"You're Going to Get Old Now"

Wed, 02/19/2014 - 09:13
Submitted by Carlin Ross

In her latest interview with Shape magazine, Sharon Stone opened up about the aging process with the kind of honesty you rarely hear from a celebrity:

"It hasn't been easy. There was a point in my 40s where I went into the bathroom with a bottle of wine, locked the door, and said, "I'm not coming out until I can totally accept the way I look right now.

And I examined my face in the magnifying mirror, and I looked at my body, and I cried and cried and cried. Then I said to myself, "You're going to get old now. How do you want to do that?"

I always wonder what it feels like to be a Hollywood sex siren like Sharon Stone...to do a film like Basic Instinct where you captivate the world with your beauty and sexuality - then go back to regular life. A few years go by and you don't look the same way you used to but you have these powerful images of your younger self haunting you.

You have to accept your older self. And I love her line, "how do you want to do that?" Life is too short to chase beauty.

Editor in Chief & Keeper of All Things Betty Dodson

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Bette Davis nailed it : "Growing old ain't for sissies."

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Wed, 02/19/2014 - 10:52
Betty Dodson

Wait til you hit your eighties (if you're lucky and love life). My mantra goes like this...."I can still see, talk, walk, write, think, speak, eat, shit and hear. My orgasms are fewer but still meaningful. I have adjusted to wearing glasses, dentures, hip replacement, hearing aids and a few extra aches and pains. Overall, I'm enjoying life immensely in my elder self. I'm grateful to be alive!

Growing older (not old)

Wed, 02/19/2014 - 13:22
Magentae Now (not verified)

was at 40 a conscious decision I well remember 13 years later. When you have the guts.
Inwardly I knew that I was on the verge of crucial mental, emotional and physical changes. It turned out this period of my life became THE caesura of formidable seize, and beyond my knowledge.

One of the things I decided was that I wanted to see my beautiful, waving chestnut hair, which I was born with and had never dyed, change colour. Not going to dye my hair would conincide with the inner changes I would embrace, however challenging and joyous they would going to be. My hair would be my noticible canvas of the transition of becoming myself.
The second was that I was going to become sexual, and to have very good first-time partnersex.

The dedication of work on self never stops. Maintaining curious towards life not only generates positive energy, but it also keeps the reading glasses away, that is to say up till now (and with the daily practice of W.H. Bates' method for better eyesight without a pair of spectacles).  

No Sisterhood Among Women. :(

Wed, 02/19/2014 - 13:42

I think I came to terms with aging early on in life. I figured in this country where the media focuses on sex and youth, and our status as women equated with our ability to attract...a close second demand is being housewives, rearing children...while still looking sexy for our men. Men are force fed movie star beauty, gorgeous models in every magazine, Playboy as the standard, and pornography as the guidelines for sex. If we women do not fulfill the bill, there are hosts of massage parlors, prostitutes, and hookers. And unfortunately, there is not enough sisterhood between women so that your best friend might not take away your man from you. We are a treacherous lot sometimes.

Women have to fall gracefully into our given shells, if you don't want to seek plastic surgery. We are taught from birth that our value as beautiful sexpots is not going to take us for the long haul. I guess it must be even harder for those in Hollywood chasing after youth and beauty. I know I cringe when I see a man of 60 with a 25 year old girl, but not surprised given our history and appetites for the consumption of youth and beauty.

Women really need to readjust, love ourselves and have true sisterhood. Women are unfortunately unkind to other women, rather than being supportive and uplifting. Many are jealous of their girlfriends, of what they may possess materially, who they have as a boyfriend, what car they drive...it goes on and on. Unless we form a true love of self and love of our sisters, it's going to be one catty cutthroat affair....but that is just my humble opinion.

Diversity, and we don't just have sex with our eyeballs

Thu, 02/20/2014 - 06:44
Jake E

ORS if people are consenting adults I don't cringe when I see people of different ages together. It's their sexuality and their choice, wether they're old man, young woman, old woman, young man or sex worker and client.

There's an ecology of diferent Libido's and they can sometimes be cruely selective, but we don't have to be. Either to other people or ourselves. I think we just have to value the wonderful diversity of sexual attraction rather than convincing ourselves that one narrow definition of sex and sexuality  is "normal". Because healthy genetics needs diversity of shape, looks, experience, compasion, empathy, strength, If all the individuals in a species have the same qualities and flaws (as we're told we should aspire too) that species in vulnerable.

Growing older like Betty Dodson

Thu, 02/20/2014 - 11:03

Betty is a role model for me of successful aging. She lives an active life, engaged with the world and with doing what's important to her and gives her life meaning. She keeps on enjoying the good things about being alive despite the difficulties and losses we all face as we grow older. A person could do a lot worse than emulate Dr Betty.

Thank you Patrick. I'm honored by your comment.

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Fri, 02/21/2014 - 12:06
Betty Dodson

When things get really tough, I just consider the alternative, and so far I say, "No thanks!"  Death will be fully embraced when that time comes. It will be my final orgasm.


Fri, 02/21/2014 - 12:41

Death comes to us all, but I hope it's a long way away from you and from the others doing good in the world.


Mon, 02/24/2014 - 07:28

Personally, I think Sharon Stone is an inspiration.  I'm a middle aged (yes, I'm aiming for 100) man with MS and to remain positive and keep my spirits up I focus on the fact I can still work, still eat, still drink and still cum.  If any one of those things fall away, there are still the rest and if they all fall away I'll find something new. 

Betty you are a beautiful lady who has inspired and helped countless numbers of women and men.  You are simply wonderful and the world owes you a debt of gratitude.  Keep on cumming.

I'm 31 and it's hard already.

Thu, 04/10/2014 - 06:37
La Karott (not verified)

I'm 31 and it's hard already. "images of your younger self haunting you", that's it. I'm angry with that but it's like I can't help.
I succeeded not comparing me with the others, now I'm comparing me to...myself. Or let's say my former-physical-self. So stupid...