I Finally Had an Orgasm By Rubbing My Clit Not Squeezing My Legs

Sun, 06/30/2013 - 09:37
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Saw this comment posted by happybrowngirl...makes it all worth it:

Dear Dr. Betty,

Thank you sooooooo much for providing this helpful (and free!) information on the web. Like T, I'm a teenager (18) who has been masturbating this way since I was 2 or 3. My mom laughingly told me that she saw me doing it many times as a toddler, furiously squeezing my legs together and holding my breath....She never put it into my mind though that this was something to be ashamed of.

I'm thankful I never felt bad about taking care of my own sexual needs in this way. I always thought I was the only one who got off this way until being reassured by the other women on this site that I'm not alone! Like many others, I can vouch for the fact that the squeezing method of masturbation definitely makes study time a lot more fun, without even drawing attention to myself in the library.

Although I'm a virgin who's had no real experience with a significant other (I'm a single, busy college student, and quite happy that way), I wanted to see if I could experiment with direct clitoral stimulation and "upgrade my orgasm" for myself.

You're right, it definitely doesn't come immediately. After several attempts over the past few months, I finally achieved orgasm (or at least the satisfying release I couldn't get earlier) through rubbing my clit vigorously and holding an erotic image in my head, after first masturbating to orgasm once in my normal way. I didn't give myself much of a refractory period after the first orgasm, so I think it helped not to have to start "at the bottom of the hill" if that makes any sense. I started out doing the PC contractions you suggested, but once my finger got into the rhythm, I kinda forgot...haha.

I'm excited to keep experimenting! My next goal will be adding vaginal penetration. Thanks again for your advice and this awesome site!!

P.S.: I will admit, my hand did get a bit tired from all the rubbing. If I can get my hands on one, would you suggest getting a small clitoral vibrator at my age?

Editor in Chief & Keeper of All Things Betty Dodson

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Update

Sat, 09/21/2013 - 00:38
happybrowngirl (not verified)

Since I posted this, believe you me I've been going at it like crazy. I've perfected my technique and the speed and strokes I like. I find that my orgasms this way are much more powerful than when I squeeze my legs together (although I do go back to the old way every once in a while, such as when I need to masturbate quietly), and I've been able to achieve multiple orgasms (my record so far is 4!!). Thanks again for the advice.