Republished from Blikk.no:
Hallelujah Gathering on Masturbation
Betty Dodson took Pride House by storm, to put it mildly, when she had a lecture on masturbation and the vulva on Saturday.
The sexologist, Betty Dodson, and her colleague, Carlin Ross, are known by many Norwegians from the series “Trekant”, where they were responsible to put the first uncensored female orgasm on Norwegian television.
Naturely, there were great expectations and quite a lot of nerves when Dodson and Ross were invited to the orgasm and masturbation course “Putting the Vulva on the Map”. The Amalie Skram-auditorium at Litteraturhuset was packed with an excited audience. And what a lecture they got. 83-year-old Betty Dodson is light years away from the grand mother with the knitting needles. She is rude, youthful, cocky and gay – and a clear evidence that orgasms keep you young as she tells us about a long life committed to masturbation.
The lecture “Putting the Vulva on the Map” is information like nothing we’ve seen in Norway.
“In the 70’s, I declared that enough is enough!”, Dodson proclaims. “I was done with relationships. I was married once, but the only relationship I feel like nursing now is the one that I have with myself, aaaaaah, she groans”, and is met with laughter and excited applause.
“I don’t want to hear about growing old. It's one of the best things that ever happened to me. For my own part I have a life motto that says: I don’t give a flying fuck. I don’t care what people think about me. It’s called F R E E D O M!”
Betty is well known in the world of sexology, she’s lead the way and put female sexuality on the agenda over the years. She has a Ph.D. from the Institute of Human Sexuality in San Francisco and today she runs her own private practice in New York. Throughout her career, she’s arranged masturbation courses, talked about vulvas, drawn vulvas, written about vulvas and had both male and female sex partners. Through the 60’s in New York, she arranged amazing sex parties with friends and aquaintences who came to her apartment in Manhattan.
“It was lucky that the walls were four feet thick. My god, how much heavy breathing there was. I didn’t make a cent on these parties, or the workshops. But it didn’t matter – I was having the best orgasms possible”, Dodson says.
But why did people gather up for Pride House this Saturday? Is it because they can’t orgasm? No, Dodson has another mission. She tells us that until she was 36, she thought she was deformed “down there”.
“I was an avid masturbator from the age of 5. I humped my teddy bear, I touched myself, I humped my pillow. I humped anything I could get my hands on. My mother never interfered. She believed masturbation was a healthy activity for children”, Dodson says and takes a aim at the American school system which she sees as fearful of sexuality.
“When I was 35 years old and divorced my new boyfriend went down on me to do oral sex. I didn’t like it. Why? Because I thought my genitals were deformed. I have long dangling inner lips and I thought they looked like those things that hang down from a chicken’s neck. Not like porn where all the vulvas are sculptured.”
Dodson tells us that she had an idea of why her genitals had turned out like this.
“I had dangling inner lips because I’d stretched them from too much childhood masturbation. That’s what I thought! I was sure that God had punished me. I started praying and I promised never to masturbate again if only he would fix it”. My boyfriend tried to calm me down: “You have a beautiful cunt,” he said. Oh, I didn’t like that word. But he didn’t yield and wanted to take a closer look. I was terrified and burst into tear!”
Betty Dodson is agitated now.
“The same thing happens today. Every single day there are women around the world who think they are genitally deformed. That something’s wrong with them.”
Dodson decided to do something about it. She started drawing cunts. In all shapes and sizes. Just as different as men’s penises.
“And it’s something we’re not taught throughout our childhood. Penises are hanging on the outside – and doctors know “everything” about penises. But what do they actually know about viulvas? Very little I’m afraid.”
Colleague, Carlin Ross, puts on a slide show that shows Dodson’s slides and drawings of vulvas.
“Women and men, girls and boys get their sexual education from porn. It’s unbelievable. We can’t let porn be the only source of information. The schools must start educatiing our children about sex. Porn can be great for masturbation but it’s entertainment largely for men. We are not all porn models”, Dodson shouts out and receives big applause.
There will be no orgasms from the scene this Saturday, but the audience sucked up all of Dodson’s experiences and encouragements – whether she succeeded in putting the vulva on the map at Pride House is beyond any doubt.
Blikk Nett got a hold of three people from the audience to hear if they were inspired and if they learned something new.
Marte Oeyen, 20, Alta
“It was really exciting and informative in many ways. I didn’t know what to expect, but I learned that we are all different and how that is a good thing. It was great actually. I wasn’t chocked – it was more liberating actually.”
Kim Stian Tjelta Ellingsen, 20, Stavanger
“As gay I used to feel really stupid when people were talking about the female vulva. I knew a little or nothing. But I was scared before the lecture. That it would be public masturbation, but that’s not what happened. I talked a little about the female body and sexuality with friends, both gay and lesbian. Now I got to see how different woman look “down there” and how big the difference it. I had no idea.”
Lindis Forren, 20, Oslo
“I’m part of “Skeivt students’ forum” and we arranged the debate “Young, horny and insecure” about sexual knowledge and it fit in very well to have Betty Dodson be part of it. What is so great about Dodson is that she’s relaxed and informative. When she talks it’s neither intimidating nor embarrassing. That’s the biggest problem when it comes to sexual education. What we learned at this lecture, I’ve never heard at my school. I especially liked the way she named the different vulvas – that it was presented as a work of art. Betty Dodson was an eye-opener and I was really inspired to be more open about these things. Despite the fact that Norway has come a long way when it comes to equal rights and things like that, it’s still dangerous to talked about sexuality, and maybe even more so female sexuality. There we have quite a lot to catch up on.”