Carlin Ross's blog

I Knew Having Grayson on My Nipple was Best

Thu, 09/10/2015 - 08:34
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Grayson is 6 months old and I'm still breastfeeding round the clock. He loves yogurt and bananas in the morning but always finishes up breakfast with a breast nosh.

I do all the things the "experts" frown upon: I nurse on demand and during the night because he sleeps in bed with us. And I've taken alot of heat for not pumping my breast milk. I did it - I had the pump sitting in his room for months but I couldn't bring myself to hook it up and put my milk in a bottle.

I Believed the Man Who Raped Me had Permanently Damaged Me

Tue, 09/01/2015 - 09:16
Submitted by Carlin Ross

One of the things that I'm most proud of is that the work we're doing is evergreen. When Betty pens a new essay or we produce a new video, I imagine people viewing it a century from now. 

This comment came in over the weekend on a post Betty had written about a private session she had with a woman who'd survived FGM (female genital mutilation). 6 years later and it's still relevant. Whether we've experienced a physical or psychological cutting from trauma the result is the same - shame:

Happy Bday Dr. Dodson

Mon, 08/24/2015 - 10:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Betty Dodson 1973

Happy Birthday Dr. Dodson

You make 86 look good.  I can't believe that we've been working together for 10 years.  It's been the best decade of my life.  Thank you for being you.

Pregnant She-Devil = Perfection

Mon, 08/17/2015 - 12:18
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This pregnant she-devil statue mysteriously appeared on a pedestal in the Grandview Woodlands neighborhood in Vancouver.

Last September the city took down the first unsolicited sculpture - the red devil with an erection.  Residents are calling the statues a couple.  I call them perfection.

Learning to Love My C-Section Scar

Thu, 08/13/2015 - 08:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Natasha published this photograph on FB and I had to republish it here.  In our workshops, women always share their feelings of shame over having a c-section.  Their scars are a constant reminder of failure. 

I was totally shocked that I ended up with a c-section after laboring for 15 hours.  How could I be orgasmic - have the perfect birthing hips and a killer pc muscle - and NOT be able to squeeze a baby out through my vagina?  I decided to love my c-section scar because it's a symbol of success.

I'm not going to buy into any bs that I'm less of a woman because I needed a little help releasing the life I created into this world.  My scar is beautiful and my son is amazing. 

Leda & the Swan

Mon, 08/10/2015 - 11:05
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is one of my favorite drawings Betty did back in the 70's.  I scanned a slide of Leda and had it blown up and mounted on plexi glass.  It hangs in my home office.  During the day my eyes drift to Leda and I smile.

You can buy a print if you love it as much as I do.

Taylor's #GirlSquad Confident Enough to Date Each Other's Exes

Tue, 08/04/2015 - 08:08
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love young celebrity women who have it together.  Taylor Swift is so successful and influential that she got Apple to change their policies on streaming music.  And in her latest interview with Vanity Fair she described how friends in her #GirlSquad have dated the same guys:

"It's almost like the sisterhood has such a higher place on the list of priorities for us. It's so much more important than some guy that it didn't work out with."

Betty always talks about how she would recommend previous lovers to her friends. I would let my girlfriends know which fling was the best kisser. It's refreshing to see an end to the cat fights and real comraderie among young women.

Throw That Pink Pill Away

Fri, 07/24/2015 - 13:17
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Big Pharma's ultimate wet dream is to market a pink pill, the female equivalent of viagra. And they think they've cracked the code with flibanserin.  It's a dressed up antidepressant that supposedly increases the serotonin in your brain which, they assume, makes women horney.

You can't drink alcohol while you're on it and just like antidepressants they're a slew of negative side effects (with no guarantee of multiple orgasms).  Leonore Tieffer is a long-time friend/colleage of Betty's and she's started a campaign against FDA approval of flibanserin.  Here's their youtube clip:

I Found Myself in Betty's Entryway, Getting Undressed with 10 Other Women

Thu, 07/23/2015 - 14:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross

It's so rewarding when women take a workshop...write about their experience...and it's picked up by HuffPost.  I asked Pam if I could republish her article here on D&R.  Then she texted that she was asked to do a radio interview based on her experience. You can listen to her radio interview here and read her post below.  So proud of our Bodysex sisters.

Loving Portland's Sex Toy Fairy

Sat, 07/18/2015 - 09:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Although she won't identify herself, a 20-something college grad and retail worker has admitted that she is the "Sex Toy Fairy" responsible for throwing dildos on powelines in Portland.

What's fascinating is that they pixelated the hanging dildos in all the news coverage. I really had to dig to find this image. In the age of porn-on-demand, we can't see the image of a silicone phallus...really???

And the Sex Toy Fairy isn't stopping any time soon according to her recent interview with Vice Magazine:

"We're nowhere near done," she said. "It had to be done. I have no idea why, but it had to. [Expletive]-tossing is an exercise in happiness. It was just a fun, hilarious thing to do."


We’ll be Adding Norway & London to the List

Tue, 07/14/2015 - 11:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

The final ritual we do in the workshops is to have the women sit Indian style on the floor right next to each other in a small circle. We all hold hands and Betty has us make eye contact with each woman – then we each choose one word and share it with the group. For me, this past weekend was about “gratitude”.

I'm Trying to Raise a Good Man Who Values & Appreciates Women

Thu, 07/09/2015 - 07:31
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love how Sandra Bullock refocused her "Most Beautiful Woman" status on the objectification of women in the media.  If you're on the radar, you're under constant attack for the way you look. Why?

I knew that celebrity woman were banning together to support each other and change the tide.  And I agree that it's hard to raise a sex positive son when there are so many misogynistic, sex negative messages in the culture.  Sandra is brilliant.

Nude in Nature

Wed, 07/08/2015 - 07:14
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Our first graduate, Natasha, held her first bodysex workshop this past May. In making it her own, she gave the women the opportunity of participating in a "Nude in Nature" photo session.

Here is one of the photos and the model's experience in her own words:

No One Wants Side Dick

Thu, 07/02/2015 - 08:38
Submitted by Carlin Ross

It's swimsuit season and I thought this video of men trying on women's swimsuits was appropriate.  What's sexy on a woman looks ridiculous on a man but I wonder how much of that is conditioning (women are objects men are actors).

I love the second guy who says he feels like 20 pounds of shit in a 10 pound bag.  That's exactly what it feels like to wear a bikini.

This Group was so Harmonious

Tue, 06/23/2015 - 12:08
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This was our first Bodysex season post-baby and I started this past weekends workshop with a breast infection. I woke up tired and achey and my breast was all red and inflamed. We had women traveling from Taiwan, Chile, London, Poland, Boston and the West Coast - there was no way I could cancel, there was no one to take my place - plus bodysex is addictive and I wanted my fix.