Carlin Ross's blog

Working Through Painful Penetration

Thu, 02/25/2016 - 20:02
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've always been a size queen and I've always been able to penetrate my vagina with ease. When women would share their stories of pain during penetration and how it affected their lives, I couldn't relate...until after I gave birth.

Despite opting for a midwife and choosing a birthing center, I ended up having a C-section. Grayson weighed in at 9 pounds. I thought I could control the weight of my baby by limiting my weight gain during pregnancy. WRONG. I gained 15 pounds but he was huge. There was simply no way I could have had a vaginal birth.

Sexualizing the Natural

Wed, 02/24/2016 - 12:14
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Thank you, Scout Willis, for posting this pic of your underarm hair on Instagram, thank you for sexualizing the natural.

Demi and Bruce raised a wonderful young woman who's confident and unashamed. Now that I'm a mom I get how much pride you can have in your kid. She posted topless pics to support #freethenipple and is establishing herself as a thoughtful provocateuse.

I smell a feminist.

Why Would You "Thin Down" a Fighter's Arms?

Fri, 02/19/2016 - 10:04
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Ronda Rousey is a fucking physical specimen, UFC Champion and up and coming sports brand. This image of her on The Tonight Show was posted with thinned down arms.

She claims that she didnt know that "they" thinned her down and I believe her. She's a fighter and she spends too much time in the gym not to show off the results. Her brand is about strength and brawn. And she wore a sleeveless outfit for a reason.

It goes to show you that they just can't help themselves, they just have to idealize the female form at every turn. I wonder if they ever "bulk up" pictures of male celebrities on the tonight show.

How Can a Clit Compete with Orgasmic Mushrooms?

Wed, 02/17/2016 - 08:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I had to wait two days to find out if, when sniffed, a Hawaiian mushroom induces spontaneous orgasms in women. Grayson is cutting five teeth all at once and he was miserable yesterday. I quickly bookmarked the article Expedition Ecstasy and waited until this morning when he was watching Muppet videos with Daddy.

And I read every word. It's quite a long piece because it's written by a female scientist. I guess when you spend several months doing research, fly to Hawaii, and go searching for a mushroom growing next to lava that only comes out 4 hours/day you want the build up.

We Shot a Master Orgasm Class & Kicked Off the Betty Dodson Documentary

Wed, 02/10/2016 - 12:01
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty and I have released 367 videos on youtube. When we started almost a decade ago, we didn't think we'd have enough content - enough to say - to produce more than several clips. There's always some new wrinkle, some new question to answer. Human sexuality is so vast especially when your focus is female orgasm.

People write in and say that they let our clips run one after the other and listen at work or at home. That 4-7 weekly clip has done more to grow our brand and it costs us nothing but our time. We chat about a topic, sit down in front of the camera, talk for several minutes then I edit the clip, we watch it together, and post to youtube. It's not produced. There's no script or flashly intro. The point was to make it easy so we'd do one every week and we have.

The Variation of Clitoral Hoods

Tue, 02/02/2016 - 12:35
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've pulled this post to the front page because it's one of our all time top content here on D&R.  It was originally published last September.  Women's vulvas are so unique and each more beautiful than the next. 

This graphic charting the variation of clitoral hoods was posted on a tumblr blog Uncutting - it was created by a 22 year-old guy who's currently restoring his foreskin and opposed to infant circumcision.  He wondered whether clitoral hoods followed the same range in "coverage" as the Foreskin Coverage Index.  They did. 

The Lethal Combination of Misogyny & Sexual Repression

Tue, 01/26/2016 - 07:46
Submitted by Carlin Ross

When we saw the images of people starving to death in Syria and that baby boy wash ashore, our hearts went out and European nations opened their doors to migrant refugees seeking asylum.  There's a part of me that held out hope things would work out but I had this nagging suspicion that women were at danger.

The above picture is from a campaign aimed to teach refugees that you can't grope young girls because they're wearing a swimsuit.  Several towns in Germany and Belgium have barred refugees from public swimming pools because of the high number of sexual assaults.  But is that the answer, is that enough?

NC-17 for a Woman PG-13 for a Man

Thu, 01/21/2016 - 08:26
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I thought I'd post this image from Betty's Love Picture exhibition as a big F*ck You to Holllywood and social media gatekeepers.  If oral sex (performed on a man) is simulated in film or captured in art, it's deemed PG-13 and safe for kids.  But swing around and go down on a woman and now you get a big fat NC-17 rating.  And I'd never dare to post this on FB.

What we find "obscene" says so much about our cultural hierarchy.  I'm looking foward to the day that pussy is revered and honored. 

The Art of Dick Pics

Wed, 01/13/2016 - 11:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Soraya Doolbaz has mastered the art of the dick pic.  Her site Dicture Gallery is worth the click.  This is one of my favorties: Donald "The Dick" Trump.

Her work was featured on the NY Post....below is the video.  Now if men were clever and styled their dicks we'd be passing around their dick pics to all our friends:

Pregnancy & Motherhood Jump Start Your Brain

Tue, 01/12/2016 - 09:31
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Like all things deemed "female", we perpetuate myths that have no basis in science.

According to new research there's no such thing as "baby brain". Pregnant women and new mother's don't suffer increased memory loss. In fact, they think more strategically and handle stress better than their pre-pregnancy/motherhood selves.

And that would make total sense. Why would women evolve so that - when it matters most - your memory function would lag? You have to protect new life so it would follow that you would think more strategically and be calm, ready to deal with whatever stress was in your environment OR THE BABY WOULD DIE.

I Quit Facebook

Sun, 01/10/2016 - 08:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Last week I quit Facebook.  And I feel wonderful like after you've had a colonic or gone a juice cleanse.  I didn't realize how much FB was sucking out of my life until I walked away.  For me, FB was like a bad relationship.

Lesbians Touch a Penis for the First Time

Tue, 01/05/2016 - 08:38
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love this video for it's honesty.  Of course, there's the less-than-flattering turkey neck comparison but one of the women nails it when she says, "it feels just like my vagina, like skin".

There really isn't that much of a difference in our anatomy.  A penis is a super-sized clit. 

Grooming Styles

Sat, 01/02/2016 - 09:57
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love this image of pubic hair styles.  The colonial powered bush, the dyed, spiked punk bush and the curly-q bush.

Adorable.  Happy New Year

#2015bestnine = Bodysex Pregnancy & Breastfeeding

Thu, 12/31/2015 - 08:16
Submitted by Carlin Ross

There's a site that will pull your most popular pics on Instagram - your best nine - into one post worthy photo.  I've been seeing them on FB and wondered what my top nine pics would in my panties, traveling with Betty, behind-the-scenes pics? 

The bottom left picture is one of my favorite because it's me, no makeup, on the beach right after getting out of the ocean.  The top middle picture was a breastfeeding selfie I took in the hospital the first day Grayson arrived.  I'm not surprised that my pregnancy glamour shots were popular but I didn't think my Bodysex and my breastfeeding pics would be up there too.

Nude Portraits & Body Scapes that Let You Be You

Wed, 12/23/2015 - 09:51
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm loving Marshall Bradford's Body Image Project.  You have to look past the black bars over nipples, vulvas, and penises so the photos are FB compliant but seeing real bodies is so refreshing.  He admits that it was hard at first to let the models just be themselves.  He had to overcome his training to create images that were "commercial".