At the beginning of each season, I head to my closet and try on my clothes from last year. It's about figuring out what I "want" to buy and what I "need" to buy before heading to the shops. For the last several years, I've spent xmas in Barbados so it's only been a few months since I've been in jean shorts and sundresses.
Did I have to do a body reset. Since going off the pill, my body has been in a state of flux. First, I gained a few pounds right on my stomach. I didn't freak out but decided to embrace my new body. Then I noticed that my hips and ass kind of leaned out a bit...that was fine too. I've always had to sculpt my lower body because that was where I put on weight. Now it was about my core. Got it.
And who else would be included but our very own Jincey Lumpkin of Juicy Pink Box lore.
I love the intimacy of this film. Filmmaker Jonathan Harris describes an unexpected moment:
"For someone like Dolores, who was doing porn for the first time, she definitely felt like a changed person immediately after her scene on set. That morning, she was full of confidence and bravado, and after her orgasm scene a much more human, fragile side of her emerged.
I love when a photograph captures a true moment of sensuality, humor, and celebration.
This is my new favorite Bettie Page pic.
We've been working with Clitoraid the group behind International Clitoris Awareness Week for several years. They connected with Dr. Marci Bowers and pay for women who suffered FGM to have restorative surgery. We provide the materials to educate these women on stimulating their bodies and possibly reaching orgasm for the first time in their lives.
Well HuffPost picked up International Clit Week and even SNL covered it:
Experimental pop musician Grimes took to Tumblr to share her thoughts on misogyny in the music industry. This is exactly how I felt as a young attorney when older male attorneys would offer to "help me out":
"I'm tired of men who aren't professional or even accomplished musicians continually offering to 'help me out' (without being asked), as if i did this by accident and I'm gonna flounder without them. or as if the fact that I'm a woman makes me incapable of using technology. I have never seen this kind of thing happen to any of my male peers."
I've always felt that the Catholic Church was a bit of a bully.
The Borgias has confirmed most of my suspicions but recent events in Ireland have solidified my wholehearted belief in the separation of church and state.
Irish Prime Minister Enda Kenny scheduled a vote on Ireland's new abortion law. The Catholic Church threatened to excommunicate him - that means his soul would rot in hell for eternity - if he went through with it. Here's his apt response:
I love this image. For me, stretchmarks are the battle scars of womanhood. Imagine if they were perceived as signs of courage like scars on a man's body.
There's nothing more courageous that carrying a child and giving birth. Photo: jadebeall.com
We're updating Betty's memoir. She's added one last chapter - we're including more photos and re-releasing it end of summer.
I didn't think to say in the preface that all the pictures (like this one) included in the book are of Betty. Everyone asks who's the model in this photo: it's Betty Fucking Dodson.
After being held captive for 10 years, Amanda Berry and two other young women are finally free. They were kidnapped by three brothers and held against their will, chained in the basement of an average suburban home in Ohio.
Just like Jaycee Duggard, Amanda gave birth to a daughter during her captivity. Amanda's mother died before knowing that her daughter was in fact alive.
This kind of craziness makes me question what's wrong with our culture. It feels like every time you turn around they find some young girl chained in a basement as a sex slave. WTF?
Elizabeth Smart - another young woman snatched from her bus stop and held captive for years - made some powerful points during her speech at Johns Hopkins human trafficing forum:
After Jincey invited us to the Box to watch Buck Angel's performance, I knew that she had to take a bodysex workshop. Even porn producers suffer from body shame and sexual guilt.
Having her in the circle just felt right - and her blog post for HuffPost made me smile:
"The acute self-consciousness triggered by watching Jonathan's movie was completely swept away this weekend after I participated in Carlin Ross and Betty Dodson's legendary "Bodysex" workshop.
I suffer from overthinking. I can be very shy. But let me tell you: Your inhibitions drop very quickly when you're sitting on the floor naked, eating a macadamia-nut cookie while looking point-blank at nine women's inner labia.
I finally found myself, the person inside my skin.
Do my eyes deceive me or is that a plus-size model on the cover of Elle Quebec?
Justine Legault is 5ft 9in and a size 14...I can't believe that her thick thighs are front and center. Beautiful:
"At my first photo shoot, I remember hearing the photographer call my agent on the phone and say, "Oh my god! We've got something here!", Justine shared.
And after her career began to take off, Miss Legault moved from Quebec to New York, where she now lives and is represented by Muse NYC.
After a wonderful weekend healing body shame, I'm slapped across the face with a Michigan mom's allegation that Anne Frank's diary is pornographic and should be removed from school libraries.
What's crazy is that Anne was writing about having sex (they still haven't published the parts of her diary where she talks about fantasizing about women) or even masturbating. She was writing about her vulva:
"Until I was 11 or 12, I didn't realise there was a second set of labia on the inside [of the vagina], though you couldn't see them. What's even funnier is that I thought urine came out of the clitoris. I asked Mother one time what that little bump was, and she said she didn't know. She can really play dumb when she wants to!"
This is a picture of Barbette - an acrobat, drag queen and contemporary of Man Ray, Jean Cocteau, Josephine Baker, and Picasso.
Barbette was born Vander Clyde Broadway in Round Rock, Texas in 1899. After learning how to walk on the tightrope as a part of the World Famous Alfaretta Sisters act, Barbette began cross-dressing.
After touring with Vaudeville shows around the nation, he moved to Paris and quickly became popular. Barbette was famous for taking his wig off at the end of the act and breaking the illusion to gasps and awes.
Would have loved to see Barbette perform.
The Monday after a bodysex worskhop weekend is always a mixture of exhilaration and exhaustion. There's just so many beautiful visuals, smells, and sounds - transcendent moments and deep transformation that it can be alot to process. This group was magical.
Usually, we don't know any of the women who'll be in the circle. They book over email and we never know who's going to walk through the door. But this time, we knew several women in the group. Somehow that had me a bit more on edge because I wanted everyone to have a positive experience. I guess there was a certain sense of performance anxiety.