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Let me start off by saying that I am a man and I read your site religiously. I am subscribed to your RSS feed and check anxiously throughout the day awaiting more of your profound words of wisdom. Ok moving past the flattery. ;)
I’m 31 and have been sexually active since my late teens. I’ve only been with 3 people in my life so my experience is not extensive but I have had a lot of sex with the people I have been with. All have been long term relationships. About a year and a half ago my wife and I realized that we weren’t the most sexually compatible. And it was frustrating for both of us and started creating distance. I wanted it and she didn’t, the less she wanted it the more I did. You know the story. Well I decided to delve into the world of Tantra in hopes of saving our sexual relationship and possibly our marriage.
I VERY VERY quickly realized that I had absolutely no clue what I was doing or how to please a woman. That was just the beginning of the healing for both of us. I realized, again very quickly, that I was having sex like a man and like most men that was all I knew, having gained most of my “tips” from porn and men’s magazines. It’s painful to say but the average man is clueless. Then I found your website and HALLELUJAH let the pleasure begin.
I learned that if you want to know how to love, and please a woman, us men HAVE TO let me stress that again HAVE TO read material written BY WOMEN, FOR WOMEN, ABOUT WOMEN if we want to have any hope of completely pleasing and satisfying you beautifully complicated creatures. I have read nearly every article on your site and watched nearly every video.
It has brought an intimacy, closeness, and deep connection between my wife and I that neither one of us have ever experienced, nor did we think was possible. I have learned so much from you, Carlin, and the other bloggers I cannot even begin to put it into words. I have come to realize that there is such a profound disconnect between men and women that for most people they will never understand what they are missing. The sexual repression of both genders, especially women is profound. I cannot help but see it every day and all around me. I never realized nor understood it until now.
I am the father of 2 girls and have given many thanks that I found your site before they were very old (my girls are 1 and 7 years old). I now know the things NOT to do when raising them as sexual human beings. And it is all thanks to you. I (forgive the term) preach about your material to anyone who will listen, especially men. Sadly, most men don’t want to hear it and ignore it, and often laugh or mock me. I don’t care it’s their loss. But when I begin I usually have the woman’s undivided attention, often followed by many questions. Usually it’s “can you talk to my man” lol.
Ok, I’m getting long winded now. Let me close by saying thank you thank you thank you for creating your site and blasting liberation across the web!!! Please keep it up so that, hopefully other men can be saved and can help liberate themselves and their woman just as you have helped me and I have helped my wife. Thank you for everything! Keep up that amazing work. Finally, you are AWESOME,