The young girl in this picture was pulled out of class because she violated the school dress code in Kentucky by showing her collarbones. Upworthy has more pictures of girls pulled out of class and humiliated while missing valuable class time waiting for their parents to come down to school. From Portland to Kentucky, it's an every day occurrence.
When we hear about young girls getting escorted down to the principle's office for improper dress, we think of miniskirts and tube tops (all of which were fine in the 70's). Almost every school in America has a dress code that's solely enforced against girls. There's something so sick about adults looking young girls up and down and deciding that a collarbone or the outline of a calf are obscene.
As a young girl growing up in a religious cult, I know that this sort of blame-the-girl protect-our-boys mentality shifts responsibility for sex away from boys and on to girls perpetuating the rape culture. I was walked out of class because I hadn't buttoned the top button on my oxford shirt. It cut into my neck and I wasn't even exposing my full collarbone. Just that one button revealing an inch of skin was too much for the boys. The adults had to step in...humiliate me...I learned nothing in school that day except that I was dirty.
Dress codes should be applied uniformly to both genders. And I know that girls dressing in comfortable, average clothing isn't tempting boys into sex. Kids are programmed to seek sex play to keep our species on the planet. Instead of obsessing on girls why not have conversations about consent, give them a context for pornography, and treat them as equal human beings?
These are the conversations I will have with my son. He will understand that he alone is responsible for his actions. He will accept girls as equal people with sexual agency. Sex will be sacred. Sex will be safe. Sex will be fun with whomever he decides to share himself.