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A real government agency has finally said it...the emperor has no clothes on...10 years of abstinence-only sex ed hasn't kept kids from having sex at all.  They still have sex, it's unprotected, and sex infections are spreading rapidly. 

The latest statistics on chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis show that these three highly treatable infections continue to spread in the United States.

"Chlamydia and gonorrhea are stable at unacceptably high levels and syphilis is resurgent after almost being eliminated," said John Douglas, director of the division of sexually transmitted diseases at the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

What do people think is sexy?  A rosy complexion.  What gives you a rosy complexion?  Eating fruits and vegetables.  I just heard Eric say a "hell yeah". 

In a study were people were asked to rate an individuals level of attractiveness, researchers have found it was all about skin tone (another study confirmed these findings -"glow" and "radiance" were the key indicators of "beauty" even over symmetry).  An individual with a rosy complexion was rated as the most attractive even over those with a "golden" complexion so you can save some money on spray-on tans. 

If you've never watched Secret Diary of a Call Girl on Showtime, you should.  It's based on a british blog about the day-to-day life of a high-end escort.  There's been widespread speculation about "who" really penned this blog with rumors it was a gay escort and not a woman at all.  Most felt that it glamourized sex work.  It does and that's the point.

Well, meet the real Belle Du Jour: Dr. Brooke Magnanti.  Magnanti is a respected specialist in developmental neurotoxicology and cancer epidemiology in a hospital research group in Bristol. Six years ago, in the final stages of her PhD thesis, she ran out of money and turned to prostitution through a London escort agency, charging £300 an hour.

I love my labia.  And I renewed my love for my labia yesterday during an oral sex session.  For the most part, it's always a race to the vagina....a race to the clitoris and sometimes we forget just how sexually sensitive our labia are and how much pleasure they bring us as women.  They're so soft and tender to the touch.  They fold and undulate between our legs carrying with them lubricating juices.  I love the way they feel when I part them and run my finger past their smooth center and into my vaginal opening.  I love to feel them plump up with pleasure...pulling open...ready to receive whatever I may slide past them.

Diva antics aside, Naomi Campbell is redeeming herself by picking up the feminist banner.

First, she took on maternal mortality becoming a global ambassador for the White Ribbon Alliance, an international coalition for maternal health.

Naomi stated publically that "no woman should die giving birth."  Most of us don't realize that pregnancy is the leading killer of women of reproductive age in the developing world -- more than 80 percent of them preventable. A woman dies in childbirth or pregnancy every minute worldwide.

Then, Naomi took on discrimination against black models, "Where do we see a woman of colour in an advert? It's quite blatant."

Inspired by the Guardian's coverage of Chella Quint, a menstruation activist, I decided to ask our female bloggers to answer this question,  "what does your period mean to you?" 

As a young girl, I was terrified by first period stories.  You know the period lore - the accounts of the girls who got their period in school unprepared with either blood running down their legs or blood soaking through their panties and their jeans to the jeers of their classmates.  I was so thankful when I got my period the morning before school right after my shower.  Somehow I had been spared the indignity that a simple panty liner could have eliminated. 

The first time I heard about labiaplasty was about 10 years ago on the Howard Stern show.  It was right when we started seeing the "clamshell" asethetic in porn and all the porn stars who came on the show would talk about the surgery.  One pornlet had her snipped labia suspended in a clear resin block and auctioned it off on ebay.

What struck me then was that there had been no research.  No one knew what the risks were in removing sexual tissue directly from a woman's genitals.  Most women say they want the surgery because they're embarrassed of their labia during sex.  Not that far off from Betty's experience believing she was genitally deformed because she had "dangling inner lips".  It took the right lover to convince her that she was "normal".   

Finally, someone is standing up for women. Gynaecologist Sarah Creighton and psychologist Lih-Mei Liao are challenging the ethics of offering women surgery to address such insecurities, suggesting it is advertisements for a "homogenised, pre-pubescent genital appearance" which creat these anxieties in the first place. 

I heart Dan Savage:

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The blogosphere was abuzz yesterday with the report that Duke University has a new sex toy research program.   Duke is a catholic university and the thought of a program where female students were brought together in to a passion party type atmosphere selecting sex toys that they could take home for free has panties in a bunch.  

As I was reading about the story and Father Joe Vetter's statements (he runs Duke's Catholic Center) about why they were concerned about the research, I found myself agreeing with Vetter when he said:

"I'm concerned about promiscuity also," Vetter said. "And to be honest, I don't have the solution. ... My concern is these students are in this developmental phase, and I don't think it's a good developmental practice to just tell somebody to just sit around and masturbate. I don't think that promotes relationships."

Yes, that's why masturbation is a feminist issue.

I am really starting to love Senator Barbara Boxer.  According to Boxer, the Senate has enough votes (60) to defeat the Stupak-Pitt amendment which bans coverage for abortions if insurance companies receive one penny in government subsidies:

"If someone wants to offer this very radical amendment, which would really tear apart [a decades-long] compromise, then I think at that point they would need to have 60 votes to do it," Boxer said. "And I believe in our Senate we can hold it."

"It is a much more pro-choice Senate than it has been in a long time," she added. "And it is much more pro-choice than the House."

I've been watching the health care debate and all the statements about abortion.  I do believe that Nancy Pelosi was torn about the Stupak-Pitts Amendment barring women from using their insurance to pay for abortions (if your policy is subsidized by the government by a penny then you can't use it to get an abortion) and having to concede to conservatives to get the new healthcare bill through the house. 

But hearing Obama state publically that "this is a healthcare bill not an abortion bill' has my panties in a bunch.  As a young woman, abortion is part of your health care.  No form of birth control is 100% and women choose not to become mothers because they can't afford it and they know that being a single mom relegates you to a life of poverty.  So you make the choice.  And why is that choice NOT part of my healthcare but the choice to have a child IS?

For my friends who often accuse me of having a "Potty mouth" or request that "I tone down my use of four letter words" or the time back in 1974 when Gloria Steinem said absolutely NO four letter words in my masturbation article for Ms. along the numerous times I've been told I'd reach a much larger audience if I cleaned up my language, I say, "Read this feminist critique of my sex coacing please!":

This research focuses on Betty Dodson's speech, "Sex Coaching". While the intended audience was composed of therapists and psychologists, the value of this rhetoric is for every woman. The content focuses on female masturbation; how to do it, what to call the anatomy, and why it is so important. Masturbation is generally a hushed-up topic, particularly for women. Historically, it has simply not been appropriate to speak about it, much less admit to doing it.

Not only was she expelled, but she was escorted out heckled by her classmates. Then the university took out newspaper ads challenging her "morality". Shocking.

First it was Demi and Ashton and now Madonna is right behind her with Jesus (actually I think Betty played the cougar card with Eric before Demi and Madonna).  They've personally nabbed two of the hottest men in Hollywood who are 15-20 years their "junior" with 0 apologies.

According to a new study, these women have changed the way we all feel about dating younger men. Back in 2005, just 8 per cent of single women in their 40s and 50s said they would date a man five or more years their junior.  Today, more than a third said they would consider a younger man.