It isn't often that you're threatened with legal action for embedding someone's youtube clip on your site. Yesterday, I got a nasty email from the production company who produced Face - the documentary on beautifulagony.com.
Let me say that I love Beautifiul Agony. It's a wonderful site that includes video clips of real people masturbating to orgasm. There's no nudity. The camera catches each person masturbating from the shoulders up. It's refreshing to see real orgasms.
Liandra's entree into erotica started with Beautiful Agony. She posted the clips to their doc as part of her D&R blog. Betty loved the film. Then I got that nasty email. They alleged that we had engaged in some sort of "illegal" behavior and if we didn't remove the clips we'd face legal action. WTF! Then, Liandra shot me an email on facebook letting me know that things were a buzz. The row began.
My first instinct as an attorney was that something was up. I explained that if someone had illegally posted their film to youtube to contact youtube - if they didn't want sharing enabled on their clip then they could change their settings. It was so rude that I ended my email with a "go fuck yourself". I really resent it when people try to strong arm you. Why not simply ask me to take it down? Threatening me with legal action just makes me push back. I pushed back.
Several emails went back and forth. I couldn't understand why this production company had such a hard on for us. They questioned whether or not I'm an attorney and stated that they'd reference my emails in lectures. I'm not sure what sort of lectures they were talking about but I stand by my statements. I have nothing to hide.
Then it hit me. They don't want to disable sharing on youtube because they want sites to link to their film - they just don't want our site linking to it. Ouch. That hurt. How could producers of a film on masturbation not get who Betty Dodson is and how great our site is to promote their film?
Liandra let me know that the film's creator and the women behind beautifulagony.com had no problem with their film being associated with our site. How could they?
It's still shocking when we get dropped from google search for having too many "sex" keywords, when ad networks call us "porn", when we're told we can't use the word "clitoris" on television, and when rinky dink production companies think they're too good for Betty Dodson. They just don't get it.
Sex information is still scary shit to most people. We keep perpetuating sexual myths as our STD rates and teen pregnancy rates climb higher and higher. 1 in 2 marriages fail - could it be that there's a problem in the bedroom? Maybe if we knew more about our bodies and how to be intimate and bond with our partners our relationships would be stronger.
But some people do get it. I emailed stumbleupon when they wouldn't list our site. I challenged them to check out D&R and tell me that it was porn and that they needed a new category for sex information. They agreed. And when I applied to kickstarter to certify our documentary on Betty's Bodysex Groups I crossed my fingers and accepted that it probably wouldn't be ceritified. Our project was certified. They got it.
Betty devoted the last 45 years of her life to sex education and liberating female sexuality. Right here, right now I'm devoting my life to furthering Betty's work. I don't care how many nasty emails I get from sexually repressed self righteous assholes. I won't stop until sex ed is in every school, intentional motherhood is the norm, and every woman is orgasmic.
And if you get in my way - you can go fuck yourself!