Carlin Ross's blog

Throw That Pink Pill Away

Fri, 07/24/2015 - 13:17
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Big Pharma's ultimate wet dream is to market a pink pill, the female equivalent of viagra. And they think they've cracked the code with flibanserin.  It's a dressed up antidepressant that supposedly increases the serotonin in your brain which, they assume, makes women horney.

You can't drink alcohol while you're on it and just like antidepressants they're a slew of negative side effects (with no guarantee of multiple orgasms).  Leonore Tieffer is a long-time friend/colleage of Betty's and she's started a campaign against FDA approval of flibanserin.  Here's their youtube clip:

I Found Myself in Betty's Entryway, Getting Undressed with 10 Other Women

Thu, 07/23/2015 - 14:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross

It's so rewarding when women take a workshop...write about their experience...and it's picked up by HuffPost.  I asked Pam if I could republish her article here on D&R.  Then she texted that she was asked to do a radio interview based on her experience. You can listen to her radio interview here and read her post below.  So proud of our Bodysex sisters.

Loving Portland's Sex Toy Fairy

Sat, 07/18/2015 - 09:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Although she won't identify herself, a 20-something college grad and retail worker has admitted that she is the "Sex Toy Fairy" responsible for throwing dildos on powelines in Portland.

What's fascinating is that they pixelated the hanging dildos in all the news coverage. I really had to dig to find this image. In the age of porn-on-demand, we can't see the image of a silicone phallus...really???

And the Sex Toy Fairy isn't stopping any time soon according to her recent interview with Vice Magazine:

"We're nowhere near done," she said. "It had to be done. I have no idea why, but it had to. [Expletive]-tossing is an exercise in happiness. It was just a fun, hilarious thing to do."


We’ll be Adding Norway & London to the List

Tue, 07/14/2015 - 11:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

The final ritual we do in the workshops is to have the women sit Indian style on the floor right next to each other in a small circle. We all hold hands and Betty has us make eye contact with each woman – then we each choose one word and share it with the group. For me, this past weekend was about “gratitude”.

I'm Trying to Raise a Good Man Who Values & Appreciates Women

Thu, 07/09/2015 - 07:31
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love how Sandra Bullock refocused her "Most Beautiful Woman" status on the objectification of women in the media.  If you're on the radar, you're under constant attack for the way you look. Why?

I knew that celebrity woman were banning together to support each other and change the tide.  And I agree that it's hard to raise a sex positive son when there are so many misogynistic, sex negative messages in the culture.  Sandra is brilliant.

Nude in Nature

Wed, 07/08/2015 - 07:14
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Our first graduate, Natasha, held her first bodysex workshop this past May. In making it her own, she gave the women the opportunity of participating in a "Nude in Nature" photo session.

Here is one of the photos and the model's experience in her own words:

No One Wants Side Dick

Thu, 07/02/2015 - 08:38
Submitted by Carlin Ross

It's swimsuit season and I thought this video of men trying on women's swimsuits was appropriate.  What's sexy on a woman looks ridiculous on a man but I wonder how much of that is conditioning (women are objects men are actors).

I love the second guy who says he feels like 20 pounds of shit in a 10 pound bag.  That's exactly what it feels like to wear a bikini.

This Group was so Harmonious

Tue, 06/23/2015 - 12:08
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This was our first Bodysex season post-baby and I started this past weekends workshop with a breast infection. I woke up tired and achey and my breast was all red and inflamed. We had women traveling from Taiwan, Chile, London, Poland, Boston and the West Coast - there was no way I could cancel, there was no one to take my place - plus bodysex is addictive and I wanted my fix.

Ruby Rose as Rosie the Riveter

Sun, 06/21/2015 - 07:00
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I just finished binge watching the latest season of Orange is the New Black and Ruby Rose was definitely the highlight.  Props to any actress willing to go nude, no apologies without appealing to the male gaze.

She's covered in tattoos and I had to know if they were real so I googled Ruby Rose and found this picture.  She's totally the modern manifestation of Rosie the Riveter and her tattoos are real.


So Have to "Klittra" Today

Fri, 06/19/2015 - 07:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Sweden has coined their own term for female masturbation: Klittra

It may sound trivial but they didn't have a term for female masturbation in their language.  It reminds me of Betty's vulva vs. vagina argument.  If we don't have a proper name for our sex organ, how can we achieve sexual equality.

I remember the Swedish Association for Sex Education emails asking for suggestions. I love that it is clitcentric.  It sounds familiar but edgy and kind of sci-fi kinky. 

Totally have to klittra today.

12 Hours of Self Defense Training - Chances of Rape Drop by 50%

Fri, 06/12/2015 - 07:44
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Research has found that if a woman takes a 12 hour self defense class her chances of being raped or even attempted rape drops by 50%. When a woman knows how to throw a punch and kick, she doesn't mess around.

I've always thought that our culture's obsession with raising our daughters to be princesses who've never thrown a punch perpetuates the rape culture. It's not bad enough that every video game/movie/tv show story line features some sort of violence against women but the women rarely fight back. We want our girls to be soft and pretty so we don't school them on how to defend themselves.

Midnighter Uses Grindr As He Saves the World

Wed, 06/10/2015 - 06:25
Submitted by Carlin Ross

DC Comics just launched their new comic featuring an openly gay superhero Midnighter.  Not only does he use Grindr when he's not fighting crime, but he has steamy sex scenes with plenty of brawny companions.

It's so refreshing to click through a comic and not be assaulted with DD breasts sheathed in metal and latex.  It's nice to see some sexualized male characters.  I've never been a fan but I'd buy this series.

Grace Jones Still Gives Me Clit Erections

Tue, 06/09/2015 - 07:26
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Grace Jones is fucking amazing. Here she is at 67 years old performing at Parkside over the weekend.

When I was a little girl, I remember watching her video cover of Demolition Man and having my mind blown. She still gives me clit erections.

I'm So Grateful to be Doing This Work and the Continued Healing in My Life

Tue, 06/02/2015 - 09:09
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We say it every time but this past weekend's workshop was the best one yet.

When we chose the dates for our Summer session, I was in my last trimester. I had no idea how I was going to pull it all off with a three-month old baby...would I be able to set up the room and do all the physical work that goes into a workshop...would Grayson be able to sit in the back room without screaming his head off...would I be sleeping enough to be present in the circle? I had total first-time-mom gitters.