just find it so bizarre that there are so many women fighting to escape sex work, yet others are quite happily entering it."

We are talking about two completely different worlds in the sex trade. A high-end escort often will have much more choice in who she sees and what she does. Plus she generally is provided with some fairly nice diggs as part of the deal. Perhaps that's the draw and satisfaction in a nutshell so to speak. Few of those type of call girls are probably having sex to feed a drug habit or in some cases feed their children like the low enders. Would I do it to feed my kids - sure. To go to school - probably not. I guess I'm one of the low enders then.

Although with the success of Craig's list and internet sites that allow people to hook up anonymously, both wanting it and neither one charging for it, I find it hard to believe that prostitution is still a money-making proposition.  Perhaps all the ads I see for free sex are what are know as 'loss leaders' and once the girl/guy gets you enjoying what they personally have to offer you will come back for more and be willing to pay for it.

I have often been told that I think like a guy by many people and maybe that explains that unlike Tom's women who find it incomprehensible I find it totally understandable how a guy could not only pay for it but disconnect it from thinking he is cheating on a spouse/girlfriend. Hell, I can disconnect it and I'm not a guy nor am I paying for it on the street. Probably if more women thought like me there would be more men in the trade!

By the way Tom (and I know you of all people will get this) no matter what we say sex is probably never free - there's always some type of barter, some exchange of something each person needs; money, love, lust.

I agree on two points

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Thu, 11/19/2009 - 14:32
tom.penry

Partnersex should be for mutual love and lust, and usually is. In that sense its a good exchange or 'barter'. Any man advertising erotic services on Craigslist will tell you the calls come other men. An acquaintence of mine tried to meet women with an offer of a Boyfriend Experience. His ad ran only a few times and he got no response.

VDO, you say you think like a guy, and I agree in many ways. Honestly, have you ever had sex with a Craigslist gigolo for money and gone back home to your spouse?

See me and my story in the Art Gallery: http://dodsonandross.com/art/coming-age

Paying for Sex

Thu, 11/19/2009 - 16:56
Deera (not verified)

I feel that the reason most women don't pay for "get in and get out" sex is because most women do not orgasm from intercourse alone which only takes about two minutes for most men. Speaking from my own experience, my most intense orgasms come from masturbation and my boat-load of hot fantasies. Masturbation is more pleasurable and free (except for the cost of the vibe and lube oil. I have to be really turned on by someone to orgasm and I haven't met anyone lately that does this for me. There are a lot of nice-looking women in the world and unfortunately too few hot-looking men that aren't gay. I personally fantasize about Native American men inspired from artwork that features them. I love their tight bodies, loin cloths and shinny, straight black hair.

I also think that this difference in obtaining orgasm between men and women has a lot to do with gender/relationship/marriage problems. It is also why I think marriage is not good for men or women.

Think Like a Guy

Video Witness's picture
Fri, 11/20/2009 - 01:32
Video Witness

debate with Tom. I am sure to lose!smilie_out_077.gif

So it is better if I just agree, no? I'll answer the first part and stop there - Craigslist gigolo for money - no.

Deera, Like you I think my imagination and fantasy would be better than any real experience a pay date could ever offer me - no matter how good he is. I can't score their intelligence in advance or make sure they have a voice that can make me melt. Plus its too risky for a woman I think. Less risk for guys getting a quick hand job in the car. Besides with my proclivities I think I would be the one on the giving end in the car to get my satisfaction (lol)!

Sorry to all the guys out there Deera is right again Gay men are the hottest (personality, looks, clothes)! Native Americans from the Eastern U.S. - right again. If only I was born into my familial background 300 years ago I would definitely be in bliss. Hot looking loin-clothed men, the woman as the owner of the household and children, divorce him simply by putting his belongings outside the house. What's not to like in that situation? Ok, I really am not that cruel but once again my guy is showing!