Carlin Ross's blog

Sex Must be Taught

Tue, 10/04/2016 - 07:46
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Yesterday I forced myself to watch Netflix's latest documentary Audrie & Daisy.  To listen to their interviews...to hear their stories of rape and sexual abuse was chilling.  It was the typical American scenario: athlete boys lure the girls over to their homes, ply them with alcohol, assault them, take video/pictures and post them on social media.  There's an investigation but the boys get off scot free and the girls are slut shamed by their community (Daisy had her family home vandalized before it was burned down to the ground).

Is Independent Orgasm for Women Really Such a Big Deal?

Thu, 09/29/2016 - 08:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

There's a part of me that questions the significance of Bodysex. Betty and I go back and forth wondering if we "drank the koolaid". Is independent orgasm for women really such a big deal? Running the groups has been a personal challenge, it's challenged our partnership but, after a workshop like this past weekend's, we know that the work is profound.

If I had to choose one word to describe this workshop, it would be thoughtful. All the women were so composed and reflective during group share. When someone reveals their most painful memory or hidden secret, the trust between everyone in the circle intensifies. The generosity of spirit in this group touched us. We felt honored to have been able to create a safe space for personal healing.

You Have to Know How to Throw a Punch

Wed, 09/28/2016 - 07:18
Submitted by Carlin Ross

After watching Hillary verbally beat down Trump in this weeks debate, I think it's fitting to see Gigi Hadid physically beat down this deadbeat. Can you imagine walking out into that melee trying to navigate through all those people and have some psycho grab you from behind? 

As a woman, you need to know how to throw a punch like Gigi. 

Considering Breast Implants - Read This

Fri, 09/23/2016 - 12:17
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I applaud Sara X Mills for blogging about why she removed her breast implants.  It's not often that women display this sort of honesty with respect to their bodies and failed plastic surgery.

She confirmed what I always thought about implants - they're not forever.  You have to replace them every 7-10 years even if you don't have any complications.  Even saline implants are encassed in silicone and the new cohesive silicone implants CAN leak.  Most importantly, you can develop a host of medical issues that aren't covered by your insurance like Sara experienced:

Jessie Graff is Perfection on the Emmys Red Carpet

Mon, 09/19/2016 - 08:12
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This picture of Jessie Graff at the Emmys is simply perfection.  She's a stuntwoman on Supergirl and was the first woman to complete the course on American Ninja Warrior. 

We need more women like Jessie displaying strength and power in plunging necklines.  LOVE

Rape Culture Starts with School Dress Codes

Fri, 09/16/2016 - 06:27
Submitted by Carlin Ross

The young girl in this picture was pulled out of class because she violated the school dress code in Kentucky by showing her collarbones. Upworthy has more pictures of girls pulled out of class and humiliated while missing valuable class time waiting for their parents to come down to school.  From Portland to Kentucky, it's an every day occurrence.  

Hillary Takes On STI Stigma

Fri, 09/09/2016 - 07:32
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I don't care what people say about Hillary.  I fucking love her.

This week she penned a letter of support to Ella Dawson.  We've covered Ella's blog on overcoming STI shame.  She came out as a young woman - the girl next door - living with herpes.  She posted her picture and her full name.  God, she has clit.

Betty has herpes.  I had a long term partner with herpes (We didnt use condoms.  We avoided sex during outbreaks and I never contracted it).  Almost all of us harbor the herpes virus.  If you have a cold sore on your mouth, why is your life over is you have one on your genitals?  Why do we shame young people?

Catholic Hospital Refuses to Remove Dislodged IUD. Woman Waits 2 Weeks For Treatment

Wed, 08/31/2016 - 08:16
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This story completely shocks the conscience and makes my blood boil.  A Chicago woman went to a Catholic hospital because she fell and her copper IUD became dislodged from her uterus.  Who would want a piece of metal floating around their internal organs?

Women in Lingerie - No Photoshop No Pouting

Fri, 08/26/2016 - 06:30
Submitted by Carlin Ross

There are so many amazing projects being produced by women right now.  No coincidence that it's all happening on the eve of our first female president being elected into office.

This is a photo from the Lonely Girls Project.  They have a line of lingerie but instead of enlisting the same cookie cutter models to tell their story they had celebrity and regular women shoot themselves in their own envirnoments - no photoshop no pouting.  The images are so appealing to me, so real, so erotic.  

I love the image of the mom in the kitchen with her kid.  I can so relate.  It's so refreshing to see nipples, cellulite dimples and genuine sensuality.

Magic Wand Throughout History

Thu, 08/25/2016 - 06:55
Submitted by Carlin Ross

A kind gentleman sent me the link to this tumblr blog  - The Magic Wand Throughout History - and I had to republish it here.   Nothing like classical art reimagined with adequate clitoral stimulation.

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Loving the Large Labia Project

Mon, 08/22/2016 - 07:59
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've heard of the Large Labia Project but never clicked through the images until this morning when Emma emailed me for permission to repost our Trekant episode.

This is a great resource for women contemplating labiaplasty (please keep your labia intact).  And I respect that Emma posted images of her own labia. There's such freedom in sharing our nudity especially for educational purposes.

Looking forward to watching Emma's career unfold.

A Vulva on Your Eye Shadow

Thu, 08/11/2016 - 07:35
Submitted by Carlin Ross

The first image is a vulva stamped eye shadow compliments of Bitch Slap cosmetics.  Congratulations for celebrating our sex organ...using the term "vulva" BUT doesn't it bear a strong resemblance to Betty's cunt flower series? 

*sigh* I still love this line because it educates women unabashedly.  Thank you, Bitch Slap.

So Refreshing to See Men Touch

Thu, 08/04/2016 - 11:34
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love this picture of Jason Momoa sneaking up on Henry Cavill and embracing him.  Here they are at a red carpet appearance for their roles in Suicide Squad, smiling without a shred of homophobia. 

*sigh*

She Had Me at "Science"

Sun, 07/31/2016 - 07:15
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm so fucking excited - I can't wait to cast my vote for Hillary.  Below is the link for her one hour speech.  I know it's long but it's history:

She will guarantee women equal pay and access to contraception.  And she "believes in science".  <3

Alice Brine Breaks Down Consent = Brilliance

Fri, 07/29/2016 - 07:23
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is motherfucking brilliant.  Thank you, Alice Brine, for this amazing analogy (and Rebekah for the link).  Sometimes you have to flip the tables to make a point.

For me, it all comes down to personal liberty.  Either we all have the right to be safe - our bodies and our property - or its a free for all.