This 9-Year-Olds Diary Entry on Sex Says it All

Wed, 07/02/2014 - 10:53
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This 9-year-olds diary entry on what sex is says so much about what's missing in sex education today. 

Some people like it - yes.  Some people do it "over and over again" - yes.  But the part of some people getting sick from sex is so tragic.  Why we scare children about something so beautiful is beyond me.     

Editor in Chief & Keeper of All Things Betty Dodson

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First Books for Children About Bodies

Sun, 08/17/2014 - 19:29
Pamelucky (not verified)

I have a 5 year old son and a 3 year old daughter.  I want to raise them to be comfortable in their bodies, expressive, open, healthy beings.  Any suggestions about first books about bodies? Masturbation? Siblings and boundaries?  Thanks for any help you can give!

'The Facts of Love: Living, loving, and growing up'

Mon, 08/18/2014 - 13:27

This was a book published in the late 1970s by Alex and Jane Comfort (of 'The Joy of Sex'). It's somewhat dated now, but as I recall it was ahead of its time. It used frank but simple language to de-mystify and normalize sex, masturbation, puberty, and 'growing up'. The book had tasteful, realistic drawings (rather than photographs) to illustrate what our bodies look like as they progress from childhood to adulthood. It's definitely hetero-normative and it's condescending and limited about male sexuality, but in its day it was a rare example of sanity and sex-positivity. It's probably long out of print and was mainly aimed at children old enough to read, but perhaps if you look it up you may find information about both it and similar, more recent volumes. Best of luck.

First Books

Mon, 08/18/2014 - 15:02

For a basic cartoon book that is joyful, try Babette Cole "Mummy Laid an Egg"

In general we found answering questions earlier rather than later helps, as well as being straightforward and factual wherever possible. If it's too early, it will just pass straight over their heads anyway.

One of the delights I remember is my youngest daughter standing up in the middle of Mathew Bourne's Swan lake (all the swans are men) having an argument with her 6 year old friend Mathew and indignant that "Ofcourse men can fall in love and marry each other.  Don't be silly Matty!"

Thankfully it was a matinee and the people around us chose to be amused.